Uqhubana njani nomntu ongakuhoyiyo ngobukrelekrele?

Eyona nto ibuhlungu kakhulu kubudlelwane xa sidibana nomntu kwaye simnike inxalenye enkulu yengqalelo yethu kunye neemvakalelo, kwaye emva kwexesha, okanye ngaphandle kwesizathu, akayihoyi, kwaye ukungahoywa sesona senzo sikhohlakeleyo kunye nokulimala kwengqondo kumntu. , kwaye injongo kukwenza buthathaka elinye iqela ukumlawula okanye ukungayinaki isiphumo sangempela. Ukubanda kweemvakalelo kunye neemeko ezimbini zibi kakhulu eziya esihogweni kubudlelwane, ngoko kufuneka sazi ukuba siphendule njani kwesi senzo. :

Ukuba uyakwazi ukujongana nalomntu ngengxaki yakhe nawe kwaye zeziphi izizathu zokungamhoyi, yenza, kodwa ukuba impendulo yakhe kukuba akakuhoyi ngelixa ezama ukukuqinisekisa ukuba uyakhohlisa, yeka ukuzama ukusombulula ngendlela. yesiyalo kwaye uye kwimpendulo
Impendulo yokungahoyi kufuneka ibe kukubanda kwaye unganyanzelisi ukubamba umntu ongakuhoyiyo

Akufanele utsale ingqalelo yomntu ongayihoyiyo okwethutyana, ngokungathi utyhila isicwangciso sakho kuye, ngoko iziphumo ziya kuba zichasene nawe.
Yilumkele inkangeleko yakho ngokungathi ukwimeko entle ngokwasengqondweni kwaye uphume nabahlobo, kodwa ungakwenzi oku ukuze uvuse ikhwele lakhe, kodwa ngenxa yokuba uya kukonwabela kwaye awuyi kunciphisa ukucinga kwakho ngokulinda iminxeba yakhe.

- Ngexesha elithile lobuthathaka, unokuthambekela ekuzikhuzeni kwaye kufuneka uthwale ukuhlukaniswa kwabanye kuwe, ungakwenzi oko, kodwa yimeko yokuzithethelela ngenxa yobuthathaka bakho kunye nokuzinikela.
- Musa ukuba krwada ngendlela yokwala, njengokurhoxisa umnxeba okanye ukucima ifowuni yakho, ngokuchaseneyo, yenza ngathi uyonwabela umnxeba wakhe kwaye ngokungathi awuhoyi ukubanda kwakhe kuwe, okunika kuye kubonakale ngathi wonwabile kwaye womelele
Ukungahoyi ukuba kufuneka uziqhelanise, vele uyeke ukumbamba ngokupheleleyo kwaye uyeke ukukuqalisa kumnxeba okanye umyalezo.

Xa uphendula ngokungahoyi ungahoyanga yazi ukuba umntu ongamhoyanga uyakuqumbela, ngoba umkhwetha ungamhoyi ulindele ukubona ubuthathaka urhoxile kwaye akavumi ukungahoywa nguwe mhlawumbi angakucaphukisa. nawe ngenye indlela ngaphandle kokukuhoya
Kuphephe ukuxambulisana naye xa ezama ukubonakalisa umsindo wakhe ngale nto uyenzileyo kwaye akuxelele ukuba ungumntu ombi kuba ungamhoyi.

- Xa ebonisa umsindo wakhe kuwe, kuthetha ukuba nguwe olawula ubudlelwane ngoku, kwaye kufuneka uzame ukuthetha naye, ukukhulula umsindo wakhe, ukuxazulula iingxaki kunye nokubuyisela ubudlelwane njengoko bekunjalo ngaphandle kokumxelela ngesicwangciso sakho. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba unike izizathu zento oyenzileyo ngenxa yokuba ubungenguye umqalisi kwaye ukuba akazange ayiqonde impazamo yakhe, ke, akukho ukuqonda, kwaye ukuba akukho ukuqonda, akukho mfuneko yobudlelwane.

Ihlelwe ngu

URyan Sheikh Mohammed