Indlela yokuba ngumntu ozithembileyo nonomtsalane

Yintoni ukuzithemba?
Kukuba umntu azazi ngokupheleleyo izakhono zakhe kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe okuhle.Kukukholelwa komntu kwizigqibo zakhe, kwiinjongo kunye nobuchule bakhe.Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ukuzithemba kunxibelelene nekratshi kunye nokugqithisela.Kukukholelwa kuphela kwisakhono. kunye nokukwazi ukufikelela empumelelweni kwaye ufumane into oyifunayo, kodwa ukuzithemba akuthethi ukuba yonke into oyithethayo okanye oyenzayo.Uyenza ngokufanelekileyo.Ukuba udibana neempazamo, kufuneka uyivume impazamo.Kungenjalo, kuya kuba kukuzithemba okukhapha inkani. Ukuzingisa, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba kungajongwa njengokuzithemba.Kuthathwa njengokunyanzeliswa kobuntu.Akabizwa ngokuba ngumntu ozithembileyo.Ukuzithemba luphawu olukhula lukhule ngokukhula komntu, Umntu akazalwa, kwaye luphawu olukhoyo kuye, kwaye oku akuthethi ukuba asiyonto yofuzo, yandise, ikwenza uzive ukhethekile, kwaye ikugcine kude nokuzinikela nokuzithoba.
Uzithemba njani? 
I-1- Ukunyamekela inkangeleko yangaphandle kunye nobuhle, ayisiyiyo impahla enika ixabiso emntwini, kodwa iimpahla ezintle zikunika imvakalelo apho uzive uqinisekile, ngubani oya kukhathalela ubuhle bethu kodwa thina.

2- Ukuhamba kusoloko kubonisa ukuzithemba kwakho.

I-3- Isakhiwo somzimba wakho xa umile kwaye uhleli, yenza umva wakho uqonde kwaye uphakamise intloko yakho, kodwa ungabi kakhulu, kwaye ube ngamehlo akho kwabo uthetha nabo ngokuthe ngqo, oku kuchaphazela abanye kwaye kukunika ukuzithemba ngokwakho.

4- Ukuzincoma kwaye ubala iingenelo zakho kunye nezinto ezintle ukuze uzive uxabisekile kwaye ukuzithemba kukunika ukuzithemba okupheleleyo.
5- Xa ukwintetho okanye naphi na, hlala kumqolo wokuqala, njengoko uninzi lwethu lukhangela iindawo zokugqibela, njengoko oko kubonisa ukungazithembi. ngaphambili kuya kukunceda ukuba ukhuphe uloyiko, ixhala kunye noxinzelelo.

I-6- Kufuneka uncome abanye ukuze bangakuphathi kakubi kwaye bazive bengento yanto, ngaloo ndlela unciphisa ukuzithemba kwakho.

7-Xa uthetha, thetha ngokuvakalayo nangokuvakalayo, kwaye ithoni yelizwi lakho icacile, abanye bayayiqonda into oyithethayo, kodwa musa ukukhwaza kakhulu, ukuze abanye bakuqaphele kwaye badide ingxoxo yakho.

8- Yabelana nabanye ngolonwabo kunye neentlungu zabo, ukuze uzive ukubaluleka kobukho bakho, kwaye kwandisa ukuzithemba kwakho.