ʻEhiku mau ala e hōʻike ai ke kanaka i kona aloha me ka ʻōlelo ʻole

ʻOkoʻa nā kāne mai nā wahine i ke ʻano o ka hōʻike ʻana i nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo, a ʻo nā wahine e hoʻopiʻi pinepine i ka haʻalele ʻana o kā lākou kāne i ka hōʻike ʻana i ke aloha a me ka ʻiʻini a me ka haʻalele ʻana i nā huaʻōlelo o ke aloha ma ke ʻano e hoʻopilikia ai i ka mahanahana. Pilina. ʻIke mākou ua nīnau pinepine ka wahine i kāna kāne i kēia nīnau: Ke aloha mau nei ʻoe iaʻu? ʻOiaʻiʻo, ke nīnau nei ʻo ia a ke kānalua nei.

Ua paʻi ʻo Sociologist ʻo Gary Goldschner a me ka mea akamai i ka pili ʻana i kahi puke i kapa ʻia ʻo "The Secret Language of Relationships," i kamaʻilio ai ʻo ia e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka hōʻike ʻana o ke kanaka i ke aloha, a i ʻole kekahi mau hōʻailona āna i hana ai e manaʻoʻiʻo ai ua hiki aku ka ʻōlelo o ke aloha iā ʻoe. .

Eia 7 mau ala e ʻōlelo ai ke kāne aloha wau iā ʻoe. Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei ua lawa ka kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi i nā pilina pili, no ka mea, he hopena nui nā kikoʻī nona, a hana e hōʻike i nā manaʻo maoli.

1- Ke haʻi ʻo ia iā ʻoe i kou nani i loko o ka pōʻeleʻele o nā kūlana
ʻOiai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻaʻahu, a makemake paha e noho i ka home me nā lole ʻoluʻolu no ka hopena pule, maikaʻi ke hele mai ʻo ia a haʻi iā ʻoe i kou nani.

ʻO nā hōʻailona o ke aloha i ke kāne ke aloha ʻoiaʻiʻo

2- Ke ʻike ʻo ia i nā kikoʻī
He mea kēia o ka manaʻo pilikino, ka mea makemake e lawe i ka hana e pale i kāna hoa a hoʻopuni iā ​​​​ia me ka ʻoluʻolu. ʻO ka mea e ʻike ua kokoke e pau kāu niho niho punahele a lawe mai iā ʻoe i kahi ʻē aʻe, aloha maoli iā ʻoe.

3- Ke hoʻolohe ʻo ia iā ʻoe i kou wā e huhū ai
Hele mākou i nā lā paʻakikī e uē ai mākou i kekahi manawa. Ke hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻuā a noho ʻo ia e hoʻolohe iā ʻoe, ʻo ia hoʻi, mālama ʻo ia iā ʻoe.

4- Ke lawe ʻo ia i kāu mau ʻeke
Ke hoʻi mai ʻoe mai ke kūʻai ʻana mai me nā ʻeke a me nā ʻeke he nui, a nānā ʻo ia i ka mea a wikiwiki ʻo ia e lawe iā ʻoe.

5- Aia kāu kofe ma kona mau lima
I kā mākou stereotype, noho ke kanaka ma ka sofa a hele mai ke kofe iā ia ma laila. Eia naʻe, ʻo ka mea hana i kāu kofe e like me kou makemake a hāʻawi iā ʻoe i nā wahi āu e noho ai, aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe.

6- ʻAʻole ʻo ia e ʻae iā ʻoe e pilikia i ka lawe ʻana
Inā he kaʻa kāna, e mālama ʻo ia iā ʻoe i ka hana a i ʻole ma kahi āu e makemake ai e hele, a e kiʻi iā ʻoe ma ke ala hoʻi.

7- Hoʻomoʻa ʻo ia iā ʻoe i ka ʻaina ahiahi no ka manawa ʻole
ʻAʻohe mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ke kanaka nāna ʻoe e kuke i ka ʻaina ahiahi me ka ʻole o ka manawa. He kanaka mālama kēia iā ʻoe a aloha iā ʻoe.