ʻO kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no nā mākua hana

ʻO kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no nā mākua hana

Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Kauka Asmita Mahajan, ka mea aʻoaʻo Pediatrician a me Neonatologist, ʻo nā keiki i loko o kekahi mau ʻohana, kahi e hana ai nā mākua ʻelua, ua hānai ʻia ma ke ala hewa ʻoiai "ua hoʻolilo nā mākua i ka nui o ke kālā i nā makana no kā lākou mau keiki, i pili i ko lākou hānai ʻana ma ke ʻano he nui. Ua ulu lākou me ka ʻole o ka manaʻo e mahalo. No ka laʻana, inā ʻaʻohe koho o kēia mau keiki i nā mea pāʻani a me nā lole, manaʻo lākou ʻaʻole pono lākou. No laila, pono e hoʻokomo ʻia ka manaʻo o ka mahalo, ke kuleana a me ke kuleana kūpono i nā keiki.

1. Hooki i ka hoonui

ʻAʻole pono nā mākua e hāʻawi i nā koi a me nā makemake a pau o kā lākou mau keiki, no ka mea, e hoʻopōʻino ia iā lākou. Aia i loko o nā hale kūʻai kahi mea hou a nani hoʻi, akā ʻōlelo ka poʻe loea e hāʻawi ʻia nā makana i nā keiki ma ke ʻano he uku no ka loaʻa ʻana o nā milestones hou i ko lākou ola a i ʻole i nā manawa koʻikoʻi. ʻO ia hoʻi, pono e loaʻa nā makana ma nā ʻahaʻaina a me nā manawa a i ʻole e loaʻa kēia mau makana ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻaʻole pono e lilo i kumu waiwai. Hiki ke hāʻawi ʻia kēia mau makana i ka wā e hana ai nā keiki i kā lākou mau hana i kēlā me kēia lā, e like me ke kōkua ʻana i ko lākou mau kaikaina, mālama i ko lākou lumi maʻemaʻe a hoʻopau i kā lākou haʻawina home i ka manawa, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe.

2. E hoʻololi i ka mea i loaʻa

Pono nā keiki e hoʻololi i kā lākou mau mea pāʻani a me nā pāʻani o kēia manawa. ʻAʻole pono lākou e koi e hoʻololi iā lākou me nā hiʻohiʻona hou loa, no ka mea, pono lākou e aʻo e hoʻohana i nā mea o kēlā me kēia lā no ka lōʻihi. Inā ʻaʻole, e lilo ia i pilikia mau loa no ka mea e koi mau ke keiki i nā manawa a pau e kiʻi i nā kumu hoʻohālike hou o kekahi mea inā makemake ʻo ia a ʻaʻole paha.

3. Kaulike nā manaʻolana

ʻAʻole pono e hoʻonele ʻia nā keiki i nā pāʻani maʻamau a pono e ʻae ʻia e hauʻoli piha i ko lākou wā kamaliʻi. Akā, pono e aʻo ʻia lākou e kaulike i kā lākou mau manaʻo a ʻaʻole hoʻi e hoʻomāhuahua, i ʻole lākou e hao ʻia. Hiki ke kōkua ʻia nā keiki e lanakila i nā makana a me nā mea pāʻani a lākou e makemake ai, ma mua o ka ʻōlelo hou ʻana o nā mākua "ʻaʻole," "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu," "ʻaʻole," a "ʻaʻole pono."

Inā noi ke keiki i kahi makana pipiʻi, ʻano pono ʻole, i ʻike nā mākua ʻaʻole ia he waiwai no ke kālā, a e poina koke ke keiki ma hope o ka pāʻani ʻana me ia no hoʻokahi mahina, ʻōlelo ka poʻe akamai e hoʻopaneʻe i ke kūʻai ʻana i kēia mea, a i ʻole. ʻaʻole kūʻai iki a hoʻololi iā ia me kahi huahana ʻO kekahi ʻoi aku ka pōmaikaʻi i ka wā pōkole a lōʻihi.

4. Hoʻonohonoho i nā pahuhopu

Manaʻo ka poʻe akamai e hoʻonohonoho nā mākua i nā pahuhopu no kā lākou mau keiki e hoʻokō inā makemake lākou e kiʻi i kahi pāʻani punahele a makana paha. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, e aʻo ke keiki ʻo ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā pahuhopu a me ka hana ʻana iā lākou e kōkua i ka lanakila ʻana i nā mea a ʻo kā lākou hoʻoikaika ʻana e lanakila iā lākou ʻaʻole e haʻalele koke ma hope o kekahi mau lā a i ʻole pule.

5. Hoʻoulu i nā maʻamau maikaʻi

Manaʻo ka poʻe akamai e hana nā mākua i nā maʻamau maikaʻi me kā lākou mau keiki, e like me ka nui o ka manawa pale, ka manawa ʻohana maikaʻi, a me ka manawa e leʻaleʻa i ka hele wāwae a me ka pāʻani ma waho o ka manawa aʻo i like a kūpono nā hana āpau i ke ola o ke keiki.

6. Ile Mahalo

Pono kēlā me kēia lālā o ka ʻohana e kau i nā memo i loko o ka pahu hoʻomaikaʻi i kēlā me kēia lā e pili ana i ka mea e mahalo ai lākou no ia lā. I ka pau ʻana o ka mahina a i ʻole pule, hiki ke hoʻokaʻawale ʻia kahi hui ʻohana a i ʻole ka hālāwai e heluhelu ai i nā memo o kēlā me kēia lā, ʻo ia ka mea e hoʻolaha i nā manaʻo pumehana a me ka mahalo i loko o ka ʻohana.

7. Aloha kanaka

Wahi a ka poʻe akamai, hiki ke hoʻohana maikaʻi ʻia kekahi mau hanana kūikawā, e like me ka lā hānau, ma ke ʻano he huakaʻi hele i kahi keiki makua ʻole a i ʻole nā ​​wahi pōʻino hiki ke hoʻolālā ʻia kahi e hāʻawi ai ke keiki i nā mea paʻi e like me nā puke, nā keke a me nā meaʻai. A ʻike ke keiki i ka hauʻoli o kēia poʻe pōʻino ma ka loaʻa ʻana o nā makana a i ʻole nā ​​​​meaʻai a me nā mea ʻono, e hoʻomaka ʻo ia e mahalo i nā pōmaikaʻi ma ke ʻano kūpono a aʻo i ka mahalo i nā mea i loaʻa iā ia i ke ola ma ke ʻano ākea.