Thandizani kuzindikira kwanu poyang'ana kayendetsedwe ka thupi

Thandizani kuzindikira kwanu poyang'ana kayendetsedwe ka thupi

Pali zambiri zabodza zokhudza chilankhulo chomwe chimafalikira pa intaneti. Mwina lingaliro lolakwika ndilakuti mutha kuwerenga modalirika zilankhulo za anthu osawadziwa pongodziwa "anecdotes" ochepa. Zoonadi, zenizeni za nkhaniyi ndizovuta kwambiri kuposa zomwe zanenedwa, malinga ndi lipoti lokonzedwa ndi Pulofesa Nick Morgan, wolemba mabuku kuphatikizapo "Can You Hear Me: How to Connect with People in a Virtual World?", lomwe linasindikizidwa. ndi Psychology Today.

Chilankhulo cha thupi sichophweka koma nthawi zambiri chimakhala ndi zigawo zambiri, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti manja amatha kukhala ndi zolinga zambiri kumbuyo kwake. Mwachitsanzo, munthu akhoza kuwoloka manja awo pamene akudzitchinjiriza, koma amasunthanso chimodzimodzi akamazizira, atatopa, kapena atachulukidwa ndi chidziwitso ndikuyesa kudziteteza kuti asatenge chilichonse.

Achibale, abwenzi ndi ogwira nawo ntchito

Komabe, nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti pali njira ziwiri zodalirika zowerengera zilankhulo za thupi.Choyamba ndi chakuti anthu ambiri amadziwa bwino kuwerenga zomwe anthu omwe amawadziwa bwino - anzawo omwe akhala akugwira nawo ntchito kwanthawi yayitali, abwenzi, ndi achibale - makamaka akakhudzidwa. mwa kutengeka mtima. Choncho, mwachitsanzo, mwamuna akamathamangira kunyumba ali wosangalala komanso wokondwa kuti akwezedwe, mkaziyo anganene motsimikiza kuti chinachake (chabwino) chikuchitika, chifukwa amadziwa mmene mwamuna wake amachitira, choncho kuzindikira kusiyana kwa chikhalidwe n’kosavuta. ndi odalirika ndithu.

mayendedwe osachita kufuna

Njira yachiŵiri ndi yakuti kusuntha kwa maso kosadzifunira kungavumbulutse kumlingo waukulu, ndipo modalirika, chowonadi cha zinthu. Mbali yonyenga ya njira imeneyi, ndithudi, ikuyandikira kwambiri kotero kuti munthu angathe kuona kusintha kosaoneka bwino kwa diso popanda kuwoneka kuti akuyang'anitsitsa mnzake, makamaka popeza kuyang'anitsitsa kwambiri m'maso mwa munthu wina kungamasuliridwe modalirika. Kulankhula kwa thupi monga kusonyeza kudziona kuti ndinu wosakwanira.

Ana athu amatha kufutukuka pamene tikonda chinachake kapena munthu wina yemwe timamuwona ndipo amasangalala kucheza naye, kapena mbale ya ayisikilimu yomwe timakonda. Ana athu amakakamizika tikakumana ndi zomwe sitikonda - mulu wa mbale zauve kapena zakudya zomwe sitikonda.

Onetsani zomwe mumakonda

Diso laumunthu limathanso kuzindikira chowonadi china pamene pali kuyesera kusankha pakati pa zosankha ziwiri, pamene maso amatha kuwombera mofulumira ku njira yomwe akufuna, kulumpha kuchokera ku mfundo imodzi kupita ku ina, pamene akuyandikira chisankho. Kudumpha kumeneku kumatha kuzindikirika ndi maso, ndipo liwiro lake ndi njira zake zikuwonetsa zosankha zathu. Koma ndithudi, izo siziri chabe za mfundo izi.

munthu wopupuluma

Tikamaganiza kwambiri, ndipamenenso ophunzira athu akukula. Tikamadzilemetsa ndi kuganiza, ophunzira athu amayamba kukhazikika. Ndipo ngati china chake chikhudza chidwi chathu, ophunzira athu amakhala omasuka. Kusuntha pang'ono kwa ana kungasonyeze umunthu: ana asukulu akamasuntha, nthawi zambiri, angatanthauze chizolowezi chochita mopupuluma.

magalasi akuda

Poona kuti n’zovuta kuzindikira chinthu china chobisika monga kufutukuka kwa ana kapena kusuntha kwa maso, pali umboni wina wa kafukufuku wa sayansi wosonyeza kuti mayendedwe a maso ndi ana otambalala amatha kunyamulidwa mosazindikira, ngakhale munthu sadziwa. Chotero mwinamwake chinthu chabwino koposa chimene mungachite—mosamala kuti musachite zimenezo mochititsa manyazi—ndiko kuika maganizo anu onse pamene mukumvetsera ndi kuona nkhope ya munthu winayo, ndiyeno n’kudziŵa mtundu wa zimene munthu akuona, zimene mwamwayi zingatsogolere kuulula kuti winayo ali. kunama kapena kusanena zoona. Ndicho chifukwa chake akatswiri amalangiza kuti asapange zosankha zolimba malinga ndi zomwe wina akunena ngati atavala magalasi akuda.

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