Izizathu ezihlanu zokusilela ngokweemvakalelo

ubudlelwane Emotional zisoloko flowing iimvakalelo kunye upscale kunye neemvakalelo emangalisayo, kodwa sihlala sibuza ukuba zeziphi izizathu ukusilela ubudlelwane bothando? Yonke ubudlelwane buhle ekuqaleni kwaye igutyungelwe zonke iintsingiselo zolonwabo, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukungakhathali nokungavumelani kuqala emva kweenyanga eziliqela kwaye uthando luphela ngokusilela ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokungaphumeleli kunokuphindwa ngamava esibini, okanye mhlawumbi ngaphezulu.

Ubudlelwane ngokweemvakalelo azilandeli imigangatho emiselweyo okanye ziwise imuvi yothando kubudlelwane bokwenyani.Omabini amaqela kufuneka aqonde ukuba ubudlelwane obubodwa bukhethekile, kunye neemeko zabo ezingafaniyo nobunye ubudlelwane.
Kukho inani leengcamango eziphosakeleyo ezikhokelela koku kusilela, kuquka:

I-1- Ubudlelwane obuphumelelayo akuthethi ukuba uthando oqale ngalo luya kuqhubeka luqina
Ubudlelwane ngokweemvakalelo uhamba ngezigaba eziliqela, ukuqala ngomtsalane kwezinye, izigaba nzulu kunye nengqiqo, kunye nenkolelo yelinye lamaqela ukuba ukusilela kwezinye zokuziphatha zothando akuthethi ukulahlekelwa iimvakalelo zothando, kunye nokuqhubeka amandla. yemeko yothando apho ubudlelwane baqala akukho ngqiqweni, kwaye akuthethi kwakhona ukuba ukhululekile ukuziphatha ukuthandana, kodwa kufuneka Omabini amaqela kufuneka aqonde uphuhliso lobudlelwane ukusuka kwelinye inqanaba kwaye ulungelelanise kwaye ujongane nezigaba ezizayo.

I-2- Ubudlelwane obuphumelelayo akuthethi ukuba elinye iqela aliphuli okanye liphikisana naye
Utshintshiselwano lweengxoxo, iingxoxo kunye nokwahluka kwezimvo akuthethi ukungahambelani kunye nokungaphumeleli kobudlelwane, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuba omabini amaqela aveze iimbono zawo kwaye afunde xa igama elithi "hayi" lithethwa ngaphandle kokuziva behlazekile kwaye behlazekile, kodwa umba ulele kwindlela yengxoxo kunye nolawulo lwengxoxo phakathi kwala maqela mabini, ekufuneka ibonakaliswe ngobugocigoci, kunye nokuqonda ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ukuyekelela akulehlisi ixabiso lelinye iqela, ngakumbi xa kukho impazamo yakhe.

3- Ubudlelwane obuphumelelayo akuthethi ukuba elinye iqela lithatha umlingiswa womnye
Inkolelo yokuba ubudlelwane obuyimpumelelo buxhomekeke ekulungelelaniseni ngokupheleleyo kwezimvo zala maqela mabini, kwaye ukutshintsha elinye lamaqela ukuze lanelise elinye ukuze lihambelane nendalo yakhe yimbono engekho ngqiqweni kuba umntu ngamnye unesimo esikhethekileyo kunye nendlela yokuphila, kwaye ukuphindukuzalwa komnye wamaqela kubuntu bomnye akusosizathu sokuphepha ukungaphumeleli kobudlelwane, kwaye ukuzama ukunyanzelisa umbono okhethekileyo kubangela ukuphela kwayo Inyaniso kukuba ukuzingisa kwayo ilele kumahluko onika ulonwabo. umdla kunye nokufunyanwa kwelinye iqela.

I-4- Ubudlelwane obuphumelelayo akuthethi ukuba omabini amaqela angenaziphene
Inyani ethile kufuneka iqondwe, eyokuba akukho mntu ungenaziphene, kodwa kukho iziphene ezilula ezinokudityaniswa kwaye zilungelelaniswe, kwaye zilungele ubume belinye iqela kwaye azikwazi ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane, kwaye iyakwenza oko. akuthethi ukuba amaqela amabini angenaziphene, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuba ngoyaba ezinye zokuziphatha kunye neziphene ezinokuthi Kwenzeka phakathi kwamaqabane amabini, ngakumbi ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, kodwa phantsi komqathango wokuba ungagqithi kwimida evumelekileyo yendalo kwaye ayibangeli umonakalo wazo zonke iintlobo kunye neefom kuyo nayiphi na yazo, kwaye igxininise kwizinto ezintle ezinokwahlula iqabane kwabanye.

I-5- Ubudlelwane obuyimpumelelo abuhambelani nomgaqo ophumeleleyo kunye nolahlekileyo:
Kufuneka kuqondwe ukuba umntu ngamnye uneempawu zakhe, umlingiswa, ubuntu obuzimeleyo kunye nesimbo.Ingcamango ephosakeleyo yokuba elinye lamaqela amabini lilawula kwaye lilawula phantsi kwesakhelo sokuqwalaselwa kukhokelela ekufuthaniseni elinye iqela kunye nobumnyama bobudlelwane. phakathi kwabo kunye nokusilela kwayo okuqinisekileyo.

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