He mea luhi ka pilina me ka narcissist, no laila pehea ʻoe e ʻike koke ai?

He mea luhi ka pilina me ka narcissist, no laila pehea ʻoe e ʻike koke ai?

He mea luhi ka pilina me ka narcissist, no laila pehea ʻoe e ʻike koke ai?

hoa o kou mau moeuhane 

Manaʻo nā Narcissists he mea kūikawā lākou a ʻaʻohe mea e pono ai ke ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. Inā koho lākou e launa pū me kekahi, pono ke kanaka kūikawā. Hoʻomaka lākou e hoʻoinu iā ʻoe me ke aloha a me ka mālama, ʻoiai inā ʻoe i ʻike iā lākou no ka manawa pōkole loa.

Inā pili loa ʻoe iā lākou, me he mea lā ua holo pono nā mea a pau. Eia nō naʻe, he hoʻolālā narcissistic hoʻohui kēia i kapa ʻia ʻo "love-bombing" e manaʻo e hoʻohiwahiwa iā ʻoe a hoʻoikaika iā ʻoe a hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke hoʻokuʻu iā lākou.

E hoʻomanaʻo mau: ʻo ka mea maʻalahi, hele maʻalahi. Pono ke aloha maoli i ka manawa a me ka ikaika, a ʻaʻole hiki mai ka maʻalahi a me ka nui mai ka manawa mua e like me nā huahana prepackaged, no laila, mai hoʻopunipuni ʻia e kēia "hoʻomaka nani" i mea e pili ai i kahi narcissist nāna e hoʻopau i kāu ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho a me ka mahalo.

ʻO ka makemake i ka mahalo mau 

I ka pau ʻana o ka manawa "love-bombing", huli nā mea i ka hema, e like me nā hōʻailona i hōʻike ʻia e The Good Man Project. ʻO ka hoa narcissistic e hoʻomalu i ka hapa nui o nā kamaʻilio, a ʻo ka hapa nui o nā kamaʻilio e pili ana iā lākou iho. Inā ho'āʻo ʻoe e hoʻololi i ke kumuhana, pilikia ʻoe.

ʻO kēia no ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka poʻe narcissists ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe, akā i ka manawa like he palupalu kēia manaʻo ponoʻī, pono lākou i ka hōʻoia o waho a me ka hōʻoia ʻana i ke aloha o kekahi iā lākou.

Ke ho'ōki ʻoe i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana iā lākou i kēlā me kēia manawa a me ke kūlana hoʻomaka lākou e hopohopo. Hōʻike ʻia kēia ma nā ʻōlelo hoʻopiʻi e like me "ʻAʻole ʻoe e mālama iaʻu", "ʻAʻole ʻoe aloha iaʻu" a i ʻole "ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoihoi hou iaʻu", e koi koke iā ʻoe e hoʻomau i ka hoʻomaikaʻi.

E haʻalele i kou mau manaʻo

ʻO kekahi o nā hoʻopiʻi maʻamau mai ka poʻe i hōʻeha ʻia i ka hoʻomāinoino narcissistic ʻo ia ka manaʻo ʻole o ka hoa narcissistic i ka manaʻo o kekahi. I kēlā me kēia manawa e ho'āʻo ai ʻoe e kaʻana like i kou mau manaʻo kaumaha a huhū paha, e loaʻa ana ʻoe me ka manaʻo ʻole a me ka luhi.

ʻO ke kumu nui o kēia nele o ke aloha, ʻaʻole i hiki i kou mau manaʻo iā lākou e hoʻopilikia iā lākou. ʻO ka narcissist ka mea i hoʻopili i ke aloha iā ia iho a ʻaʻohe ona manaʻo e hoʻomoe i ke aloha no kekahi.

Eia nō naʻe, aia nā hōʻike e hiki ai i nā narcissists ke aloha i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, akā ʻaʻole makemake lākou e hana pēlā, a ʻo kēia haʻalele wale ʻana he mea pono e haʻi iā ʻoe aia ʻoe i kahi pilina me kahi narcissist.

hoʻohewa iā ʻoe

ʻO kekahi o nā hiʻohiʻona o nā narcissists ko lākou hiki ke hoʻololi i kou ʻike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Ua ulana lākou i nā moʻolelo, hana hoʻopunipuni, a hāwanawana i nā huaʻōlelo a ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hāʻawi aku iā lākou i kahi kala ʻē aʻe. Kapa ʻia kēia ʻano hana he "gaslighting" a hoʻomaʻamaʻa pinepine ʻia e ka narcissist a hiki i kahi manawa e kānalua mau ai ʻoe iā ʻoe iho a me kāu mau hoʻoholo.

