Pehea ʻoe e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai i kāu kāne i kou manaʻo a lanakila iā ia?

Pehea ʻoe e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai i kāu kāne i kou manaʻo ma kahi hihia a lanakila iā ia ma kou ʻaoʻao?

1. E koho i kahi mālie kahi āu e noho pū ai me kāu kāne e kamaʻilio pū me ka mamao mai nā mea hoʻohilahila a me nā ʻano mea hoʻowalewale.
2. Ma mua o kou kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu kāne e pili ana i kekahi mea, e nīnau iā ia inā he manawa kūpono iā ia. Inā he huhū a makemake ʻole paha ʻo ia e kamaʻilio, mahalo i kona makemake a noi iā ia i kahi manawa hou e kamaʻilio.
3. Mai noho i mua o kāu kāne, akā ma kona ʻaoʻao, ʻoiai ʻo ka noho ʻana ma kahi kokoke i ke kanaka e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia a hāʻawi i kahi ākea e hoʻomaka ai e kamaʻilio a hoʻomaha me ia, ʻaʻole e like me ka noho ʻana me ke alo a me ka ʻike maka.
4. E hōʻike pololei i kou mau manaʻo a me kou mau manaʻo me ka ʻole o ka wili a i ʻole ka huli ʻana i ʻole e nalowale ka hoihoi a me ka nānā ʻana o kāu kāne.
5. E noʻonoʻo nui i nā wahi maikaʻi o kēlā me kēia pukana a waiho i nā helu maikaʻi ʻole no nā manawa ʻē aʻe.
6. E pale i ka hoʻopiʻi a me ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana i mua o kau kaneʻO kēiaʻano hana e hoʻonāukiuki i ke kanaka a koi iā iaʻaʻole e hāʻawi i kāu mau manaʻo a me kāu mau koi.
7. E hoʻolohe pono i ka pane a kāu kāne a me kāna ʻōlelo, e like me kāna hana ma mua iā ʻoe. ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana a me ka pane ʻana me ka mahalo he wahi koʻikoʻi ia no ka loaʻa ʻana o ka ʻike a me ka hiki ke hoʻohuli.
8. E mahalo i kāu kāne i kēlā me kēia manawa. Mai poina e ʻōlelo aku iā ia "ʻoluʻolu" a e hana maikaʻi me ia, i ʻole e lilo kāu mau koi a me kou mau manaʻo i kumu o ka mana a me ka huhū.
9. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻo kēia mau mea a pau e hoʻohui i nā ala mālie e hoʻohiwahiwa iā ia, e like me ka hāʻawi ʻana iā ia i nā meaʻai punahele a aloha ʻia i kona puʻuwai, a i ʻole ka hoʻāla ʻana i kona aloha a me kona mau manaʻo iā ʻoe me nā pūliki a me nā paʻi ʻoiaʻiʻo.