Ukuba ujonge ulonwabo, ezi ziindlela

Ukuba ujonge ulonwabo, ezi ziindlela

Yinto enye ukwazi ukuba yintoni eyenza abantu bonwabe, kodwa enye kukuphila ubomi obonwabileyo, utshilo igqala lesifundiswa uChristopher Boyce, ophum’ izandla kwiYunivesithi yaseStirling’s Centre for Behavioral Sciences eSkotlani.

Ulonwabo lusoloko luqondwa phosakeleyo njengokuncuma nokuhleka ngalo lonke ixesha, utsho uBoyce, kwinqaku lakhe elithi Positive.News, esongeza ukuba akazange afumane incasa yokwenene yolonwabo de wayeka umsebenzi wakhe weshumi leminyaka njengesifundiswa egxile kuphando ngolonwabo. , kwaye ipakishe yonke into ayidingayo imithwalo eyaneleyo kunye nezixhobo zohambo lweenyanga ezininzi ngebhayisikili emhlabeni jikelele ukuya eBhutan, ubukumkani obuncinane be-Himalaya obudumileyo ngokusekela zonke izigqibo zomgaqo-nkqubo welizwe ngolonwabo.

Yeyona ndawo wayesiya kuyo, uBoyce uyaqhubeka, ukuba wafunda ngakumbi ngolonwabo kunokuba wenzayo njengesifundiswa, nangona oku akuthethi ukwala ulwazi alufumene ngeencwadi kunye needissertation. Kodwa kuninzi okufuneka kuthethwe ngokufumana amava obomi bokuqala. Nazi ezinye zezinto azifundileyo kuhambo lwakhe oluya kulonwabo:

1. Ubunzulu kunye nenyaniso

Xa abantu bethetha ngolonwabo, abanye bayayigatya njengenjongo esebenzayo yoluntu kuba ipolitiki yolonwabo inokuqondwa phosakeleyo njengabantu abancumayo nabahlekayo ngalo lonke ixesha.

Kwaye nangona kumnandi njengokuncuma nokuhleka, ukuzenza ngalo lonke ixesha akuyonyani kwaye akunqweneleki. Iimvakalelo ezinzima yinxalenye eqhelekileyo yobomi. Ukukhala okanye ukuxhalaba luphawu olubalulekileyo kunye nenxalenye yokwenene yobomi kwaye kufuneka kuhlalwe kunye nokujongana, kunokuba uzifihle kuyo.

Ubunzulu kunye nenyani xa ucinga ngohlobo lolonwabo olufunwayo kufuneka lusekelwe kukuxhomekeka komnye, injongo kunye nethemba, kwaye kwangaxeshanye lunokwamkela usizi kunye nexhala ngokunjalo. Ewe, luhlobo lolonwabo ilizwe elinjengeBhutan elinqwenela kulo, kwaye uBoyce ukholelwa ukuba amazwe amaninzi (kunye nabantu) kufuneka benze njalo.

2. Ukumisela iinjongo kubalulekile nangona kunjalo

Usukelo lunokuba luncedo. Nika ukhokelo kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Kodwa kulula ukufunxwa ekuphumezeni isiphumo, ucinga ukuba ulonwabo lwethu luxhomekeke kuyo. Endaweni yokuwela kumgibe wento izazi ngengqondo ziyibiza ngokuba “ngumsinga,” nto leyo eyinto yokuntywila, yokwexeshana, umntu unokutyhalela phambili ekufikeleleni usukelo, nangona ukufikelela usukelo lwakhe akuyi kuhlala kuzisa ulonwabo. UBoyce ucebisa ngelithi ukuba umntu akayoliswa yinto ayenzayo endleleni, ufanele azibuze enoba kufanelekile kusini na ukuqhubeka nosukelo oluthile.

3. Amabali akhohlisayo

Kukho amabali amaninzi malunga nokuba ubomi obonwabisayo bubandakanya ntoni, kodwa azisoloko zixhaswa bubungqina obuthembekileyo. Umzekelo libali elithi “Xa ndifikelela [usukelo], ndiya konwaba” okanye elinye ibali elidumileyo elithi imali ithenga ulonwabo. Into ecacileyo, uBoyce uyacacisa, kukuba ukuba nemali eninzi (ngaphezu kweemfuno ezisisiseko) akubalulekanga xa kuthelekiswa nokuba nolwalamano oluhle, ukunyamekela impilo yakho yengqondo nomzimba, nokuphila ngenjongo ngokuvisisana neenkolelo nemilinganiselo kabani. Ngamabali anokuxhasa uqoqosho lwamazwe okanye isijikelezi-langa, kodwa akuyomfuneko ukuba azise ulonwabo olupheleleyo kumntu ngamnye.

4. Ubudlelwane bothando nobushushu

Ulwalamano olufudumeleyo nolunothando lubalulekile ukuze siphile ubomi obonwabisayo. Kodwa akukho lula ukuyifumana. Njengesifundiswa, uBoyce ucacisa ukuba uyibonile indlela olubaluleke ngayo ubudlelwane kulonwabo kwidatha. Kodwa njengabaninzi, wayenobunzima ekuyiqondeni ebomini bakhe, ekubeni abaninzi bahlala becinga ukuba baya kuthandwa ngabanye kuphela xa behlangabezana nemilinganiselo ethile, kwaye kungekhona ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuba bangobani ngokwabo.

UBoyce uthi wamangaliswa kuhambo lwakhe ngebhayisekile yindlela ababenobubele nesisa ngayo abantu, watsho esithi wamenywa ukuba atye okanye afumane indawo yokuhlala, nokuba babenentwana encinane. UBoyce ucacisa ukuba xa wayeqala uhambo wayethandabuza eso sisa okanye ukubaleka ngokukhawuleza, ngokutsho kwakhe, engayekanga ukuyicinga. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, wafunda ukuvumela unxulumano olungakumbi nabanye, nto leyo eyakhokelela kulwalamano olunzulu nolonwabo olungakumbi.

5. Ukomelela xa ujamelene neentlekele

UBoyce uthi ngekhe akwazi ukuya eBhutan ngebhayisekile ngaphandle kokufumana ingxaki okanye ezimbini, echaza ukuba wonke umntu unokufumana ingxaki ngaxa lithile. Iyavakala into yokukhotha amanxeba ethu kwaye sibuyele kwisali, kwaye umntu unokufuna inkxaso kwabanye ukuba ukwingxaki yengqondo. Kusenokufuneka bazinike ixesha lokuqonda okwenzekileyo nokuqinisekisa ukuba baqhubela phambili ngokunentsingiselo. Zizo zonke izinto eziyimfuneko ukuze somelele, nto leyo eyamncedayo kuhambo lwakhe.

6. Ihotele ye-Million Star

UBoyce uqukumbela inqaku lakhe ngokuthi akukho nto ibhetele njengokungqengqa phantsi kweenkwenkwezi emva kohambo losuku ezintabeni. Abantu bayindalo, kodwa bachitha ixesha labo elininzi bengaphakathi ezindlwini kwiindawo zokuhlala ezakhiweyo, nezisoloko zingezizo ezemvelo, ezisilelayo ukuhlangabezana neemfuno ezisisiseko zabantu. Indalo ibalulekile kwintlalontle yomntu kwaye hayi nje ukuziva uzolile kwaye uzolile ngoku, kodwa ukugcina ubomi bomntu kwizizukulwana ezizayo.

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