Ezinye iingcebiso zokufundisa abazali abasebenzayo

Ezinye iingcebiso zokufundisa abazali abasebenzayo

UGqr. Asmita Mahajan, onguGqirha wabantwana neNeonatologist uthi abantwana kwezinye iintsapho, abazali bobabini basebenza kuzo, bakhuliswa ngendlela engafanelekanga njengoko “abazali bechitha imali eninzi bethengela abantwana babo izipho, nto leyo eyachaphazela indlela abakhuliswa ngayo. Bakhule bengenawo amandla okuqonda Bazixabisa izinto kunokuba bakholelwa ukuba indalo ibajikelezile ukuze banelise iminqweno yabo. Ngokomzekelo, xa aba bantwana bengenazo izinto zokudlala nempahla ezininzi abazikhethayo, baziva bengaxabisekanga.” Ngoko ke, uluvo lombulelo, uxanduva kunye nelungelo elisengqiqweni kufuneka lifakwe ebantwaneni.Abazali banokulandela la macebiso kunye namanyathelo alandelayo:

1. Yeka Ngokugqithisileyo

Abazali akufuneki banikezele kuzo zonke iimfuno kunye neminqweno yabantwana babo, kuba ekugqibeleni iya kubamosha. Kwiivenkile kusoloko kukho into entsha nenomtsalane, kodwa iingcali zicebisa ukuba izipho zinikwe abantwana kuphela njengomvuzo wokuphumeza izinto ezibalulekileyo ebomini babo okanye ngezihlandlo ezithile ezibalulekileyo. Ngamanye amazwi, izipho kufuneka zifunyanwe kwimithendeleko kunye nezihlandlo okanye zifunyenwe le mivuzo, oko kukuthi, akufanele zibe ngumthombo wobunewunewu. Ezi zipho zinokunikelwa njengembuyekezo xa abantwana besenza imisebenzi yabo yemihla ngemihla, njengokunceda abantakwabo, ukugcina amagumbi abo ecocekile nokuwugqiba kwangethuba umsebenzi wabo wesikolo owenzelwa ekhaya, phakathi kwezinye izinto.

2. Ziqhelanise nezinto ezikhoyo

Abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukuziqhelanisa nezinto zokudlala kunye nemidlalo yabo yangoku. Akufanele banyanzelise ukuba batshintshe iimodeli zamva nje, njengoko kufuneka bafunde ukusebenzisa izinto zemihla ngemihla ixesha elide. Ngaphandle koko, iya kuba yingxaki esisigxina njengoko umntwana uya kunyanzelisa lonke ixesha ukufumana iimodeli ezintsha zayo nantoni na ukuba uyayifuna okanye akayifuni.

3. Linganisa ulindelo

Abantwana akufanele bavinjwe imidlalo esisiseko kwaye kufuneka bavunyelwe ukuba banandiphe ngokupheleleyo ubuntwana babo. Kodwa kufuneka bafundiswe ukulungelelanisa izinto abazilindeleyo kwaye bangazifihli ngokugqithisileyo, ukuze bangamoshwa. Abantwana banokuncedwa ukuba baphumelele izipho okanye izinto zokudlala abanqwenela ukuba bebenazo, kunokuba abazali baphinde bathi “hayi,” “andikwazi,” “andinakukwazi,” “andifanelanga.”

Ukuba umntwana ucela isipho esibizayo, esingeyomfuneko, apho abazali baqonda ukuba akuyi kuba nexabiso lemali, kwaye umntwana uya kulibala ngokukhawuleza emva kokudlala nayo inyanga, iingcali zicebisa ukulibazisa ukuthengwa kwale nto, okanye ungayithengi kwaphela kwaye uyitshintshe ngemveliso Enye iluncedo ngakumbi kwixesha elifutshane kunye nexesha elide.

4. Ukuzibekela usukelo

Iingcali zincomela ukuba abazali babeke usukelo abantwana babo abanokulufikelela xa befuna ukufumana into yokudlala okanye isipho abasithandayo. Amaxesha amaninzi, umntwana uya kufunda ukuba ukuzibekela usukelo nokusebenza kulo kuyanceda ekuphumeleleni izinto kwaye iinzame zabo zokuziphumelela aziyi kukhawuleza zinikezele emva kweentsuku okanye iiveki ezimbalwa.

5. Hlakulela imikhwa elungileyo

Iingcali zicebisa ukuba abazali baziqhelise imikhwa elungileyo kunye nabantwana babo, kuquka ixesha elilungeleleneyo lesikrini, ixesha losapho elisemgangathweni, kunye nexesha lokonwabela ukuhamba ngaphandle nokudlala ngaphandle kwexesha lokufunda ukuze yonke imisebenzi ilingane kwaye ifanele ubomi bomntwana.

6. Ingqayi yokubulela

Ilungu ngalinye losapho kufuneka lifake amanqaku kwingqayi yombulelo suku ngalunye malunga nokuba yintoni ebenza bazive benombulelo ngolo suku. Ekupheleni kwenyanga okanye iveki, indibano yentsapho okanye ucwangciso lunokubekelwa bucala ukuze kufundwe amanqaku emihla ngemihla, ngokuqinisekileyo asasaza iimvakalelo ezifudumeleyo nombulelo kwintsapho yonke.

7. Uvelwano lwabantu

Iingcali zithi amatheko athile akhethekileyo, njengemihla yokuzalwa, anokusetyenziswa kakuhle njengohambo lokuya kwikhaya leenkedama okanye kwiindawo ezihlelelekileyo kunokucwangciswa apho umntwana anokunikezela ngezinto zokubhala njengeencwadi, amaqebengwana okanye ukutya. Xa umntwana ebona indlela abavuya ngayo aba bavinjwayo ngokufumana izipho okanye ukutya neelekese, uya kuqalisa ukuxabisa iintsikelelo ngendlela esebenzisekayo aze afunde ukuxabisa oko akufumanayo ngokubanzi ebomini.