Utsala njani indoda kuwe?

Ingqikelelo yomtsalane wabasetyhini iyahluka kumntu ngamnye, ukuze azobe engqondweni yakhe iinkcukacha ezithile zomntu wasetyhini atsaleleke kuye, kodwa kukho iingqikelelo eziqhelekileyo ekungekho mntu wahluke ngazo kuzo zonke izinto ezithandwayo, indawo esingqongileyo kunye neenkcubeko, ezisuka kubuntu bakho. Umtsalane emehlweni akho kuqala ukuba ubonakale kuye wonke umntu okungqongileyo, siza kubona ezinye zezi zichazi:

• Ukuhlala kude nokulinganisa: Le yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo uCoco Chanel wathi kwingcebiso yakhe malunga nobuhle: "Ubuhle buqala xa uthatha isigqibo sokuba nguwe."

Sukuzitshintsha iimpawu zakho ezintle kwaye ungazisi ubuqhetseba kubuntu bakho, kuba ukuzenzela kunye nobuntu bendalo bungena ezintliziyweni zabo bonke abantu kwaye babenze bazive bekhululekile kwaye bonwabele ubukho bakho.

• Ubuhle: Ukunika ingqalelo kwinkangeleko yakho kunye nokunyamekela ubuhle bakho kubaluleke kakhulu, njengoko imbonakalo ngokubanzi inika impembelelo ebalulekileyo yokuqala kunye nombono malunga nobuntu bakho ngokubanzi.

• Ubuhle bangaphandle bubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa asiyiyo yonke into.Ubuhle ayisiyiyo yodwa into esiyibonayo, kodwa inxulumene nobuhle bakho bangaphakathi, obuvela kukwaneliseka kwakho, ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nobukhulu benkcubeko kunye nobukrelekrele bakho.
• Kuphephe ukuxoka: kufana nokucima zonke iinkcukacha ezintle zomntu, mhlawumbi ubone umhlobo wakho exoka kwaye wacinga ukuba unethamsanqa kunamadoda, kodwa eneneni unethamsanqa kuphela ngenkangeleko okanye ukuxoka.

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• Ubufazi: Ngokufuthi igama lobufazi elifika kwintelekelelo yethu likukuhenda kwaye lizama ukubonisa kuphela icala lezesondo lebhinqa, kwaye le yenye yezona mpazamo zinzulu esinokuwela kuzo kuba ubufazi abukokuhenda kwaye akutsali mntu ngaphandle kobufazi. Ngenjongo ethile Abadlali beqonga abahendayo abanazo naziphi na iimpawu zobufazi, ezimelwe nguKubucekeceke kunye nembeko ekuphatheni, ithoni yelizwi elizolileyo kunye neentloni kunye nokomelela kobuntu ngaxeshanye.

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