Zviitiko zvinosimbisa kubudirira kwenzira dzekudzikamisa hupenyu hwewanano

Zviitiko zvinosimbisa kubudirira kwenzira dzekudzikamisa hupenyu hwewanano

Imwe nzvero yesayenzi yakabatanidza michato 40 50 munhambo yamakore XNUMX, nedonzo rokuisa nheyo huru dzokuva nechokwadi chokudzikama kwevatano uye kudzivisa kurambana. Chidzidzo ichi chakaitwa naDr. John Gottman nemudzimai wake, Dr. Julie Schwartz, vatangi veGottman Institute for Psychology Studies uye vanyori veThe Love Prescription: Mazuva Manomwe eKunyanya Kushamwaridzana, Kubatana, uye Mufaro uye Misimboti Gumi yeKurapa Kwevakaroorana. .

Zvinoenderana nezvakaburitswa neCNBC, vaviri ava vanoongorora nezvepfungwa vakati kunyangwe hukama hwewanano kana hukama hwakasiyana, nezvinetso zvawo, pane chinhu chimwe chete chakafanana pakati pevaviri vese chavanoda kukosheswa, uye kuzivikanwa. kuedza kwavo, uye ipapo shoko rakavanzika rekubudirira kwehukama hwewanano ndiro shoko rokuti "mazvita".

Ukama hwewanano hunobudirira hunoda tsika yekutenda uye kutenda.Kuva akanaka pakucherechedza zviri kuitwa nomudiwa wako zvinoreva kuisa pfungwa pazvinhu zvakanaka, kwete zvakaipa. Iyi tsika inogona kuwanikwa nekubvisa maitiro ekufunga ane chepfu apo iwe unotarisa zvakanaka uye woti "maita basa".

Matanho ekuwana pfungwa yekutenda

Mumwe anoti “maita henyu” muswere wose wezuva, anenge asingafungi, kune vaanoshanda navo kana kuti kumubati wemabhodhoro ari musupamaketi kana kuti kumutorwa akabata gonhi paanoyambuka kana kuti mutyairi anomirira kubvumirwa kuyambuka mugwagwa zvakakotsekana. Asi muhukama hunokosha hwehupenyu hwake, anogona kukanganwa kuti zvakakosha sei kuti "thank you" kune mumwe wake.

Nyanzvi dzepfungwa Dr. Gottman naDr. Schwartz vanoti kana murume kana mudzimai akatanga kuita chimwe chinhu kuratidza kuonga, zvinova nyore kuti imba yacho isimbe uye ibudirire.

Danho 1: Nyatsocherechedza zvakadzama:

Pose pazvinoita, murume kana kuti mudzimai anogona kutevera zviri kuitika kumativi ake, ocherechedza zvinhu zvakanaka uye ofuratira zvakaipa. Vatsvakurudzi vanoti zvinokwanisika kuti murume audze waanogara naye kuti ari kumuona kuitira kuti anyatsomuziva nezvezuva rake nezvose zvaanoita, achitsanangura kuti maitiro ake haanyanyochinja kana angoziva kuti. murume ari kucherechedza zvakadzama.

Danho rechipiri: Kuratidza Kutenda:

Vatsvakurudzi vanokurudzira kuti vakaroorana vapane mashoko okuonga uye kuonga chinhu chiri chose chavanenge vachiita, kunyange chiri chiduku, zvikurukuru kana chiri chinhu chiri nyore uye vanochiita zuva nezuva. Asi havangoti “maita basa,” vanoudzana kuti chiito chiri nyore zvikuru chigadzikiso chinokosha, somuenzaniso, apo mudzimai anobikira murume kapu yekofi mangwanani kana kuti apo murume anotenga girosari. Kumba, waanogara naye anotenda mumwe nomumwe, achitaura kuti zvinoita kuti zuva rifambe zvakanaka.

tsvaga zvikanganiso wozvigadzirisa

Chidzidzo ichi chinoratidza kuti hazvizove nyore kufuratira zvakaipa uye kutarisa pane zvakanaka pakutanga, asi pachave nematambudziko, anogona kukundwa nekutevera matipi anotevera:

* Nyorai nokukurumidza zvinhu zvose zvinoitwa nomumwe nomumwe wevakaroorana, mobva masarudza mabasa mashoma okuchinjana nawo, semuenzaniso kana murume ari iye anogara achiendesa vana kuchikoro, ipapo mudzimai anogona kuita basa iri pane rimwe remabhuku. mazuva evhiki, uye kana mudzimai ari Uyo anogara achiseta tafura yekudyira, murume anogona kuigadzira rimwe zuva. Danho iri richabatsira munhu wacho kuzviisa panzvimbo yemumwe uye richaonga nhamburiko dzake.

* Kuedza kuparadzanisa manzwiro asina kunaka kubva pane zvakaitika kare, uye kuisa pfungwa pane ikozvino. Anofanira kuzvibvunza kuti: “Ndaiva nemafungiro aya asina kunaka here tisati taroorana? Chii chakaparira mirangariro iyoyo?” Nhanho yokuziva rudzi rwemifungo yakashata nemirangariro, kuitumidza mazita, uye kuziva manyuko ayo inogona kubetsera kuibvisa.

* Murume kana mudzimai anogara achiyeuchidza kuti kuisa pfungwa pakuona zvakanaka uye kufuratira zvakaipa hakurevi kuchinja maitiro nemaitiro emudiwa weupenyu, asi zvakangofanana nekuchinja maitiro emunhu pachake, uye nekudaro zvinobatsira mu kuvhiringidza kutenderera kwekusava nehanya muhukama hwevakaroorana. Kuona zvakanaka uye kunzwa zvakanaka uye nekutenda kunocheka huni kubva mukutenderera kwekusava nehanya uye pfungwa dzine muchetura.

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