Pehea ʻoe e hoʻopaʻi ai i kāu ipo kipi?

ʻO kekahi o nā mea e hōʻeha nui ai, ʻo ia ke aloha o ke kanaka a me ka pili ʻana iā ia a hiki i ke kumu o ka addiction a laila kaʻawale ʻana mai ona aku, pehea lā inā he kumakaia ke kumu o ka kaʻawale?

Mehameha ʻoe, huhū, haʻalulu, hāʻawi pio, kou makemake e hoʻomaloka, hoʻowahāwahā, aloha a inaina ... a me nā manaʻo kūʻē i ka manawa hoʻokahi. Ua koho mākou iā ʻoe ʻo wai wau ʻo Salwa:

1- Manaʻo paʻa loa he hoʻoholo pololei kāu hoʻoholo e haʻalele iā ia, no laila, mai kali ʻoe i kahi manawa e hoʻi mai ai ʻo ia iā ʻoe oiai ʻo ia e mihi ana a e noi ana ma lalo o kou mau wāwae, inā hiki, akā e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ʻoe iho ʻo kēia haʻalele ʻana. ʻO ka hope, e hoʻokau ʻoe iā ia i kahi haʻalulu i manaʻo ʻole ʻia.

2- ʻO ka mālama ʻana i kou helehelena kekahi o nā ʻanuʻu nui e hoʻihoʻi hou ai i kou ikaika a e hoʻohauʻoli ai iā ia. no laila, ʻo ka manaʻo maoli iā ia, ma hope o ka kaʻawale ʻana e haʻalele ʻoe iā ʻoe iho a pōʻino, no laila e ʻike iā ia ua lilo ʻoe i ʻoi aku ka nani ma hope o kou kaʻawale ʻana me ia a he ʻaoʻao ia i haehae ʻia mai kahi kahiko. puke.

3- E hōʻole loa i ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka ʻoihana pūnaewele e haʻi aku i kou mau manaʻo iā ia, me he mea lā e hoʻouna ana ʻoe iā ia i nā leka e like me nā huaʻōlelo kaumaha a me nā ʻōlelo e hōʻike ana i kou kūlana me ia, e hōʻoluʻolu ai iā ia.

4- Mai hoʻopau i nā hālāwai me kāu mau hoa aloha, akā, e hana hou i kēia mau hālāwai a hōʻike iā lākou i ke kiʻi nani loa o ka mālama ponoʻī a kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu mau lā luhi o nā hana, akā mai haʻi i kekahi mea e pili ana iā ia a kamaʻilio paha. e pili ana iā ʻoe a i ʻole ka moʻolelo o kou kaʻawale ʻana, a inā hiki mai kēlā, hiki iā ʻoe ke pōkole i ka pane A me he mea lā ʻaʻole ʻoe mālama.

5- Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ia ma kekahi wahi, pono ʻoe e naʻauao e ʻike pehea e hōʻike ai i ka manaʻo o ka manaʻo ʻole i kou maka, pono ʻoe e hōʻike iā ia ua poina ʻoe i kona helehelena a i ʻole ʻoe i ʻike i kēia kanaka ma mua, akā hana ʻoe. ʻaʻole ʻike i kahi, e ʻike ʻoe ma kona mau maka i nā hōʻailona o ka hoʻonāukiuki a i ʻole kona haʻalele wikiwiki ʻana mai ia wahi.

6- ʻO ka hele ʻana o ka wahine ʻē aʻe i loko o kona ola e manaʻo paha ʻoe i ka mea āu e hana ai, ʻaʻole ia he mea nui iā ia, ua hewa ka manaʻo, ʻaʻole manaʻo ka mea kumakaia iā ia iho he kipi, akā manaʻo ʻo ia he wahine hoʻokamakama a loaʻa. ke kuleana i ka pili lehulehu a me ka manaʻo o kona kaʻawale ʻana ke kumu o ka pōʻino, no laila ʻaʻole ʻo ia e poina i ke kaikamahine nāna i hāʻawi iā ia i kahi haʻawina a manaʻo ʻo ia he kanaka mālama ʻole ʻia kona ola ʻana a me ka ʻole.