Ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kuzenzela wena, ngoko menze abe ngumntwana ofanelekileyo

* Wonke umntwana ophantsi kwesinyanzelo uyaziphindezela
Kukho iindidi ezimbini zempindezelo:
1- ukuziphindezela okulungileyo
(Umntwana ohlakaniphile)
(inkani / ubundlongondlongo / imvukelo / ubundlobongela)

2- ukuziphindezela okubi
(umntwana onobuntu obubuthathaka)
(Ukuchama ngokuzenzekelayo / ukutsala iinwele / ukukhala kakhulu / ukuyeka ukutya / ukuluma iinzipho / ukuthintitha)

* Ukuze kunyangwe ihambo ephazamisayo, isimilo sabazali sifanele sitshintshwe yaye ihambo yokunyanzelisa ifanele iyekwe.

* Imiyalelo nezibongozo ezibaxiweyo eziya emntwaneni zimenza asondelelane xa efikisa (akafuni nokubaphulaphula abazali bakhe), kwanangokubethwa ngokusisigxina.
Umzekelo: Ukuba umntwana ubethe unina, kufuneka kusetyenziswe amandla kuye, hayi ugonyamelo, njengokumbamba ngesandla nokungambetha ngaphandle kokukhala okanye ukucaphuka.

* Nakuphi na ukuziphatha kakubi kufuna indlela yokucima (ukungahoyi)
Qaphela: Zonke iinzame zokuguqula indlela yokuziphatha ephazamisayo yomntwana ngeendlela ezingalunganga (ubundlobongela - isoyikiso - isilingo) zinokumtyhala umntwana ukuba aguqule indlela yokuziphatha ephazamisayo ibe yimbi kwaye ibe nzima ngakumbi kunyango.

* Ubudenge yiyona njini yenkani (ukususela kwiminyaka enye enesiqingatha - iminyaka emibini) kwaye kufuneka athembele kuye (umzekelo: udla yedwa ngoncedo lwakho).

* Ukusuka kwimfundo embi: Inkululeko eninzi kakhulu - iintshumayelo zemihla ngemihla kuba ziyonakalisa, ngoko kufuneka zibe (imizuzu eyi-1-2) ngeveki kuphela.

* Isimbo sokugrogrisa (yenza...ngendlela engenye....) okanye (ukuba awenzanga njalo... Ndiza kuxelela uyihlo) umntwana oligwala kwixesha elizayo aze uyise abe lirhamncwa..

* Eyona ndlela imbi yemfundo kukoyika umama notata kukhokelela kwisenzo sokuziphatha okungafunwayo ngaphandle kolwazi lwabo.

* Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokukhulisa abantwana kukuhlonela utata nomama, nto leyo ekhokelela ekubeni bangenzi izinto ezingafunwayo phambi kwabo okanye bengazi.

* Isohlwayo yeyona nto imbi esinokuyenza emntwaneni kuba yindlela yabangenakuzinceda.
* Ukuba umntwana uyohlwaywa, uya kuziphindezela.

* Xa esebenzisa isohlwayo nezithuko ekuqhubaneni nomntwana, uya kuba ngumntu ongenabuntu nohanahaniso kwixesha elizayo.

* Ukuba umntwana uyacaphuka (uyakhala/ubetha), simwola ngasemva ngokumbambazela umzuzu singathethi.

* Akunyanzelekanga ukuba sifundise umntwana ukuzikhusela ngokukubetha (ukuba ukubetha, mbethe), kodwa simfundisa ukuba makakhalaze njani yaye kubani.

• Akufunekanga siphazamisane nayo nayiphi na into embi eyenziwa ngabantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emithandathu ubudala, kodwa endaweni yoko sibavumele bafunde izakhono zobomi ngezinto ezibangqongileyo.

* Ukususela ekuzalweni ukuya kwiminyaka eyi-7, i-90% yobuntu bomntwana yenziwe (siya kuyibona kwixesha elizayo).

Ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-7-18, i-10% yobuntu bakhe yenziwa.

* Isiseko sazo zonke ezi zinto kukuqinisekiswa.. Umzekelo: Andikuthandi.. Le yeyona ntetho iyingozi kakhulu enokuthiwa emntwaneni. Kunoko, simele sithi: Andiyithandi into oyenzileyo, kodwa ndiya ndiyakuthanda.

* Esona sohlwayo sibalulekileyo nesilungileyo sisohlwayo esinendumiso.. (Ulungile – uchubekile – u… yenza oku nokunye).

