How do you overcome betrayal with minimal losses?
How do you overcome betrayal with minimal losses?
How do you overcome betrayal with minimal losses?
Separate the facts from the feelings
We have the right to get angry, but we do not have the right to confuse our perceptions and feelings with the real reasons behind the situation, so it is necessary to reflect on the logical reasons for the event that ended up letting us down in the end, regardless of our feelings about the matter.
Accept your feelings
When you feel disappointed, sympathize with yourself. It is true that after the first step, you know the real reasons behind the disappointment, and whether the reasons are convincing for you or not, the next step is to sympathize with yourself, but do not feel sorry for it. In short, you need to relax, meditate, and focus on the next. Embrace your feelings of frustration, sadness, and anger, but don't let them drive you.
Connect with others
The worst thing that can happen after feeling traumatized towards others is to stop communicating with everyone, given that you will experience the same experience again. Not everyone is the same, and in many times a human relationship ends to start another more beautiful one, remember that well.
Stay away from isolation
Self-isolation and isolation will not prevent sad stories, but it will prevent you from life. I say that about a real experience, that bubble that you will surround yourself with in the hope of escaping from similar experiences that will lead you to a deadly loneliness, that will not leave you time to enjoy something of note, not even to start. Better new relationships.
Stop swearing
It is good for you to express your feelings freely and to talk about the matter until you get rid of it, but this is for a short time and with the aim of recovery. The bad thing is that as long as you continue to be angry and talk about the hero of the story of betrayal in your sessions and conversations, you have not yet overcome the matter. Stop talking about the matter and rumination. Feelings every time, put a point and start from the first line.
Commit to yourself
Once you make the decision to put it on the sidelines of life, do so. Life has enough trouble and hurt to live with extra burdens on our shoulders thinking about who let us down and who abandoned us. Choose to forgive and move on.
Reward yourself
It is heroism to win for yourself and not burden it with what it has no power to bear. That heroism requires space for yourself to celebrate victory in the way that makes you happy. Always remember that you are making an effort and trying, and you did not stop or bow in front of an abusive experience. You went through it, and as much as possible, celebrate and enjoy your time, you are better for yourself than for others.
Create your space
You have nothing to lose, maybe nothing will hurt you as much as it hurt you before, this gives you the right to create your own space and set your sane conditions so that it does not happen again, it is okay to have your space, go gracefully and happily and choose more precisely those who deserve your trust In the future.