What are the foundations of successful and sound education? How do you protect your children from the corruption of society?

It is the matter that concerns every mother and father, so you see every mother complaining and fearing that her young children will be swept away by the prevailing trend of moral decay, and you see every father looking in books for instructions and instructions for the foundations of sound education, so what is the key to successful education and is it really an art that only the gifted can understand.

One of the most important rights of a child on his parents is that he obtain a sound upbringing that qualifies him to build his life and future on sound foundations that make him a useful person first for himself and for his country. An educable mind. There is no doubt that we humans are distinguished from other creatures by the ability to distinguish between harmful and beneficial. The good and the bad. Therefore, when we have offspring, we try with all our ability to raise our sons and daughters to be good in themselves and in their society.
And because the concept of proper education differs from one person to another, and therefore some children are exposed to wrong judgmental education, and mostly depends on wrong social habits or a misunderstanding of effective methods of education, so we see many children have major educational problems in their lives and often affect their success in their practical and social lives, and their parents complain Their presence in their children without knowing that they are the reason for this through the methods they followed in their upbringing.

One of the most important of these educational errors (exclusion). For example, a father silences his son when he speaks or participates in a conversation in the presence of a guest who inspired the house among those who are older than him. Perhaps this is considered a lack of literature and this wrong educational behavior. The child has a weak personality that is unable to exercise his right to participate and debate effectively, which causes the child’s personal capabilities and therefore life to be weakened. This method may also cause the child to raise isolationism and weaken his self-confidence due to his feeling of exclusion. Therefore, it is important to give the opportunity to participate in the conversation and express his opinion with guidance in a manner that is free of slander in case the reasonable limits of the father are exceeded. Educators confirm that the child's participation in conversations among adults generates a great deal of confidence and enriches him with a great idea of ​​culture. Among the most important mistakes in raising children: ((oscillation in the decision)) inside the house between the mother and father (yes, no) when he asks the father for something and says to him “no” and the mother (“yes”). This vacillation generates in the child a habit of urgency because He knows he will get what he wants and they have to wait and push the child to exercise his right in the process of persuasion, which helps to develop his abilities in sound discussion and respect for the other opinion. And insecurity in coexisting with others outside the home, and thus cause introversion to be concentrated in his personality. The intense discussions between (father and mother), if they take place in front of the children’s sight and hearing, create a kind of fear and anxiety over the coexistence between (father and mother), who are the nest of safety for them.
Therefore, discussions in front of the children's eyes and ears should be avoided. If this is done, the parents must explain to the children that what happened naturally will not affect their relationship. Finally, one of the most important mistakes in raising children is: Do not rely on servants to guide and educate them, and to determine the food system without accountability and careful follow-up. Many of the children who were raised among servants lost the Islamic education and tenderness from the patriarchal and family community, so they became suffering from a lot of dispersal and may deny their community and family. Therefore, it is the duty of the (father and mother). Those who depend on the help servants to raise their children because they are busy in their jobs, allocating some time to follow up the lives of their children, at least, will reveal to them many educational errors imported through the servants.

The opening of dialogue with the children on the part of the parents; Giving children the opportunity to talk and praise their words; give to dialogue
A special flavor and an atmosphere of love and self-confidence; This is important, as we sometimes find today; some young people
They are unable to sit with strangers; or on occasions, and even if they sit down, they do not speak; Not because they don't want to talk, but they can't talk. Because of psychological crises they feel, such as fear and turmoil, and this leaves deep psychological bruises in the psyche of the young man
This is the result of things that the child lived in when he was young; such as oppression and not giving him the opportunity to speak; and deliver his idea
Only repression and offensive remarks that injure his psyche and make him escape from family meetings because if he sits down, he will not say anything.
If he speaks, no one will hear him. Only it will deepen the pain in itself; This is what makes a child when he grows up and becomes a young man
escapes from family gatherings; or social and tends to be lonely and suspicious; In himself and in his ability to work
It destroys self-confidence completely as the days go by; Unless this defect is quickly corrected and the young man is given freedom inside the house; And work to strengthen himself and his own capabilities

The child should also be taught how to respect and be subject to the family system and the child should be trained on the importance of following the prevailing rules in the home and adhering to the good family customs and traditions so that he deals with others in a polite manner and realizes the limits of his freedom without harming the freedoms of others and respecting their desires and that he grows up on obedience, not disobedience. Independence to express himself and express his opinion so that it is
A positive role in the environment surrounding him when he grows up

Education scholars advise that the child’s upbringing should be characterized by firmness, seriousness, logicality, steadfastness and meekness, emphasizing the need for the child to feel love, security and safety from all those around him, and this leaves the best impact on his emotional maturity when he becomes a young man who is influenced and influenced by those around him. In the future

Parents must be wise, patient and persevering, and not struggle to punish the child.
The method of raising children must be flexible and adaptive according to the needs of each child separately. There is no doubt that education based on love, tenderness, encouragement and appreciation to acquire the ability to respond to the systems followed bears good fruits in the different stages of life