Indlela yokuba ngumntu ozolileyo kwaye onengqondo

Ngaba abahlobo nosapho badla ngokukuchaza “njengonengxolo,” “unengxolo,” okanye “uyathetha”? Ngaba uziva ngathi uthetha kakhulu kangangokuba awukwazi ukumamela iimvakalelo neengcinga zabanye abantu? Ukuba unale ngxaki, ngaba ukhe wacinga ngokuba ngumntu ozolileyo? Kusenokwenza umahluko obonakalayo kulwalamano lwakho njengoko usiya uqondana ngakumbi, intsapho nabahlobo bakho baya kuvakalelwa kukuba ubahlonela ngakumbi, yaye abayi kukujonga baze bazixelele ukuba, “Ngaba ubuya kuthi cwaka kancinane!”

Ekuqaleni, unokukhetha iimeko apho ufuna ukuzola, kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha iya kuba yinxalenye yendalo yokuba ungubani. Kodwa kufuneka, njengalo naliphi na ilinge lokutshintsha ubuntu, ngokuthe ngcembe. Ukuba usuka phezulu uye kuthi cwaka ngequbuliso, abantu baya kucinga ukuba ukwinto engalunganga. Baxelele nje ukuba uzama ukuzola kwaye ubavumele babone kwaye bakuxabise ukukhula kwakho.

Ukuba ukholelwa ngenene ukuba le yeyona nto kanye uyidingayo, qhubeka ufunda inqaku lanamhlanje kunye no-Anna Salwa.

Ziphathe ngokuzolileyo

Yenza ngenyameko ngakumbi. Abantu abazolileyo bakholisa ukwenza kancinci ngokuzenzekela, kwaye bacinge ngezigqibo zabo kwii-engile ezahlukeneyo ngaphambi kokuba bazenze. Bahlala behamba ngamanyathelo ngamabom kwaye ababambeki ngokulula kwiimeko zequbuliso. Bahlala bekwimo yolindelo yaye becinga ngenyathelo labo elilandelayo.[XNUMX] Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe inyathelo, soloko uzama ukucinga ngemiphumo.
Abantu abathuleyo bayathanda ukuhlala ngaphandle kwamaqela. Ukuba kukho isiphithiphithi kwaye wonke umntu ugijimela kwiifestile ukuze abone, umntu othuleyo uya kuqala athathe ixesha lokucinga ukuba kufanelekile ukuya phambili. Abantu abathuleyo abachaphazeleki ngendlela efanayo nabantu abangxolayo.

Sebenzisa ulwimi lomzimba ukuze ubonakale umhle kwaye unobuhlobo.

Kulula kakhulu ukusondela kumntu othuleyo kunomntu ongxolayo okanye onogonyamelo. Umntu ozolileyo udla ngokusebenzisa ulwimi olulula lomzimba kunye nentetho engathathi hlangothi, kwaye akatyekeli kangako kwiintetho ezichukumisayo. Yiyo loo nto abantu bedla ngokucinga ukuba umntu othuleyo unobubele kunomntu ongxolayo, nangona oku akusoloko kunjalo.
Ukuze uhlale uvule kwaye unobuhlobo, gcina intloko yakho iphezulu, kwaye ugcine amehlo akho evulekile. Gcina ukhululekile kwaye ungathobekiyo ukuhlala okanye ukuma, njengokungathi uhleli wedwa kwigumbi lokulinda elingenanto. Chitha ixeshana ucamngca ngento ongenakuze ukwazi ukuyibona ukuba ubuxakeke kakhulu uncokola.

Yiba nomonde kunye nengqiqo.

Xa ukunye nomntu othuleyo, uya kuphawula ukuba banempembelelo epholileyo emoyeni, benceda abo babangqongileyo ukuba bazinze kwaye bacinge ngokucacileyo. Kutheni ungabi ngulo mntu? Xa wonke umntu engakwazi ukulawula, yiba lilizwi lokuqiqa. Kwaye xa ekugqibeleni uvule umlomo wakho ukuba uthethe - kwaye iya kuba sisiganeko esinqabileyo - wonke umntu uya kumamela ngokuzenzekelayo.
Oku kuya kukunika amandla amaninzi, kwaye kuya kukujika ube yinkokeli enobuchule, ethuleyo. Xa abo bakungqongileyo bephawula ukuba usoloko uzolile yaye ukhululekile, yaye uthetha ngokufutshane nangempumelelo, baya kuziva benotyekelo lwemvelo lokukulandela.

Zuza ukuthenjwa ngabanye ngokuthenjwa nangokungqale.

Abantu abazolileyo badla ngokuba nobuchule kwiimeko ezifuna ukuthenjwa ngabanye. Ezi zingxolayo zidla ngokubonakala ngathi azinangqondo, zinomsindo yaye zizingca. Bonisa ubuntu bakho obutsha kwaye uvumele ukuba buthathe indawo. Kwaye usenokuba ufumanise ukuba bonke abantu - ngokukhawuleza kakhulu - beze kuwe beze kuwe.
Lo mdla omtsha kuwe kufuneka ukwenze uthembeke ngakumbi. Unxibelelwano lwezentlalo olukungqongileyo aluyi kuphazamisa njengangaphambili, kwaye oku kuya kushiya indawo yokuhoya izibophelelo zakho. Gcina loo moya, ingakumbi ukuba kudala uneengxaki ezinjalo.

Zazi wena, kwaye uyachasa.

Ukuba ucinga ukuba uyangxola kwaye awunangqondo (kwaye ukuba eneneni uyangxola kwaye awukhathali), cinga ngeenjongo zakho. Xa uhlala phantsi ukuze utye kunye nosapho lwakho, nikela ingqalelo kwiingcamango kunye nokuziphatha ozifumana uqhutyelwa kuyo. Emva koko qala ngokukhetha into enye kwaye wenze ngokuchaseneyo. Ngaba unomdla wokuqalisa ukuncokola malunga neetapile ezicujiweyo? Wuxhathise umnqweno wakho. Qhubeka ukhethe amadabi akho.
Qala ngokuthe ngcembe, kunjalo. Awuyi kujika ngesiquphe ekubeni yintetho ube ngofihlayo. Khetha umzuzu okanye ezimbini ngosuku xa uziva unqwenela ukuhleba, kwaye uzame ukuzibamba. Kuya kuba lula ngokuhamba kwexesha.