Kodi mungathandize bwanji mwana wanu kuti azidzidalira?

Kodi mungathandize bwanji mwana wanu kuti azidzidalira?

Lipoti la katswiri wa kulera Bill Murphy Jr. ndipo lofalitsidwa ndi Inc.com limapereka mndandanda wa malangizo abwino kwambiri olerera ana, otengedwa kuchokera ku maphunziro, kafukufuku ndi zokumana nazo zovuta zomwe makolo omwe amawoneka kuti akugwira ntchito yabwino ndi ana awo, zosavuta ndipo zimatha kulipira pakapita nthawi:

1. Thandizo pa nthawi ya mavuto

Makolo ambiri amadabwa kuti n’chiyani chimene chili chabwino kwambiri kwa ana awo akakumana ndi mavuto. Mwambiri, pali njira ziwiri:

• Njira Yoyamba: Kuthamangira kuima pambali pa mwanayo kuti mumuthandize ndi kumuthandiza, m’njira yoti adzam’thandize kukhala ndi chidaliro m’kupita kwa nthaŵi, mosasamala kanthu za kuthekera kwakuti mwanayo adzakula amadalira makolo ake mpaka kalekale.

• Njira Yachiwiri: Khalani patali pang'ono, khalani pafupi kwambiri kuti muwonetsetse kuti palibe chomwe chingakukhumudwitseni, komanso kuumirira kuti mwanayo akonze zinthu yekha, zomwe zimapanga mphamvu ndi kudzidalira.

Ndi chenjezo lakuti pali zosiyana ndi lamulo lililonse, akatswiri amasankha njira yoyamba chifukwa, mwachidule, mwanayo amadzimva kukhala wotetezeka ndipo akhoza kudalira anthu ofunika kwambiri pamoyo wake.

2. Lolani malo oyesera ndi kulephera

Julie Lythcott-Hims, yemwe kale anali mkulu wa anthu ongoyamba kumene pa yunivesite ya Stanford, anafotokoza m’buku lake lakuti, How to Raise an Adult, kuti makolo ayenera kulolera ana kuyesa zinthu zatsopano n’kulephera, popanda kuwateteza ku zotsatirapo zing’onozing’ono. kumvetsetsa kuti kuphatikizika kumachitika.Ndipo tsatirani malangizo oyamba ngati zotsatira zosasangalatsa zikuyembekezeka.

3. Khalani ndi nzeru zamaganizo

Anthu amafunikira maubwenzi abwino kuti akhale osangalala komanso opambana m'moyo, ndipo kukulitsa maubwenzi amenewo kumafuna luntha lamalingaliro, lomwe liyenera kusamaliridwa ndi kulimbikitsidwa. Rachel Katz ndi Helen Choi Hadani, olemba buku lakuti The Emotionally Intelligent Child: Effective Strategies for Kulera Ana Odzizindikira, Ogwirizana, ndi Oganiza bwino, anati njira yabwino yothandizira ana kukulitsa nzeru zawo m’maganizo ndi yakuti makolo azitsanzira zochita zabwino m’makhalidwe ndi anthu. maubale.

4. Zoyembekeza ndi makhalidwe abwino

Ofufuza a pa yunivesite ya Essex ku United Kingdom anafotokoza mwachidule zimene apeza ponena kuti: “Mkazi aliyense amene zinthu zikuwayendera bwino amakhala ndi mkazi wovutitsa,” akulongosola kuti atsikana achichepere amakhala opambana ngati ali ndi amayi amene amawakumbutsa nthaŵi zonse za ziyembekezo zawo. amayamikiradi kuchita bwino pophunzira ndiponso kukhala ndi ntchito zabwino.

5. Chitani nawo nkhani

Makolo amene ali ndi ana aang’ono amakonda kuwerenga nkhani koma ayenera kutsatira malangizo a akatswiri oti “awerenge kuchokera mkati” limodzi ndi ana, kutanthauza kuti m’malo mongowawerengera mabuku, muziima pa mfundo zosiyanasiyana n’kumupempha kuti aganizire. Momwe nkhaniyo imakulirakulira, zosankha zomwe otchulidwawo angapange, ndi chifukwa chake. Njirayi imathandizira kumvetsetsa malingaliro ndi zolinga za ena mosavuta.

