E ʻike i kona aloha iā ʻoe ma o kona mau maka

• ʻO nā hōʻailona o ke aloha a i ʻole ka mahalo i nā maka, ka ʻālohilohi o nā maka: Inā ʻoe e nānā i ke kanaka āu i aloha ai a ʻike i kona mau maka e ʻālohilohi ana i kou hele ʻana, he hōʻike kēia o ke aloha a mahalo paha, a ʻo ke kumu o ka pane ʻana o ke kino kanaka. ka mahalo a me ke aloha, no laila e ʻoi aʻe ka mākū o nā maka, a ʻike ʻia nā maka me he mea lā, ke nānā aku nei ʻoe i nā hiʻohiʻona o kāu mea aloha e like me kēia, pono ʻoe e ʻimi i nā hōʻike hou aku o ka manaʻo o ka mea āu i aloha ai iā ia. oe.

• Hoʻokiʻekiʻe i ka kuʻemaka: Ma muli o nā loiloi o ka neʻe ʻana o ke kino a me ka ʻōlelo kino, hoʻāla ke kanaka i kona mau kuʻemaka i ka wā e ʻike ai i kāna mea makemake, a i ʻole e hoʻokiʻekiʻe i kona manaʻo, a i ʻole e huki i kona manaʻo, a no laila e hoʻāla ʻo ia i kona kuʻemaka ke ʻike i ka mea āna i aloha ai a i loaʻa paha. ʻO kekahi mau manaʻo, hiki i kēia hana maʻalahi ke hōʻike iā ʻoe i ka nui o ke aloha a kekahi iā ʻoe.

• ʻO ka nānā ʻana iā ʻoe no ka manawa lōʻihi a i ʻole ka nānā ʻana iā ʻoe: Ua hōʻike ʻia ʻo ka poʻe i aloha i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e nānā nui aʻe i ko lākou mau maka a no ka manawa lōʻihi, ʻoiai ʻo ka poʻe hoihoi ʻole a aloha ʻole paha iā ʻoe. e nana aku ia oe no kekahi manawa, a e nana aku ia oe i kela a me keia mau kekona, o ka mea mahalo a aloha paha, e hoao oia e nana aku ia oe no na manawa loihi, ina ua ike oe i ka nana ana o ka mea aloha ia oe. ʻO kēia hōʻailona paha kekahi o nā hōʻailona ikaika loa e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ana i ke ola ʻana o nā manaʻo i hele aʻe ma mua o ka manaʻo o ka pilina a i ʻole ka pilina mai ke kanaka āu i aloha ai.

• Ke nānā nei iā ʻoe i ka wā e hana ʻakaʻaka ai: ʻO kekahi mea aloha iā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e huki i kou manaʻo i nā mea liʻiliʻi loa, no laila e hoʻāʻo ʻo ia e hana ʻakaʻaka i mea e ʻakaʻaka ai ʻoe a waiho i kahi manaʻo maikaʻi iā ʻoe, a no kēia mea e nānā pololei ʻo ia iā ʻoe i ka wā e hana ʻakaʻaka ai. a ʻike ʻo ia i kou pane ʻana i kāna mea e hana ai, a ma kahi ʻōlelo akaka, ʻoi aku ka hoihoi o ka mea aloha iā ʻoe ʻOi aku me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me ʻoe, a ua hōʻike ʻo psychology i ka nānā ʻana i nā maka o kahi kanaka i mua ou. Hiki ke alakaʻi i ka hoihoi. Ke nānā ʻoe i kekahi kanaka no ka manawa lōʻihi, hoʻokuʻu ke kino i nā hormones kuleana no ka huki ʻana i ke kino.

• O na haumana i hoopalahalahaia: Ua akea ka maka o ka maka i mua o kou alo ina he aloha ia oe, no laila, ua akea ka maka o ka maka, a he hana maoli no ia o ke kino i ka wahine a me na kane.

ʻO ke kāne aloha ke nānā mau i ka wahine āna i aloha ai a nānā pono iā ia me ka manaʻo ʻole, a makemake ʻo ia e nānā pololei i kona mau maka, inā ʻike ʻoe i ke kāne, e ʻike ʻoe ua aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe. Ke aloha ke kāne, lawe ʻo ia i kāna mea aloha i nā mea a pau āna e makemake ai me ka noi ʻole ʻana iā ia, e kāhāhā iā ia i nā mea a pau e hauʻoli ai ʻo ia, e hāʻawi iā ia i kāna mau pono a pau iā ia iho, a e hoʻopaʻa iā ia i kahi ola e ʻoluʻolu a ʻoluʻolu nona. Inā lawe ʻoe i ke kāne i makana e like me ke kapa a i ʻole ka wati, no ka laʻana, a manaʻo ʻoe i kona makemake nui e komo i kēlā kapa a i ʻole wati, a laila e ʻike ʻoe ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona o kona aloha iā ʻoe. Kāhea mau ke kāne aloha i kāna hoaaloha, hāʻawi iā ia i ka nānā a hiki i ka manawa e huki ai ʻo ia iā ia me kona hoihoi iā ia, a hoʻāʻo e hana i nā mea āpau e hoʻolohe ai iā ia a haʻalele i nā mea a pau e hoʻonāukiuki iā ia.

Ua ʻike ʻia he hiki i ke kāne ke ʻae i ka hūnā ʻana i ke aloha ma mua o ka wahine, a ua aloha paha ʻo ia a ʻaʻole i hōʻike i kēia no ka manawa lōʻihi. he aloha a ʻaʻole paha.