Funda ngolu lwazi lumangalisayo lwengqondo

1- Xa umntu ekuthumelela imiyalezo, kufuneka umphendule kwangaxeshanye, kuba eminye imiyalezo neencoko azinaxabiso ukuba aziphendulwanga ngaxeshanye, kuba iimvakalelo ezazikho ngelo xesha azihlali zihleli ixesha elide.

2- I-depression efunyanwa ngumntu ayiveli kwingxaki akuyo, kodwa kukucinga kakhulu ngayo.

I-3- Ukuzithemba: Akuyiyo inkolelo yokuba wonke umntu uya kukuthanda, kodwa "ukuzithemba" yinkolelo yakho yokuba ukuthandwa kwabantu okanye ukungabikho kwayo akuyi kukuchaphazela.

4- Ngokophononongo lwezengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseCornell:
Okukhona umntu engazithembi, kokukhona ethanda ukuthenga izinto angazidingiyo!

5- Nayiphi na i-negative feelings oyifihlileyo ngaphakathi kuwe iyakujika ngepesenti enkulu ibe sisifo.Isisombululo kukuveza iimvakalelo zakho ezimbi, ukhale ungenantloni, uhloniphe usizi lwakho kwaye wamkele, emva koko uyeke.

6. Asinguye wonke umntu ozibetha ngoyaba iimpazamo zakho okanye ukuziphatha kakubi ongenalwazi okanye ocothayo ukuqonda.
Abanye abantu abaphayo nabangokweemvakalelo bayawatyeshela amaphetshana alowo bamthandayo ukuze bangaphulukani nawo.