Indlela yokuba sisithethi esilungileyo

Abantu bayahluka ngezakhono zabo kunye nezakhono zabo ekusebenzisaneni nabanye, kwaye ngenxa yoko abanye bayahluka ngendlela yokubabhiyozela okanye ukubaphatha kwaye baphembelele abantu kwaye baphumelele uthando lwabo kwaye batsale lula kubo Izakhono zokuncokola Sihlala sidibana nabantu esithandana nabo emva Intlanganiso yokuqala, kunye nabantu apho incoko yethu iphela kunye nobutshaba okanye ukungakhululeki kunye nokungafuni ukudibana nabo kwakhona.Imibono yokuqala ibaluleke kakhulu kunokuba sicinga kwaye sele ichongiwe, kunzima kakhulu ukuyiguqula ngoko ke masiluphephe uloyiko lokubumba. Imibono Okokuqala, ngendlela engalunganga, ngokulandela ezi mfihlo:

• Enye yezona ngcebiso zibalulekileyo ezinikezelwa kuthi phambi kodliwano-ndlebe (umntu omtsha, udliwano-ndlebe lomsebenzi ...) "yiba nguwe" okanye "yiba nguwe." Enyanisweni, eli cebiso alilungile, asithethi ukuba ukuba kufuneka ufaniswe okanye uzenzise, ​​kodwa ngaba ungenza ngendlela engokwemvelo Okanye ube nguwe ngexesha lodliwano-ndlebe lomsebenzi, okanye xa udibana nomntu ongazange umbone ngaphambili?

Ukuba nguwe, oku kuthetha ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba uziphathe ngendlela okanye uhlale njengoko uhleli endlwini yakho kwaye ungalawuli amazwi akho okanye inkangeleko yakho, jongana nayo kwaye wenze ngendlela yokuzithemba ukuze ube njalo. , awuyi kuba nenkohliso ukuba wenza ngcono kunokuba unjalo Iya kwenza umfanekiso omhle kuwe.

• Gxininisa ingqalelo yakho kumanqaku afanayo: sihlala sijonge kubantu abafana nabo kwimiba emininzi (indlela yokukhetha amagama athile, kwizinto ezinomdla, kwizifundo, kwimvelaphi yentlalo...) sigxile kwimiba efanayo phakathi kwakho kunye nawe. isithethi sakho senza ukuba incoko ibemnandi kwaye iqhubeke kwaye ikwenza ube ngaphezulu Unolawulo kwinto oyithethayo komnye umntu.
• Hlala kude nenkohliso kwaye uncome ngokunyanisekileyo: Ukuncoma ngokunyanisekileyo yenye yezona zinto zithandwa kakhulu entliziyweni yomntu, ngokungafaniyo nokuncoma okucekisayo okugxininisa injongo efihlakeleyo emva kokukhohlisa, yenza abantu bazive belungile ngawe, sebenzisa amagama athandekayo kwaye udibanise nesithethi sakho. ngegama, yenye yezona zincomo ezilungileyo kakhulu.
• Yiba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo kwaye ucinge ngento onokuthi uyithethe emva kokumamela: vumela abanye bathethe ngezinto abazithandayo kwaye wonwabe nabo kuba baya konwaba kakhulu kwaye bakhululeke xa bethetha ngezinto abazithandayo kwaye isakhono sakho silele kwimpendulo yakho eyakhayo kunye nomdlandla. nomnye umntu.

Impendulo yakho eyakhayo ikumdla wakho onyanisekileyo koko akuthethayo kunye nonxibelelwano lwakho ngokuqhubeka nokumjonga emehlweni noncumo nokubuza imibuzo ethile ngombandela akuxelela wona.

Ngokuphathelele impendulo yakho engalunganga, ibonakala kunxibelelwano oluncinci lomlomo kunye nokunciphisa amagama ngaphandle kokubonisa iimvakalelo ezintle

• Gcina ukuqhubeka kwencoko: Kuphephe ukuzimela kwaye musa ukulawula incoko, kodwa yabelana ngayo kwaye uphindaphinde izimvo ezinikiweyo.

Musa ukuthwalwa xa uphonononga imbali yakho phambi komnxibelelanisi wakho, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko ukwenza njalo, khankanya impumelelo yakho ukukhonza incoko.