6. Kuyamikiridwa chifukwa chakuchita bwino

Carol Dweck, pulofesa wa zamaganizo pa yunivesite ya Stanford, ananena kuti ana sayenera kuyamikiridwa chifukwa cha zinthu monga luntha, maseŵera othamanga, kapena luso laluso, zomwe ndi luso lachibadwa, chifukwa amakula alibe chikhumbo chofuna kuphunzira ndi kuchita bwino.

Koma kuyamika ana kaamba ka mmene amathetsera mavuto—njira ndi njira zimene amapeza, ngakhale pamene sanapambane—kumapangitsa kukhala kothekera kuti ayesetse mokulirapo ndi kupambana pamapeto pake.

7. Kuwatamanda kwambiri;

Ofufuza ochokera ku Brigham Young University amalangiza makolo kuti azikhala otopa ndi matamando. Ofufuza adaphunzira m'makalasi a pulayimale kuti ayese kutamandidwa ndi zotsatira zake kwa ana, kwa zaka zitatu, ndipo adalemba momwe aphunzitsi amachitira ndi ophunzira. Aphunzitsi ambiri akamatamanda ophunzira, amachita bwino kwambiri, mosasamala kanthu za zinthu zina, anatero wofufuza wamkulu wa phunziroli Paul Caldarella.

8. Chitani nawo ntchito zapakhomo

Kafukufuku wotsatira pambuyo pa kafukufuku wapeza kuti ana omwe amagwira ntchito zapakhomo amakhala opambana kwambiri. Kafukufuku wina anasonyeza kuti kugwira nawo ntchito zapakhomo kwa ana monga “kuchotsa zinyalala ndi kuchapa zovala zawo, kumawachititsa kuzindikira kuti ayenera kugwira ntchito m’moyo kuti akhale nawo.” anazindikira kuti kupempha ana kugwira ntchito zapakhomo sikuphatikizapo kusamalira ziweto zawo.

9. Chepetsani ndikusintha masewera

Ofufuza a pa yunivesite ya Toledo anapeza kuti ana omwe ali ndi zoseweretsa zochepa amapeza njira zowonjezerera malingaliro awo mogwira mtima, ndi kusewera mwaluso kuposa ana okhala ndi zoseweretsa zambiri.

Uphungu umenewu sutanthauza kuti mwana ayenera kukanidwa kapena kusapatsidwa mphatso imodzi yokha imene wakhala akuipempha. Koma ofufuzawo ananena kuti zonse ziŵiri azisinthasintha zoseweretsazo ndi kupanga malo oseŵereramo kuti mwanayo azingoyang’ana pa zimene akuchita komanso kuti asasokonezedwe ndi zosankha zina.

10. Gonani bwino ndikupita kukasewera

Ofufuza apeza kuti nthawi yochuluka yomwe ana amathera atakhala m’nyumba, m’pamenenso amalephera kupindula bwino m’maphunziro a anzawo. Kuwonjezera pa kukulitsa luso lake la maphunziro, mwanayo ayenera kuchita zinthu zolimbitsa thupi zokwanira ali panja.

Mwanayo ayeneranso kuphunzitsidwa kuika patsogolo tulo tabwino. Ofufuza a pa yunivesite ya Maryland anafufuza ana 8300 azaka zapakati pa 9 mpaka 10, akuganizira za kuchuluka kwa kugona kumene amagona usiku uliwonse. "Ana omwe amagona bwino amakhala ndi ubongo wokhala ndi imvi kapena voliyumu yambiri m'madera ena a ubongo omwe amachititsa chidwi ndi kukumbukira," adatero Zi Wang, pulofesa wofufuza matenda ndi nyukiliya.