* Isohlwayo sinokuba kukujonga nje.

* Isohlwayo sisenokucaphuka (ungathethi nomntwana, kodwa imizuzu emibini kuphela)
Umzekelo: Unemizuzu eli-10 mhlawumbi…..okanye……, kwaye emva kwemizuzu eli-10, yenza le nto ndiyithethileyo. apha ufunda uxanduva.

* Umntwana makanganyanzelwa ukuba anike abanye into phezu kwayo nje yena.Abantwana bayayazi indlela yokuqhubana omnye nomnye, yaye umntwana ukuya kutsho kwiminyaka esi-7 ubudala uyazingca (uyazibumba).

Ukufundisa abantwana ukubhala:

* Ukuba umntwana ufunda ukubhala engaphantsi kweminyaka emi-6 ubudala, inxalenye ethile yengqondo ikhula ngaphambi kwexesha, ngoko emva kweminyaka eli-12 udla ngokukuthiya ukufunda, ukubhala nokufundisisa.

Ukholo luvelisa ukuziphatha. 

Ukuziphatha okuphazamisayo komntwana kubangelwa yinkolelo ayikholelwayo ngaye.
* Umntwana uqokelela ulwazi ngaye ngemiyalezo (wena).... ndingubani ??
Umzekelo: Umama uthi: Ndi... , Ukuba ndi ….
Umfundisi wathi: Ndi... , Ukuba ndi …..
Utata uthi: Ndiyoyikeka ... Ngoko ndilungile
* Umntwana wenza kuphela oko akucingayo ngaye yaye uqhubana nesi siseko.

Isisombululo sokuziphatha okucaphukisayo:
1- Misela umgangatho owufunayo kumntwana wakho (unobubele / uluncedo ..).

I-2- 70 imiyalezo ngosuku kule ndawo (tsho le miyalezo emotweni, xa usitya nangaphambi kokulala ....)

3- Yazisa umntwana wakho kwabo bakungqongileyo mihla le:
Njani ?? Yithi, "UThixo ethanda."
Kodwa kwimeko enye, ukuba uthethe igama elibi kumntwana okanye umemeza kuye, uya kubuya umva ukusuka kwi-zero kwaye uqale kwakhona.

Imigaqo yokutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha:

1- Ukumisela ukuziphatha okungafunwayo (esingathanda ukuyitshintsha).

2- Ukuthetha nomntwana ngokukodwa malunga noko sikulindele kuye kunye noko sifuna.

3-Mbonise indlela okunokwenziwa ngayo oku.

4- Mncome kwaye umbulele umntwana ngokuziphatha kakuhle, ungazincomeli yena kodwa izenzo zakhe ezilungileyo: Uyamangalisa kuba uzolile kwaye kumnandi ukuzola.

5- Ukuqhubeka nokudumisa ukuziphatha de kube ngumkhwa.

6- Ukuphepha ukusetyenziswa kobundlobongela.

I-7- Yiba khona kunye nabantwana bakho (ukuba umntwana ulahlekelwa ingqalelo yabazali, ulahlekelwa iinjongo zokutshintsha ukuziphatha).

8- Ukungazikhumbuli iimpazamo zexesha elidlulileyo.. (umntwana uyakhathazeka)

9- Ukunganiki imiyalelo kumntwana xa ukwimeko engaqhelekanga (ukudinwa okugqithisileyo - umsindo - uxinzelelo).

Zikhwebule ngokupheleleyo kwezi zinto zingalunganga:

1- Ukugxeka (umzekelo: Ndikuxelele kwaye aweva amagama) Endaweni yoko sithi ( Uyoyikeka ... kodwa ukuba wenza ...)

I-2- Ityala (kutheni ungenzanga ngolu hlobo?)

3- Ukuthelekisa (kutshabalalisa ubudlelwane bokuthembana phakathi kwabazali nabantwana), umzekelo (jonga uZibani-bani oneminyaka emi-5 ubudala kwaye uhlakaniphile kunawe ngokwezemfundo) kuphela inkwenkwe kufuneka ifaniswe nayo.

4- I-irony ikhokelela kubunzima bokuzithemba

5- Ukulawula (ukuhlala / ukumamela intetho / phakama / yenza...) Umntwana ngendalo ukhululekile kwaye akathandi ukulawulwa..

6-Ukungamameli.

7- Ukungxola...sisithuko emntwaneni kwaye uzidanise.