Indlela yokujongana nesigulane esidangele

Isigulana esidakumbileyo sifuna unyango olukhethekileyo.Uxinezeleko sisifo sengqondo esiyingozi, kodwa sinokunyangwa. Ichaphazela izigidi zabantu, ukususela kwabaselula ukusa kwabakhulileyo

Kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi, ithintela ubomi bemihla ngemihla yaye ibangela intlungu engathethekiyo yangaphakathi, ingekona nje kuphela abo babandezelekileyo kodwa ichaphazela wonke umntu obangqongileyo.
Ukuba umntu omthandayo udandathekile, unako ubuso bakho Ezinye iimvakalelo ezinzima, kuquka ukungakwazi ukuzinceda, ukudandatheka, nokuziva unetyala

kunye nokudabuka, okuyiemvakalelo eziqhelekileyo, njengoko kungelula ukujongana nokudandatheka komhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho.
Ukudakumba kuphelisa amandla omntu, ukuba nethemba, kunye nentshukumisa.

Ukudakumba kwenza kube nzima ukuba umntu adibanise kwinqanaba elinzulu leemvakalelo kunye nabani na ongomnye kwindawo ebangqongileyo, nokuba lelinye lawona malungu entsapho asondeleyo. Iqhelekile into yokuba abantu abadandathekileyo bathethe izinto ezibuhlungu baze bagqabhuke ngumsindo.

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Khumbula ukuba olu luhlobo lokudakumba, hayi uhlobo lwesigulana, ke zama ukungazithatheli ngokwakho.

Uzibona njani iimpawu zokudakumba kwilungu losapho?

Usapho kunye nabahlobo badla ngokuba ngowona mgca wokuqala wokuzikhusela ekulweni nokudakumba, yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuqonda iimpawu.

kunye neempawu zokudakumba Unokuyiqaphela ingxaki kumntu omthandayo odandathekileyo ngaphambi kokuba ayenze, kwaye impembelelo yakho kunye nokuxhalaba kunokumkhuthaza ukuba afune uncedo. Mhlawumbi ezona mpawu zibalaseleyo zokudakumba ezibonakala ngokucacileyo kwisigulana:
- Ukungabikho komdla kuyo nayiphi na into, nokuba ngumsebenzi, izinto zokuzonwabisa okanye ezinye izinto ezizonwabisayo, njengoko isigulane esidakumbileyo siziva sifuna ukurhoxa ekusebenzelaneni nabahlobo, usapho kunye nezinye izinto zentlalo.
Ukuvakalisa imbono emfiliba okanye engakhiyo ngobomi, apho umguli odandathekileyo eziva edakumbile ngokungaqhelekanga okanye ecaphuka ngokungaqhelekanga

ukucaphuka ngokukhawuleza, ukugxeka okanye ukucaphuka; Uthetha kakhulu malunga nokuziva "engenakunceda" okanye "engenathemba," kwaye uhlala ekhalaza ngeentlungu kunye neentlungu ezinjengentloko ebuhlungu, iingxaki zesisu, kunye nomqolo, okanye ukukhalaza ngokuziva udiniwe kwaye uphelile ngamaxesha onke.

- Ukulala ngaphantsi kwesiqhelo okanye ukulala ngaphezu kwesiqhelo, njengoko isigulane esidakumbileyo siba mathidala, silibale kwaye singalungelelani.
Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla okanye ngokuchasene ngqo, apho isigulane esidakumbileyo sitya ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi kunesiqhelo,

Kwakhona uyazuza okanye anciphise umzimba kakhulu ... Ucinga ntoni ngokuqaphela iimpawu zokudakumba okuthe cwaka?

Uthetha njani nomntu ngokudakumba?

Ukuphulaphula kakuhle ngaphandle kokugweba okanye ukusola kunceda izigulana ezidandathekileyo ukuba zivakalise iimvakalelo zazo (Umthombo: Adobe.Stock)

Ngamanye amaxesha kusenokuba nzima ukwazi into omawuyithethe xa uthetha nomntu ngodandatheko.Unoloyiko lokuba xa uveza izinto ezikuxhalabisayo, loo mntu uya kuba nomsindo, akhubeke, okanye angahoyi izinto ezikuxhalabisayo.Usenokungaqinisekanga ngemibuzo omawuyibuze. okanye indlela yokuxhasa, ngoko la macebiso alandelayo anokunceda.

1- Khumbula ukuba ukuba ngumphulaphuli onovelwano kubaluleke kakhulu kunokunika iingcebiso.Akufuneki uzame "ukulungisa" isigulane esidangele, kufuneka ube ngumphulaphuli olungileyo.Kaninzi, isenzo esilula sokuthetha ubuso nobuso. inokuba luncedo olukhulu kumntu odandathekileyo.
2-Khuthaza umntu odakumbileyo ukuba athethe ngeemvakalelo zakhe, kwaye ulungiselele kakuhle ukumamela ngaphandle kokugweba okanye ukusola.
I-3- Musa ukulindela ukuba incoko enye ibe sisiphelo, njengoko abantu abanokudakumba bavame ukurhoxa kwabanye kwaye bazihlukanise, ngoko unokufuna ukubonisa inkxalabo kunye nokuzimisela ukuphulaphula ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye ube nobubele kwaye uzingise. Ukuqalisa incoko, kufuneka izivakalisi ezithile ukuze kube lula ukuthetha ngesigulana esidandathekileyo.Ukufumana indlela yokuqalisa incoko ngodandatheko nomntu omthandayo kusoloko kuyeyona nto inzima, ngoko unokuzama ukuthetha ezinye zezi zivakalisi zilandelayo:
"Bendiziva ndinexhala mva nje ngawe."
Kutshanje ndiye ndaqaphela umahluko kuwe kwaye ndizibuza ukuba uqhuba njani.
"Bendifuna ukunxibelelana nawe kuba ubumhle mva nje."

Nje ukuba umntu odakumbileyo ethethe nawe, unokubuza imibuzo efana nale:
"Uqale nini ukuziva kanje?"
“Ngaba kukho into eyenzekayo ekwenze ukuba uvakalelwe ngolu hlobo?”
Ndingakuxhasa njani ngokugqibeleleyo?
"Ukhe wacinga ngokufumana uncedo?"
4- Khumbula ukuba ukuxhasa kubandakanya ukunika inkuthazo kunye nethemba.Amaxesha amaninzi, ukuthetha nomntu ngolwimi aluqondayo kwaye unokuphendula ngelixa ekwimo edangeleyo yengqondo kubaluleke kakhulu.
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