E noʻonoʻo pinepine paha ʻoe inā he naʻaupō ʻoe a inā he hewa maoli ʻoe? E emi ana kou hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe hilinaʻi hou i kou noʻonoʻo. ʻO kou nele i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a me ka huhū mau e hānai i nā egos o nā narcissists a hoʻonui i ko lākou ikaika a me ko lākou manaʻo. Ke ho'āʻo nei lākou e hoʻopau i kou manaʻo ponoʻī i mea e manaʻo ai he kiʻekiʻe a kiʻekiʻe.

He mea nui e hoʻomaopopo i ka maikaʻi ʻole o ka pilina inā pono ʻoe e mālama i kāu hoa me ka hopohopo a me ka makaʻala, me he mea lā e hele ana ʻoe ma luna o nā pūpū hua.

Manaʻo ʻo ia he pono nā mea a pau 

Ke manaʻo nei kāu hoa narcissistic i kāu pilina "kupono" lākou i kahi mea i loaʻa ʻole iā lākou. Ma mua o ka hana ʻana e like me ka poʻe mākua maʻamau a hoʻokō i kā lākou hana, manaʻo ka poʻe narcissistic me he mea lā ʻaʻole kūpono ia no lākou, a koi ʻia e lawe kekahi i ka hana, e like me kekahi hōʻailona i loiloi ʻia e ka American magazine Psychology Today.

ʻIke pinepine mākou i kēia ma nā pilina kahi i hōʻole ai kekahi o nā hoa e ʻae i kahi hana, ʻoiai inā lākou i kahi kūlana kālā. Eia kekahi, inā pili ʻoe me kahi kanaka i loaʻa i ka narcissism, e like paha lākou me ke keiki e hoʻolei ana i ka huhū e hoʻolohe.

ʻO ka mea maʻamau, hiki i nā narcissists ke hōʻike i ka ʻano ʻano ʻē a me ka manaʻo ponoʻī i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e loaʻa ka mea a lākou e makemake ai inā ʻaʻole lākou i manaʻo nui, kālā, kākoʻo, aloha, etc.

ʻAʻole pau ka hoʻāʻo

Pau ka nani o nā mea narcissistic. ʻO kā lākou hana manipulative e hoʻopilikia i kou psyche a e ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho mākaukau e hoʻopau i ka pilina me lākou a haʻalele no ka maikaʻi.

Akā ke hoʻomaka ʻoe e haʻalele iā lākou, hopohopo lākou. ʻAʻole hiki i nā Narcissists ke mālama i ka haʻalele ʻana no ka mea he hōʻailona ia he makemake ʻole lākou. Ke hiki mai kahi kūlana e hōʻemi ana i ka manaʻo o ka narcissist o ka piha a me ke kūlana kiʻekiʻe, hoʻouka ikaika lākou iā ʻoe.

E hoʻopaʻi lākou iā lākou iho e hoʻomāʻona i ko lākou lapuwale hoʻohaʻahaʻa a hoʻāʻo e hoʻopakele i ka maka ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana a me ka ʻuu ʻana. Hiki paha iā lākou ke hoʻoholo e komo i kahi pilina hou ma hope koke iho o ka haʻihaʻi ʻana a hoʻoikaika i kā lākou pilina hauʻoli hou, me ka manaʻo e hana i nā mea āpau a lākou i hōʻole ai e hana pū me ʻoe. ʻO ka pahuhopu hope loa ʻo ia ke mihi iā ʻoe i kou hoʻokuʻu ʻana iā lākou.

I ka hopena, hiki iā lākou ke hōʻike hou i kou ola a hōʻike i ka makemake e hoʻokumu hou i nā pilina me ʻoe. E hīmeni lākou i nā mele o ka hoʻololi a me ka hoʻoponopono ʻana iā lākou iho, akā, mai manaʻoʻiʻo. Inā kānalua, e hoʻi i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka pilina a ʻike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ia ka mea a lākou i hana ai mai kinohi mai.

ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou no ka mea ʻaʻole maikaʻi lākou iā lākou iho. Ke hoʻopau ʻoe i kāu pilina me lākou, mai hoʻopili hou iā lākou a mai hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi manawa lua e hōʻeha iā ʻoe i kou naʻau a me ka naʻau.

Inā ʻoe a i ʻole i loko o kahi pilina hoʻomāinoino narcissistic, haʻalele koke a ʻimi i ke kōkua. Pono ʻoe e hoʻomaka i ke kaʻina hana o ka hoʻihoʻi ʻana mai nā hopena o kēlā pilina ʻona i ka hikiwawe loa. Paʻakikī paha, akā pono. E hoʻomaka i ke kūkulu hou ʻana iā ʻoe iho me ka ʻike, ka ʻike, a me ke aloha iā ʻoe iho (ʻo ke ʻano narcissistic ʻole).

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