Ubale ndi narcissist ndi wotopetsa, ndiye mumazindikira bwanji msanga?

Ubale ndi narcissist ndi wotopetsa, ndiye mumazindikira bwanji msanga?

Ubale ndi narcissist ndi wotopetsa, ndiye mumazindikira bwanji msanga?

mnzanu wa maloto anu 

Narcissists amaganiza kuti ndi apadera ndipo sakuyenera chilichonse koma zabwino kwambiri. Ngati asankha kukhala pachibwenzi, munthuyo ayeneranso kukhala wapadera. Amayamba kukusambitsani ndi chikondi ndi chisamaliro, ngakhale mutawadziwa kwakanthawi kochepa.

Mukakhala nawo pafupi kwambiri, zingawoneke ngati zonse zikuyenda bwino. Komabe, iyi ndi njira yolumikizirana yolumikizirana yotchedwa "chikondi-bombing" yomwe ikufuna kukunyengererani ndikukulimbikitsani mpaka simungathe kuwasiya.

Kumbukirani nthawi zonse: zomwe zimabwera mosavuta, zimakhala zosavuta. Chikondi chenicheni chimatenga nthawi ndi khama, ndipo sichibwera mophweka komanso chochuluka kuyambira nthawi yoyamba monga zopangira zopangiratu, choncho musapusitsidwe ndi "chiyambi chokongola" ichi kuti mukhale paubwenzi ndi munthu wamatsenga yemwe angawononge kudzidalira ndi kuyamikira.

Kufuna kutamandidwa kosalekeza 

Gawo la "kuphulitsa kwachikondi" likatha, zinthu zimatembenukira kumanzere, malinga ndi zikwangwani zomwe The Good Man Project. Mnzawo wa narcissistic ndiye amalamulira zokambirana zambiri, ndipo zokambirana zambiri zimakhala za iwo eni. Ngati mutayesa kusintha nkhaniyo, mudzakhala m’mavuto.

Izi zili choncho chifukwa narcissists amadziona ngati abwino kuposa wina aliyense, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo kudzikonda kumeneku kumakhala kosalimba, amafunikira kutsimikiziridwa kwakunja ndi chitsimikiziro chakuti wina ali nawo m'chikondi.

Mukangosiya kuwayamikira mu mphindi iliyonse ndi zochitika amayamba kuchita mantha. Izi zimawonekera m'zinenezo monga "Simusamala za ine", "Simundikondanso" kapena "Simukukopekanso ndi ine", zomwe zimangokupangitsani kuti muyambitsenso kuyamika.

Muzinyalanyaza malingaliro anu

Limodzi la madandaulo ofala kwa anthu omwe amachitiridwa nkhanza ndi narcissistic mnzawoyo amakhala wosalabadira zakukhosi kwa mnzake. Nthawi zonse mukayesa kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu kapena kukwiya, mudzakumana ndi mphwayi kapena kunyong'onyeka.

Chifukwa chachikulu cha kupanda chifundo kumeneku n’chakuti malingaliro anu sakuwafikira kuti awakhudze. Narcissist amadzikonda kwambiri kotero kuti alibe chilimbikitso chokonda wina aliyense.

Komabe, pali umboni wosonyeza kuti anthu olankhula narcissists amatha kumvera ena chisoni, koma sakufuna kutero, ndipo kunyalanyaza kumeneku kokha ndikoyenera kukuuzani kuti muli paubwenzi ndi munthu wina.

kukuimba iwe mlandu

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za narcissists ndi kuthekera kwawo kusintha malingaliro anu pa zenizeni. Amaluka nkhani, kuchita zanzeru, ndi kunong’onezana mawu mpaka mutapeza kuti mukuwapepesanso. Makhalidwe amtunduwu amatchedwa gaslighting ndipo amachitidwa mobwerezabwereza ndi narcissist mpaka mutafika pomwe mumadzikayikira nokha ndi zosankha zanu.

