Nā ʻike e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ana i ka kūleʻa o nā ʻano o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i ke ola male

Nā ʻike e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ana i ka kūleʻa o nā ʻano o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i ke ola male

Ua hoʻokomo ʻia kahi noiʻi ʻepekema ʻo 40 male ma kahi o 50 mau makahiki, me ka manaʻo e kau i nā kumu nui no ka hōʻoia ʻana i ka paʻa o ka pilina male a me ka pale ʻana i ka hemo. Ua alakaʻi ʻia ke aʻo ʻana e Dr. John Gottman a me kāna wahine, ʻo Kauka Julie Schwartz, nā mea nāna i hoʻokumu i ka Gottman Institute for Psychology Studies a me nā mea kākau o The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy and Ten Principles of Effective Couples Therapy .

Wahi a ka mea i paʻi ʻia e CNBC, ua ʻōlelo nā psychologist ʻelua ʻoiai he ʻokoʻa kēlā me kēia paʻa male a pilina paha, me kāna mau pilikia ponoʻī, aia kekahi mea maʻamau i waena o nā kāne a pau e makemake ai lākou e mahalo ʻia, a e ʻike ʻia. ʻO kā lākou hoʻoikaika ʻana, a laila ʻo ka ʻōlelo huna no ka kūleʻa o ka pilina male ʻo ia ka huaʻōlelo "mahalo".

Pono ka pilina o ka male i ka moʻomeheu o ka mahalo a me ka mahalo. ʻO ka maikaʻi i ka ʻike ʻana i ka hana a kāu hoa hana pono ʻo ia ka nānā ʻana i nā mea maikaʻi, ʻaʻole i nā mea ʻino. Hiki ke loaʻa kēia moʻomeheu ma ke kāpae ʻana i nā ʻano noʻonoʻo ʻawaʻawa kahi āu e ʻimi ai i ka maikaʻi a ʻōlelo ʻoe "mahalo".

Nā ʻanuʻu e loaʻa ai ka manaʻo mahalo

'Ōlelo kekahi 'mahalo' i ka lā a pau, aneane me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole, i nā hoa hana a i ʻole ke kākau ʻōlelo ʻōmole ma ka hale kūʻai nui a i ka malihini paha e paʻa ana i ka puka ke hele ʻo ia a i ʻole ke kaʻa e kali ana e ʻae ʻia ma ke alanui me ka maluhia. Akā i nā pilina koʻikoʻi o kona ola, hiki iā ia ke hoʻopoina i ka mea nui o ka ʻōlelo "mahalo" i kāna hoa.

Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Kauka Gottman lāua ʻo Kauka Schwartz, nā kānaka noiʻi noʻonoʻo, i ka wā e hoʻomaka ai ke kāne a i ʻole ka wahine e hana i kekahi mea e hōʻike ai i ka mahalo, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka pilina o ka male e hoʻoikaika a holomua.

KaʻAnuʻu 1: E nānā pono i nā kikoʻī:

I nā manawa a pau e hiki ai, hiki i ke kāne a i ʻole ka wahine ke hahai i nā mea e hana nei a puni iā ​​​​ia, e nānā i nā mea maikaʻi a nānā ʻole i nā mea ʻino. Hōʻike ka poʻe noiʻi hiki i ke kāne ke haʻi i kāna hoa ola ke nānā nei ʻo ia iā ia i hiki iā ia ke ʻike pono iā ia e pili ana i kona lā a me nā mea a pau āna e hana ai, me ka wehewehe ʻana ʻaʻole e loli nui kāna ʻano ke ʻike ʻo ia. ke nānā nei ke kāne i nā kikoʻī.

KaʻAnuʻu ʻElua: Hōʻike i ka Mahalo:

Manaʻo nā mea noiʻi e hāʻawi nā kāne i nā hōʻike o ka mahalo a me ka mahalo i nā mea āpau a lākou e hana mau ai, ʻoiai inā he mea liʻiliʻi, ʻoiai inā he mea maʻalahi a hana lākou i kēlā me kēia lā. Akā ʻaʻole lākou e ʻōlelo 'mahalo' wale nō, haʻi lākou i kekahi i kekahi he mea koʻikoʻi ka hana maʻalahi loa, no ka laʻana, ke hana ka wahine i ke kāne i kīʻaha kofe i ke kakahiaka a i ka wā e kūʻai ai ke kāne ʻO ke ala e hoʻi mai ai mai ka hana ʻana.

e ʻike i nā hewa a hoʻonā iā ia

Hōʻike ka haʻawina ʻaʻole hiki ke maʻalahi ka nānā ʻole ʻana i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole i ka wā mua, akā aia kekahi mau pilikia, hiki ke hoʻokō ʻia ma ka hahai ʻana i kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo:

* E hana i ka papa inoa wikiwiki o nā mea a pau a nā kāne e hana ai, a laila koho i kekahi mau hana e hoʻololi ai, no ka laʻana, inā ʻo ke kāne ka mea nāna e hāʻawi mau i nā keiki i ke kula, a laila hiki i ka wahine ke hana i kēia hana ma kekahi na la o ka pule, a ina o ka wahine ka mea nana e hoonoho mau i ka papaaina, hiki i ke kane ke hoomakaukau ia mea i kekahi la. E kōkua kēia ʻanuʻu i ke kanaka e hoʻonoho iā ia iho ma kahi o kekahi a mahalo i kāna mau hana.

* Ke hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻokaʻawale i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole mai ka mea i hana ʻia i ka wā ma mua, a e nānā pono i kēia manawa. E nīnau ʻo ia iā ia iho: “Ua loaʻa anei iaʻu kēia mau manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole ma mua o ka male ʻana? He aha ka mea i hoʻoulu ai i kēlā mau manaʻo?” ʻO ka ʻanuʻu o ka ʻike ʻana i ke ʻano o nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole, ka inoa ʻana iā lākou, a me ka ʻike ʻana i ko lākou kumu e hiki ke kōkua i ka hoʻopau ʻana iā lākou.

* Hoʻomanaʻo mau ke kāne a wahine paha ʻo ka nānā ʻana i ka ʻike ʻana i nā mea maikaʻi a me ka nānā ʻole ʻana i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole ʻaʻole ia ke ʻano o ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā maʻamau a me nā ʻano o ka hoa ola, akā ua like ia me ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā maʻamau o ke kanaka ponoʻī, a no laila kōkua maikaʻi ia i ka hoʻopilikia i ka pōʻai o ka negativity i ka pilina male. ʻO ka ʻike ʻana i ka maikaʻi a me ka manaʻo maikaʻi a me ka mahalo e ʻoki i ka wahie mai ka pōʻai o ka negativity a me nā manaʻo ʻawaʻawa.

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