Uzuza kanjani ekukhathazekeni ukukuguqula kube amandla amahle?

Uzuza kanjani ekukhathazekeni ukukuguqula kube amandla amahle?

Uchwepheshe wezifo zengqondo noprofesa e-American Harvard University waphetha ngokuthi ukukhathazeka akukubi ngaso sonke isikhathi njengoba abantu abaningi becabanga, kodwa kunezinzuzo okungenzeka zingenzeki kunoma ubani, nokuthi umuntu angazuza kukho ekuphileni kwakhe jikelele.

UDkt futhi onguchwepheshe wezengqondo, uDavid Rosmarin, wathi esihlokweni esanyatheliswa yi-Psychology Today ukuthi ukukhathazeka komuntu kungase kuholele "ekuqiniseni nasekuthuthukiseni ubudlelwano bomuntu obungokomzwelo nokuvuselela ubuhlobo bothando abusungula nabanye."

Uchwepheshe uRosmarin ukubukela phansi ukubaluleka kocwaningo lwezokwelapha ukuze kutholwe ikhambi lokukhathazeka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyindlela yokwelapha yesimanje noma yokwelapha engokwemvelo njengokuvivinya umzimba nokunye, ebonisa ukuthi umuntu “akakwazi ukuyibalekela ngokuphelele imizwa yokukhathazeka, ngoba iyingxenye yokucindezeleka. okuhlangenwe nakho komuntu endaweni yonke.”

“Lapho leli qiniso selamukelwe,” uyanezela, “ikhambi lokukhathazeka liba sobala, eliwukuthi ukukhathazeka akusona isiqalekiso, kodwa kungamandla.” Uphawula ukuthi “ukukhathazeka kungathuthukisa ubuhlobo nothandekayo, futhi kungasiza. ubuhlobo buyachuma ngokuthuthukisa ukujwayela kwethu ukuthambekela okungokomzwelo nezimo.” obala kwabanye.”

“Ukuqonda, ukubhekana nokuphatha imizwelo yabanye abantu, okungamakhono abalulekile ekwakheni ubudlelwano, kungathuthukiswa kakhulu ngolwazi lwethu nokukhathazeka,” uyanezela.

Futhi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sichaza lokho esikushoyo ngokuthi: “Abantu abanomlando wobunzima noma ukuhlukumezeka ngokuvamile baba nozwela ngokwengeziwe ngabanye, futhi lokhu kungenxa yokuthi lapho sizikhathaza ngokwethu, sinomuzwa onembile walokho abanye abakudingayo lapho bayazabalaza.”

"Elinye iqiniso elijwayelekile mayelana nokukhathazeka ukuthi uma sisebenzisa ukukhathazeka kwethu ukuze siqonde kangcono imizwa yabanye abantu, kusisiza ukuthi silawule futhi sicubungule imizwa yethu yokukhathazeka."

Umbhali uyaphetha: “Unganciphisa ukukhathazeka kwakho ngokuphuma ngaphandle kwakho futhi uphawule izidingo zabanye bese ubasabela.”

Uqinisekisa nokuthi “ukuhlupheka kukhulisa uzwelo kwabanye, njengoba abantu abanozwela kakhulu kwabanye kuyilabo abadlule ebunzimeni obukhulu ezimpilweni zabo. Ngingasho ngisho nokuthi iziguli zami eziningi ziphakathi kwabantu abacabangelayo nabanozwela engibaziyo.”

Ugomela ngokuthi “ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, noma ezinye izinselele zempilo yengqondo kungasenza siyiqaphele kakhudlwana imizwa yabanye. Abantu abanokukhathazeka okukhulu ngokuvamile bafunda amakhono abalulekile okusebenzelana nabanye ngenxa yokukhathazeka kwabo, bangabantu abangcono ngenxa yokukhathazeka kwabo. Ukukhathazeka kungasisiza ukuba sikhathalele imizwa yabanye abantu nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. Lapho sisebenzisa ukucindezeleka kwethu njengendlela yokulinganisa nokuqonda imizwa yomunye umuntu.

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