Ngenxa yokhetho lomnye umntu ngomsebenzi, abantwana, abahlobo, okanye usapho ngaphezu kwakhe, ukongezelela ekuthetheni kwakhe okanye ekwenzeni oko kuya kuthoba ukubaluleka kweqabane lakhe, ngakumbi ukuba oko kuphambi kwabantwana nosapho, ukongezelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukugxila kumalungelo akhe kuphela, kunye nomdla wakhe kuwo, ngokutyeshela amalungelo kunye neemfuno zelinye iqela, ukuwatyeshela, ukuzingca kuye, kunye nokumenza azive ephantsi kwaye ephantsi.

Kwizinto eziphathekayo okanye kwizinto zokuziphatha, okanye ngoko amnika kona ngexesha lakhe ngenjongo yokwanelisa iintswelo zakhe, nokumzanelisa, okanye kokubini ngomsebenzi wokujamelana neengcinezelo zezinto eziphathekayo, nokuhlangabezana neentswelo zendlu nabantwana; ukutyeshela yonke into enokuvuselela inkanuko ngaphandle kwengqalelo yabo; Okubangela ukuba umsantsa phakathi kwabo ukhule ngokuthe ngcembe, kwaye ukusondelana phakathi kwabo akukho, okanye kuguquke kube yinto nje eqhelekileyo, okanye umsebenzi obekwe kuye.

Xa indoda okanye umfazi ejonga amalungelo akhe neemfuno zakhe kuphela, aze alilibale elinye icala, iimfuno zakhe, neemfuno zakhe, nokuphindaphindwa kwemeko enjalo kukhokelela kwimeko yoqhawulo-mtshato okanye ukwahlukana ngokweemvakalelo.

Ngokukhetha abanye ngaphezu kweqabane lobomi, kwaye esi sesinye sezona zizathu zibalulekileyo zokuqhawula umtshato ngokweemvakalelo, njengomyeni ukhetha umsebenzi wakhe, usapho, izalamane kunye nabahlobo kunomfazi wakhe, okanye umfazi ukhetha umsebenzi wakhe, abantwana, intsapho, nabahlobo phezu komyeni; Nto leyo eyenza elinye iqela lizive lingabalulekanga.

Ukuguqula ulwalamano lomtshato lube yinto yesiqhelo, umsebenzi, okanye isinyanzelo.

Ukuba ngqongqo kuphakathi kwezinto ezikwaphumela kuqhawulo-mtshato ngokweemvakalelo, enoba kukufuna izinto eziphathekayo, apho indoda ihlutha umfazi wayo imali ayidingayo, okanye ukuziphatha kakubi, apho abanye babo babini beba livila ngokuphathelele iimfuno zomnye. ngeemvakalelo kunye nengqalelo. Kwimeko ye-miserliness kwelinye lamaqela, ubudlelwane bothando phakathi kwabo buqala ukumisa, kwaye bahluke omnye komnye ngokweemvakalelo.

Ukungakwazi komyeni ukubonisa oko kusentliziyweni ngentetho; Ngokutsho kobume bengqondo kunye nentlalontle yomyeni, uhlala etyekele kwizenzo ngaphezu kwamagama, ngokungafaniyo nomfazi, ovame ukudwelisa iinkcukacha.

Ukukruquka nokungakhathali kunezalathi ezinokuthi zoyiswe ngokulula. Ukuba bekuphawulwe ngaphambi kokuba umcimbi ube mandundu; Apho isithukuthezi siqala ngokuthula, ukuthetha, ukungamameli omnye ngomdla, ukuguquguquka kweemvakalelo, kunye noloyiko, kwaye ekugqibeleni iqabane ngalinye likhetha indlela eyahlukileyo yendlela yelinye; Apha, ukudibana kufuna ukuhlangulwa ngokukhawuleza.