Ujongana njani nomyeni wakho obandayo ngokweemvakalelo?

“Wayeneemvakalelo zothando ebudeni bokuganana kwethu yaye watshintsha emva komtshato,” “Akasandithandi njengangaphambili,” “Ndinokuphinda ndilufumane njani ubushushu bothando lwakhe?” “

Uninzi lwabafazi bakhalaza ngabayeni babo malunga nokubanda kobomi babo beemvakalelo emva komtshato kunye nokutshintsha okukhulu phakathi kothando lokuthandana kunye nesiqhelo sobomi bomtshato.

Kwaye uqala ukukhangela izisombululo kwaye ufumanise izizathu ezikhokelele kuloo nto, ke siya kukunika ukuba ndingubani uSalwa ezi ngcebiso:

• Kufuneka uqale ukhumbule ukuba ukungxama kunye nokuthandana awadibana naye kwakungeyonkohliso, kodwa emva komtshato, akukho mfuneko yokwenza umgudu omkhulu wokusondela kuwe, njengexesha lokuthandana kunye nokwazana, ngoko waba. isibini esitshatileyo, nobabini nilubonakalisa uthando lwenu komnye ngaphandle komgudu okanye intetho.
• Emva kwexesha lomtshato, umyeni uqala ukuqhelana nomfazi wakhe kunye neempawu zakhe kunye nobuhle, kunye nomdla wakhe kuye, kwaye yonke into iba yendalo kuye, ngoko kufuneka uhlale uhlaziya kangangoko kunokwenzeka indlela yokuphila ohlala kuyo. imihla ngemihla, njengoko kufuneka uhlaziye inkangeleko yakho kunye nohlobo lomdla wakho kuyo, kuba Ukuba nesimilo esinye kulo naluphi na ulwalamano sesona sizathu sibalulekileyo sokwenza ukuba kukruquke kwaye kubande.

• Isicelo esiqhubekayo sothando kunye nengqalelo siyacaphukisa, ukuba ufuna ukuba umyeni wakho azive enetyala ukuze akubonise uthando lwakhe, le ndlela iphikisana, njengoko ikwenza ube buthathaka kwaye awuyi kuhlangabezana nesiphumo esifunwayo emva kwesicelo sakho sokuqwalaselwa, kwaye oku kuya kwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi kuwe, yaye usenokukugqala oku njengocelomngeni nokungakhathali kwiimvakalelo zakho vakalisa iimvakalelo zakho ngaphandle kokucenga iimvakalelo uze uzame ukumphulaphula ngakumbi yaye ungenzi naziphi na izityholo nxamnye naye ezifana nezi: “Awusandithandi. ”, “Uyabanda”, “Awunamvakalelo”.

• Sebenzisa amagama akhuthazayo afana nala: “Ndiyavuya ngale nto undenzela yona”, “Ndiyazingca ngomsebenzi wakho”, “Ndiyayithanda le ndlela uziphethe ngayo”…. , oko kumkhuthaza ukuba abonise ngakumbi nangakumbi iimvakalelo zakhe kuwe.
• Ukuba umbona ejongene nengxaki kwaye akafuni kuthetha ngayo, musa ukumcinezela ukuba athethe, kodwa mvumele azive ukuba uza kumkhupha kwimeko yakhe embi kwaye uya kuma naye, loo nto iya kumenza azive. ukhuselekile kwaye ubhenela kuwe kuzo zonke iingxaki zakhe.
• Qiniseka ukuba uchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni nomyeni wakho qho ngeempelaveki ungekho ekhaya yaye ningaxubushi ngezinto ezixhalabisa ikhaya, intsapho nomsebenzi, yaye eli lithuba elibalulekileyo lokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho yaye ngaloo ndlela uxhokonxe iimvakalelo zakhe uze umnyanzele ukuba azityhile. ngaphandle kokukubuza.

• Zinakekele ngokusisigxina, kwaye ukhethe iimpahla azithandayo, umbala weenwele awuthandayo, okanye ipolishi yeenzipho…. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubanda kangakanani na, uya kuphawula oko yaye ukwazi ukuba umdla wakho kuwe ungowaye kuya kuzivuselela iimvakalelo zakhe kuze kumenze akuvakalise oko kuwe.
• Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kubonakala kunzima kangakanani oko okanye ufikelele kwinqanaba lokuphelelwa lithemba lokumtshintsha kwaye ukubanda kwakhe akunasisombululo, uya kufumana umphumo wemizamo yakho, njengokuba wawuvuselela iimvakalelo zakhe ngaphambili, unako ukuzihlaziya, kodwa kufuneka ufumane i-catalyst kuphela.