Makhalidwe anayi okhalira moyo wosasangalala ndi okondedwa

Makhalidwe anayi okhalira moyo wosasangalala ndi okondedwa

Kuunikira zolakwa zosavuta komanso zodziwika bwino zomwe maanja ena amapanga kungathandize kudziwitsa anthu komanso kukonza maubwenzi ndi okondedwa awo. Malinga ndi katswiri wodziwa za chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi mabanja, Stephen Ing m’nkhani yofalitsidwa ndi Psychology Today, kusamalira ndi kuteteza maubwenzi a m’banja kumafuna kuzindikira zolakwa zingapo zofala zimene ziri zosavuta kuzipeŵa kuonetsetsa kuti mumathera nthaŵi yosangalatsa ndi kukhala moyo wosangalala. moyo wachimwemwe.

1. Zolakalaka zosatheka

Okwatirana ena amapanga cholakwika chofala kukokomeza ziyembekezo zawo ndipo nthawi zonse amafuna kuti winayo akhale wopambana pa chilichonse, mwachitsanzo, woyenerera, wochenjera, woganiza bwino, wauzimu ndi wamalingaliro. Eng akulangiza kuti ayenera (a) kuvomereza kuti anasankha munthu wolakwika kukhala wokwatirana naye kapena (b) kuchita zinthu moyenerera ndi mwamuna wake ndi kuphunzira kum’konda chifukwa cha mmene alili, ndi kuzolowera kuchita zimene angathe.

2. Chofanizira

Mabanja ena amalakwitsa chinthu china koma chachikulu chifukwa chosakhutitsidwa pokhapokha ngati mnzawoyo ali ndi chifaniziro chenicheni cha mmene akumvera, maganizo awo, zikhumbo zake, ndale kapena zamasewera. Kukhala ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wofanana kungakhale kosiyana kwambiri ndi choonadi. Maanja akuyenera kudziwa kuti ali paubwenzi wophatikizana, zomwe zikutanthauza kuyesa kupeza madera ogwirizana, osaphatikizika kapena ofanana amphamvu, kuthekera, ndi chidwi.

3. Kufunafuna ungwiro

Mabanja ena amafunafuna ungwiro m'makhalidwe awo ndi khalidwe la mnzawo wa moyo, pamene kupitiriza kufunafuna ungwiro kumabweretsa kumverera kokakamizika ndi kulemedwa, zomwe zimayambitsa chisokonezo kapena kukhumudwa ndi kulephera kwa maubwenzi. Akatswiri amalangiza kuti sibwino kuti munthu ndi mnzake akhale ndi zolakwika zina zosafunikira, ndipo wina ndi mnzake aziona kuti amamukonda ndikumuvomereza momwe alili popanda kunamizira kapena kunamizira.

4. Kusalola ndi kuwononga maubwenzi akunja

Si zachilendo kuti maanja azitchulana kuti “bwenzi lapamtima” m’moyo. Ngakhale kuti ndi bwino kuti mwamuna akhale bwenzi lapamtima la mkazi wake, m’pofunikanso kulimbikitsa ubwenzi wake ndi akazi ogwira nawo ntchito, anansi ake, ndi achibale ake aakazi. Kuchitira nsanje mwamuna kapena mkazi kukhala ndi mabwenzi ena ndiko kudziwononga, chifukwa anthu omwe ali ndi mabwenzi olimba ndi odalirika amakhala okondwa, osinthika, ndi okhudzidwa ndi mbali zina za moyo wawo.

Khalani ndi moyo

Ngati cholinga cha munthu ndicho kupanga banja lachimwemwe limene maunansi awo ngozikidwa pa maziko olimba a chikondi, ulemu ndi kumvetsetsana, ndiye kuti ayenera kupanga mikhalidwe ndi malo amene mnzake wa moyo wake amadzimva kukhala wosungika, wosungika ndi wokhazikika chifukwa chakuti iye amachita ndi chibadwa chake m’moyo. dongosolo lachilengedwe ndi cholinga chozikidwa pakuvomereza winayo momwe alili.