Nthawi zambiri mumadabwa ngati ndinu omvera kwambiri komanso ngati muli ndi vuto? Kudzidalira kwanu kudzachepa ndipo mudzazindikira kuti simukukhulupiriranso misala yanu. Kusadzidalira kwanu komanso kukhumudwa kosalekeza kumadzetsa kudzikonda kwa anthu ankhanza komanso kumawonjezera mphamvu zawo komanso kudzikonda. Amayesa kuwononga malingaliro anu aumwini kuti mudzimve kuti ndinu apamwamba komanso apamwamba.

Ndikofunikira kuzindikira kuti chibwenzi sichili bwino ngati mukuyenera kuchitira wokondedwa wanu ndi nkhawa komanso mosamala, ngati mukuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira.

Amadziona kuti ndi woyenera chilichonse 

Wokondedwa wanu wamatsenga muubwenzi wanu akuwona kuti "akuyenera" chinthu chomwe sanapindule. M’malo mochita zinthu ngati anthu achikulire abwino n’kumagwira ntchito yawo, anthu ankhanza amaona ngati sibwino kwa iwo, ndipo amaumirira kuti munthu wina agwire ntchitoyo, mogwirizana ndi chizindikiro china chopendedwa ndi magazini ya ku America yotchedwa Psychology Today.

Nthawi zambiri timawona izi m'maubwenzi omwe m'modzi mwa okwatirana amakana kugwira ntchito, ngakhale atakhala kuti ali ndi vuto lazachuma. Komanso, ngati muli paubwenzi ndi munthu amene akudwala narcissism, nthawi zambiri amaoneka ngati mwana yemwe akuponya mokwiya kuti amvetsere.

Nthawi zambiri, narcissists amatha kuwonetsa machitidwe achilendo komanso odzikonda poyesa kupeza zomwe akufuna ngati sakumva kusamalidwa kokwanira, ndalama, chithandizo, chikondi, ndi zina zambiri.

Kuyesera kosatha

Chidwi ndi zilembo za narcissistic zimatha. Khalidwe lawo lachinyengo limakhudza kwambiri psyche yanu ndipo mudzapeza kuti mwakonzeka kuthetsa chiyanjano ndi iwo ndikusiya zabwino.

Koma mukangoyamba kuchoka pa iwo, amachita mantha. Narcissists sangathe kuthana ndi kusiyidwa chifukwa ndi chizindikiro chakuti sakufuna. Zinthu zikafika zomwe zimasokoneza malingaliro a narcissist kukhala athunthu komanso apamwamba, amakuukirani mwankhanza.

Adzabwezera cilango kuti akhutitse zachabe zao zonyozeka ndi kuyesa kupulumutsa nkhope mwa kudzudzula ndi mbola. Atha kusankha kulowa muubwenzi watsopano atangotha ​​kutha ndikulimbikitsa ubale wawo watsopano, mwadala kuchita chilichonse chomwe akhala akukana kuchita ndi inu. Cholinga chachikulu ndikukupangani chisoni kuti mwawasiya.

Pamapeto pake, akhoza kuwonekeranso m'moyo wanu ndikuwonetsa chikhumbo chokhazikitsanso ubale ndi inu. Adzayimba nyimbo zosintha ndi kudziwongolera okha, koma musakhutitsidwe. Ngati mukukayikira, bwererani ku chiyambi cha chiyanjano ndikuzindikira chowonadi, ndizo zomwe adachita kuyambira pachiyambi.

Simungathe kuwakhutiritsa chifukwa samadzimva bwino. Mukathetsa ubale wanu ndi iwo, musamakumane nawo ndipo musawapatse mwayi wachiwiri kuti akupwetekeni m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo.

Ngati muli paubwenzi wankhanza kapena mukadali pachibwenzi, chokani nthawi yomweyo ndipo pemphani thandizo. Muyenera kuyamba njira yochira ku zotsatira za ubale wowopsawo posachedwa. Zingakhale zovuta, koma ndizofunikira. Yambani kudzimanganso nokha ndi kuzindikira, kumvetsetsa, ndi kudzikonda (za mtundu womwe si wa narcissistic).

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