Indlela yokwahlula ezona mpawu zibalulekileyo zomntu onobungqingili?

Ezinye zeempawu ezinokusenza silindele (singaqinisekanga) ukuba lo mntu unotyekelo lobufanasini zezi zilandelayo:

1_ Ukuthetha kakhulu ngabantu besini esifanayo

Isithandwa sakho okanye intombi yakho ithetha ngomdla omkhulu kunye nokuncoma ngabantu besini esifanayo.

Wonke umntu ngenye imini usenokuthetha kamnandi ngomnye umntu, nokuba ungowesini esifanayo.

Kodwa ukuba isithandwa sakho okanye intombi yakho igxile kwezinye iinkcukacha ezifana (ukuthanda, uncumo, amanyathelo, inkangeleko... ) kumntu wesini esifanayo, oku kunokubonisa ukuba banotyekelo lwezesondo kubantu besini esifanayo

2_ Iimbonakalo ezichukumisayo kunye nemincili kubantu besini esifanayo ziphakathi kweempawu zenkwenkwe evulekileyo:

Abantu abatyekele ngokwesondo kubantu besini esahlukileyo (abangengabo abantu besini esahlukileyo) babafumana bejonge abantu besini esahlukileyo bencoma (imbono yendoda ngomfazi okanye imbono yowesifazane ngendoda).

Ngelixa indoda eyindoda okanye ibhinqa elithandanayo lijonge ngokusondeleyo kumntu wesini esifanayo

Ngelixa bengenamdla kwisini esahlukileyo (ngaphandle kwabantu besini esahlukileyo)

3_ Ukungakhathali kubukho besini esahlukileyo lolunye lweempawu ezinkulu zenkwenkwe evulekileyo:

Njengoko besesitshilo, olona phawu lukhulu lwenkwenkwe evulekileyo kukubanda okukhulu kunye nokuba dikidiki xa kufikwa kwisini esahlukileyo. Umhlobo okanye intombi yakho ayibonakalisi mdla kulo mbandela ngokungathi abantu besini esahlukileyo abakho kweli hlabathi!

Ubukho nje balo mqondiso akuthethi ukuba umhlobo wakho uyi-gay, unokuba "asexual", ngoko ke akanamdla kumbandela wesini konke konke.

4_ Zonke zithetha ngobufanasini:

Kuzo zonke iingxoxo kunye neengxoxo zonke ufumanisa ukuba umhlobo wakho uzama ukujika kwisihloko sobufanasini kwaye abuze imibuzo engathanga ngqo malunga nokukhethwa ngokwesondo kunye nomdla womntu wesini esifanayo.

Mhlawumbi kukuthanda ukwazi okumqhubela ekubeni athethe ngalo mbandela okanye uthando lolwazi ngemibandela entununtunu

Kodwa ukuba oku kwenzeka ngalo lonke ixesha, ngoko oku kungabonisa ukuba umhlobo wakho uyi-gay.

Kodwa iimpawu zendoda yobungqingili okanye iimpawu zomfazi onobungqingili azikhawulelwanga kulo mqondiso.، Ngoko ke abafanele bagwetywe ngokusekelwe kwimibandela abasoloko bethetha ngayo.

5_ Inkangeleko yomzimba isondele kwisini esahlukileyo:

Olu phawu luhlala luhambelana kwaye alunakulinganiswa kuwo onke amafanasini.

Kwiimeko ezininzi, i-homosexual yendoda ithandeka kumntu obhinqileyo ngendlela enxiba ngayo, ethetha kwaye eshukumayo.

Kodwa asingawo onke amafanasini afaneleka kule nkcazo, njengoko kukho amadoda angamafanasini abonakala engasebenzi kuyo nayiphi na impawu zobufazi.

Kukwanjalo nakumabhinqa athandana namanye, njengoko kukho abo batyekele ebudodeni kwindlela abanxiba nabathetha ngayo.

Kodwa ayingawo onke amabhinqa angama-gay ahambelana nale nkcazo.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba umhlobo wakho uyindoda kwaye indlela yakhe yokuthetha kunye nesinxibo sesetyhini kakhulu,

Okanye ukuba umhlobo wakho ungumfazi kwaye indlela athetha ngayo kwaye anxibe ngayo iyindoda kakhulu,

Ezi zizinto eziya kukwenza ukuba ucinge ukuba isoka okanye intombi yakho iyi-gay.

6_ Akukho utyekelo lwezesondo kubahlobo besini esahlukileyo:

Isithandwa sakho okanye isithandwa sakho singqongwe ngabahlobo abaninzi besini esahlukileyo ngaphandle kokuba neentlobano zesini kubo.

Umzekelo, ufumana indoda ethandana namanye amantombazana engqongwe ngamantombazana amaninzi ngalo lonke ixesha ngaphandle kokuba nobudlelwane bezesondo komnye wabo.

7- Ukutyelela iindawo ezaziwa ngokuba zizifanasini:

Kweliphi ilizwe ehlabathini apho ufumana khona iindawo apho abantu abathandana besini esifanayo baya khona, ngokusemthethweni (kumazwe aqaphela amalungelo abantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabo) okanye ngokungekho semthethweni (kumazwe enza ubufanasini bube lulwaphulo-mthetho)

Ngokubanzi, ezi ndawo zaziwa ngokutyelelwa ngabantu abathandana besini esifana nesakhe, ngoko ke ukuba umhlobo wakho naye undwendwela kwezi ndawo, kungokwemvelo ukukrokrela utyekelo lwakhe lwesini.

8_ Isangqa sabahlobo siquka amafanasini:

Ukuba uninzi lwezihlobo zakho zesithandwa okanye zentombi zizifanasini, oko kukwenza ukuba uzibuze ukuba isoka lakho nalo lifana nesini.