M'mbuyomu, tidalankhula za umunthu wokhala ndi mawonekedwe owoneka, mawonekedwe ake, ndi momwe mungadziwire Ndi mikhalidwe yotani ya munthu yemwe ali ndi mawonekedwe owoneka?  Ndipo tsopano tikuwuzani momwe mungachitire ndi munthu uyu:

1- Kusalankhula naye motsitsa mawu komanso kupewa kupuma kwanthawi yayitali pakati pa mawu, chifukwa izi zimakwiyitsa zowoneka, mwachitsanzo, kuyankhula mwachangu komanso mokweza.

2- Kusuntha mwachangu, chifukwa kuchedwetsa kuyenda kapena kumaliza ntchito kumayambitsa mitsempha yamaso yosasunthika, ndipo sangamvetsetse kuti ndi chikhalidwe cha munthu yemwe ali patsogolo pawo, ndipo amamuona ngati wozizira komanso waulesi, zomwe zimawalimbikitsa. osachita ndi anthu oyenda pang’onopang’ono kapena kuwanyalanyaza, chifukwa angawaone ngati chopinga chimene chimawalepheretsa.

3- Onetsani mphamvu ndi nyonga mukamachita nawo m'malo mokhala wodekha chifukwa nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mphamvu zambiri

4- Lankhulani nawo mwanjira ya zithunzi kapena malingaliro, mwachitsanzo ( lingalirani, lingalirani, ...) kukambirana kwanu.

5- Kugwiritsa ntchito zilankhulo za thupi ndi zathupi polankhula, ngakhale kumlingo wina wake, chifukwa ena amatha kutanthauzira kudekha m'mawu ngati kuzizira.

6- Kukweza mapewa ndi pachifuwa polankhula nawo kuti apange mtundu waubwenzi pamlingo wa subconscious, mwachitsanzo (tikuyimira ndikufanana nawe, zomwe zimabweretsa kuyandikira kwamtundu)

7- Kukhala kutali ndi chizolowezi kapena kutsatira njira imodzi yolankhulira kapena kukhala chifukwa chotopa ndi chikhalidwe chawo.Mfundo yakusintha kosalekeza iyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito pochita nawo.