Me pehea koe e ngaki ai i to hoa aroha tinihanga?

Ko tetahi o nga mea e tino mamae ai ko te aroha o te tangata me te piri ki a ia tae noa ki te waranga, katahi ka mawehe atu i a ia, ka pewhea mehemea he tinihanga te take o te wehenga?

Ka mokemoke koe, te riri, te ohorere, te tuku, to hiahia ki te kore whakapono, ki te whakahawea, ki te aroha me te mauahara ... me te maha o nga kare e tautohetohe ana i te wa kotahi.

1- Ko te tino whakapono ko to whakatau ki te whakarere i a ia he whakatau tika, no reira kaua e tatari mo tetahi wa ka hoki mai ia ki a koe i te wa e pouri ana ia, e tohe ana i raro i ou waewae, mena ka taea, engari me whakapumau i a koe ano ko tenei whakarere. whakamutunga, ka meinga e koe he ohorere ohorere.

2- Ko te tiaki i to ahua ko tetahi o nga mahi tino nui hei whakahoki mai i to kaha me te miharo i a ia. Ko te hiahia mo ia, no reira ko te tino tumanako ki a ia ka mutu te wehenga ka wareware koe i a koe ano ka pouri koe, no reira kia mohio ia kua tino ataahua koe i muri i to wehenga mai i a ia he wharangi kua haea mai i te tawhito. pukapuka.

3- Me karo rawa ki te whakamahi i nga paapori pāpori ki te whakapuaki i o whakaaro ki a ia, me te mea kei te tuku korero koe ki a ia penei i nga kianga pouri me nga kianga e whakaatu ana i to ahuatanga ki a ia, e kaha ana, e pai ana ki a ia.

4- Kaua e whakakorehia nga huihuinga me o hoa hoa, engari, mahia etahi atu o enei hui ka whakaatu ki a ratou te ahua tino ataahua o te tiaki whaiaro me te korero mo o ra mahi mahi, engari kaua e whakahua i tetahi mea mo taua mea, korero ranei. e pa ana ki a koe, ki te korero ranei mo to wehenga, a, ki te tupu tera, ka poto koe i te whakautu A me te mea kaore koe e aro

5- Mena ka tutaki koe ki a ia i tetahi waahi, me mohio koe ki te whakaatu i te ahua o te kore whakaaro ki runga i to kanohi, me tuku e koe kia mohio ia kua wareware koe ki tana ahua ahakoa kua kite koe i tenei tangata i mua, engari kei te mahi koe. Kare koe e mohio ki hea, ka kite koe i runga i tona kanohi nga tohu o te whakapataritari, tana tere hokinga atu i te waahi.

6- Ko te noho mai o tetahi atu wahine i roto i tona oranga ka whakaaro koe ahakoa he aha taau mahi, kare he mea nui ki a ia, he he te whakaaro, kare te tangata tinihanga e whakaaro he tangata tinihanga ia, engari ka whakaaro he wahine whakapohehe ia. te tika ki te maha o nga whanaungatanga me te whakapono ko tana wehenga he raruraru, no reira e kore ia e wareware ki te kotiro nana i homai He akoranga ki a ia, ka whakaaro he tangata kua warewarehia tona oranga me te kore o te oranga.