Zeziphi iziseko zemfundo enempumelelo nephilileyo?Ubakhusela njani abantwana bakho kubuqhophololo boluntu?

Ngumcimbi okhathaza wonke umama notata, ngoko ubona wonke umama ekhalaza kwaye esoyika ukuba abantwana bakhe abancinci baya kutshayelwa ngumkhwa ogqubayo wokuwohloka kokuziphatha, kwaye ubona bonke ootata bekhangela ezincwadini imiyalelo nemiyalelo yeziseko. yemfundo ephilileyo, ngoko yintoni isitshixo kwimfundo eyimpumelelo kwaye ngokwenene bubugcisa obunokuqondwa kuphela ngabo banesiphiwo.

Elinye lawona malungelo abalulekileyo omntwana kubazali bakhe kukuba afumane imfundo efanelekileyo emenza afaneleke ukwakha ubomi bakhe nekamva lakhe kwiziseko eziphilileyo ezimenza abe ngumntu oluncedo kuqala kuye nakwilizwe lakhe. Alithandabuzeki elokuba thina bantu sahlulwa kwezinye izidalwa ngokukwazi ukwahlula phakathi kwezinto eziyingozi neziyingenelo. Abalungileyo nababi.Ngoko ke, xa sinenzala, sizama ngamandla ethu onke ukukhulisa oonyana neentombi zethu ukuba zilunge kubo nakwintlalontle yabo.
Kwaye ngenxa yokuba ingcamango yemfundo efanelekileyo iyahluka ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye, kwaye ngoko ke abanye abantwana bavezwa kwimfundo engafanelekanga yokugweba, kwaye ubukhulu becala kuxhomekeke kwimikhwa engalunganga yentlalo okanye ukungaqondi kakuhle iindlela ezisebenzayo zemfundo, ngoko sibona abantwana abaninzi beneengxaki ezinkulu zemfundo. kubomi babo kwaye amaxesha amaninzi buchaphazela impumelelo yabo kubomi babo obuphathekayo kunye nentlalontle, kwaye abazali babo bayakhalaza Ubukho Babo ebantwaneni babo bengazi ukuba ngabo unobangela woku ngeendlela abazilandelayo ekukhuleni kwabo.

Enye yezona mpazamo zibalulekileyo zemfundo (ukungabandakanywa). Ngokomzekelo, ubawo uyamthulisa unyana wakhe xa ethetha okanye ethabatha inxaxheba kwincoko kukho undwendwe oluphembelele ikhaya phakathi kwabantu abadala kunaye. Mhlawumbi oku kuthathwa njengokunqongophala koncwadi kunye nale ndlela yokuziphatha engafanelekanga yemfundo.Umntwana unobuntu obubuthathaka kwaye akakwazi ukusebenzisa ilungelo lakhe lokuthatha inxaxheba kunye nengxoxo ngokufanelekileyo, nto leyo ebangela ukuba izakhono zomntu zomntu kunye nobomi bube buthathaka. bangela ukuba umntwana akhulise ukuzikhetha kwaye enze buthathaka ukuzithemba kwakhe ngenxa yemvakalelo yokungabandakanywa. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukunika ithuba lokuba nenxaxheba kwincoko nokuvakalisa uluvo lwakhe ngokhokelo ngendlela ekhululekileyo yokunyelisa xa kunokwenzeka ukuba kugqitywe imida esengqiqweni kabawo. Abafundisi-ntsapho bayaqinisekisa ukuba ukuthatha inxaxheba komntwana kwiincoko phakathi kwabantu abadala kubangela ukuzithemba okukhulu kwaye kumtyebise ngengcamango enkulu yenkcubeko. Phakathi kwezona mpazamo zibalulekileyo ekukhuliseni abantwana: ((i-oscillation kwisigqibo)) ngaphakathi endlwini phakathi komama noyise (ewe, hayi) xa ecela into kuyise aze athi kuye “hayi” nomama (“ewe ”). Olu tshintsho ludala emntwaneni umkhwa wongxamiseko kuba Uyazi ukuba uya kuyifumana into ayifunayo kwaye kufuneka balinde baze batyhale umntwana ukuba asebenzise ilungelo lakhe kwinkqubo yokucenga, nto leyo enceda ukuphuhlisa izakhono zakhe kwingxoxo evakalayo. nokuhlonelwa kolunye uluvo, nokunganqabiseki ekuhlalisaneni nabanye ngaphandle kwekhaya, kuze ngaloo ndlela kubangele ukuba ukuzingca kugxininiswe kubuntu bakhe. Iingxoxo ezinzulu phakathi (uyise nomama), ukuba zenzeke phambi kwamehlo kunye nokuva kwabantwana, zenza uhlobo loloyiko kunye nokuxhalaba malunga nokuhlalisana phakathi (uyise nomama), abayindlwane yokhuseleko kubo.
Ngoko ke, iingxoxo phambi kwamehlo neendlebe zabantwana zifanele ziphetshwe. Ukuba oku kwenziwa, abazali bamele babacacisele abantwana ukuba oko kwenzekile ngokwemvelo akuyi kuluchaphazela ulwalamano lwabo. Okokugqibela, enye yezona mpazamo zibalulekileyo ekukhuliseni abantwana yile: Musa ukuthembela kwizicaka ukuba zibakhokele kwaye zibafundise, kunye nokumisela inkqubo yokutya ngaphandle kokuphendula kunye nokulandelela ngenyameko. Uninzi lwabantwana abakhuliswe phakathi kwabakhonzi baphulukene nemfundo yamaSilamsi kunye nokuthantamisa kuluntu lukasolusapho kunye nosapho, ngoko baye babandezeleka ngenxa yokusasazeka kwaye banokukhanyela uluntu kunye nosapho lwabo. Ngoko ke, ngumsebenzi ka (utata nomama). Abo baxhomekeke kwizicaka zoncedo ekukhuliseni abantwana babo ngenxa yokuba bexakeke yimisebenzi yabo, bebekela bucala ixesha lokulandelela ubomi babantwana babo, ubuncinane, baya kubatyhilela iimpazamo ezininzi zemfundo ezingeniswe ngabakhonzi.

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Indima entle kwimeko engqongileyo xa ekhula

Abaphengululi bezemfundo bacebisa ukuba indlela akhuliswa ngayo umntwana ifanele ibonakaliswe ngokungqongqo, ukuthabath’ unyawo, ukuqiqa, ukungagungqi nokuthantamisa, kubethelela imfuneko yokuba umntwana azive ethandwa, ekhuselekile yaye ekhuselekile kubo bonke abo bamngqongileyo, yaye oku kushiya eyona mpembelelo ibalaseleyo ekukhuleni kwakhe ngokweemvakalelo. xa esiba ngumfana ophenjelelwa kwaye aphenjelelwe ngabo bamngqongileyo.Kwixesha elizayo

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Indlela yokukhulisa abantwana imele ibe bhetyebhetye yaye ilungelelane ngokweemfuno zomntwana ngamnye ngokwahlukeneyo.Alithandabuzeki elokuba imfundo esekelwe kuthando, ukuthantamisa, ukhuthazo noxabiso ukuze ufumane isakhono sokusabela kwiinkqubo ezilandelwayo ivelisa iziqhamo ezihle kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo. amanqanaba obomi