When the couple invades silence, the inability to communicate and the feeling of neglect……. This indicates that the relationship has begun to enter into a life of hell, and the life of hell leads to a silent divorce called emotional divorce, and it has four types:

1- Emotional divorce or the hell of a marital relationship may take a silent mode; Despite the absence of feelings and emotions between the spouses, they are calm as if an agreement was made between them. It may take a stormy situation so that the atmosphere of silence between them breaks from time to time a whirlwind of screaming and shouting, it is the outright rift, and the official public divorce, which is the real product of the hidden rift; Conflict erupts from these instances to the overt level, taking various forms of permanent tendencies, quarrels, and mutual violence.

2- Emotional divorce, as it is on the part of the spouses together, may be on the one hand only for a reason, so he deliberately kills his feelings towards the other party, or it may unintentionally fall into hibernation gradually, despite the life of the other party’s feelings towards him, and his hope to return to its predecessor.

3- Divorce has types, some of which were clear and clear, including what was hidden and hidden, and the hidden one is the true beginning of the demolition of the marital structure, which finally results in a clear divorce between and a painful separation with which their children are dispersed, it is the hidden crack, psychological distance, or psychological divorce, It is that state of extinguishing the relationship of passion-sex, or its fading to an advanced degree, as well as the accumulation of contradictions in expectations and priorities. The conjugal bond seems to have been depleted in terms of passion and partnership in achieving goals. With this depletion, the variance increases, and the area of ​​intersection between the two circles of the conjugal bond - each person represents a circle - and these two circles diverge; This results in two different existential worlds, and each side feels that its being has been squandered; Which exacerbates his psychological mobilization against the other in an attempt to absorb him by wasting his being.

4- Emotional divorce is of two types: the first is in which the spouses are aware of their psychological divorce, and the deterioration of their emotional environment.

As for the second, one party is not satisfied with his emotional state; Because he encounters various contradictions with his partner, and feels the vibration of his harmony with him, and his loss of confidence, but he remains secretive about his feelings, concealing his distress by the nature of his unbalanced relationship; To avoid falling into a direct divorce.

The existence of a state of silence between the spouses, in which both of them, or one of them, fail to break it, or penetrate it in any way.

Partial or complete withdrawal from the marital bed.

Lack of common interests, or common goals that the spouses meet.

Escape from the house by resorting to going out, staying up late, traveling with regard to the husband, or repeating the wife’s visits to her relatives, and the like, and escaping inside the house by being preoccupied with newspapers, television, computer, and other things from communicating with the life partner.

The presence of a state of ridicule, mockery, and indifference to the interests and feelings of the other, rather than any attempt to break the deadlock of the relationship, and give it a measure of warmth.

Feeling that the continuation of married life is for the sake of children only, or from the fear of going through the experience of divorce, and bearing the title of an absolute, or divorced in front of people.

There is no sense of difference when the spouses are far from each other, or close to each other, but the spouses may feel a state of comfort when they are far from each other.

Silence, or marital silence: one of the phenomena that lead to major problems between spouses, in which one of the spouses, or both of them are committed to silence most of the time, and the speech between him and the other party is limited to the necessary topics only, without paying attention to the special details of each party, and are affected Their married life is greatly affected as a result, and communication is less.

Couples stop talking together, exchange conversations about daily activities, and communicate less between them; Which leads to silence.

Couples stop getting close to each other; The intimate interaction between them decreases; Which is of great importance in maintaining the recovery of the emotional relationship between them.

The spouses do not listen to each other, feel frustrated, depressed, lose body language; Which causes misery in their lives.

The spouses do not gather to eat together; They avoid sitting at the same table, or one of them eats in front of the TV, and avoids being with the other party.

Many disagreements, in which vulgar words occur, and the parties' low appreciation of each other.

Emotionally divorced people, or one of them, are separated from the other, and they dry up without justification, and their interest in each other decreases until they fade day after day, until the distances between them increase.

They speak in short sentences, and brief questions, and if one of them says something, the other party does not care what he says, as if he does not hear it.

1- The partner feels insignificant in the life of the other party; Because of the other party’s preference for work, children, friends, or family over him, as well as his statement or action that would reduce the importance of his partner, especially if it was in front of children and parents’ as well as his repeated focus on his rights only, and his interest in them While neglecting the rights and needs of the other party, neglecting them, condescending to him, and making him aware of his inferiority and inferiority.

2- The husband’s miserliness towards his wife in material or moral matters, or in what he gives her of his time for the purpose of satisfying her needs, and indulging him, or both, with work to face material pressures and meet the needs of the house and children; neglecting everything that might arouse passion without their attention; Which causes the gap between them to widen gradually, and the lack of intimacy between them, or its transformation into a mere routine, or a duty imposed on it.

3- The selfishness of one of the parties: the husband or wife looks at his rights and requirements only, and forgets the other party, his needs, and requirements, and the repetition of such a situation leads to a divorce or emotional separation.

4 - Misidentification of priorities: by giving preference to others over a life partner, and this is one of the most important causes of emotional divorce, as the husband prefers his work, his family, relatives, and friends over his wife, or the wife prefers her work, children, family, and friends over the husband; Which makes the other party feel insignificant.

5- Turning the marital relationship into a routine, a duty, or the dropping of an obligation.

6- Miserliness: Miserliness is one of the things that also results in emotional divorce, whether it is material miserliness, in which a man deprives his wife of money, which she needs, or moral miserliness, in which some parties are miserly about the needs of the other party to feelings and attention; In the case of miserliness from one of the parties, the love relationship between them begins to dry up, and they are separated from the other in emotional terms.

7- The husband or wife goes through what they call (the midlife crisis), and the other party does not realize the nature of this stage; Which increases the psychological gap between the spouses.

8- The husband’s inability to express what is inside him through speech; According to the psychological and social composition of the husband, he always tends to actions more than words, unlike the woman, who tends to narrate the details.

9- Boredom, emptiness and routine: Boredom and apathy have indicators that may be easy to overcome. if it is noticed before the escalation of the matter; Boredom begins with silence, introversion, not listening intently, mood swings, nervousness, and eventually each partner chooses a different path for the other's; And here the convergence becomes in need of urgent rescue.

The most difficult thing is for the spouses to live in the same house, under one roof, and they are bound only by these official documents, while in fact they are completely far from each other, there are no spiritual ties between them, and this is a real hell that man lives for a long time

It is the last link in the chain of married life if it is not treated, but if it is treated properly, there is hope that married life will return to its normal course:

1- The couple’s acknowledgment of the existence of a dangerous virus that has penetrated marital life and worked to hinder it, which is emotional divorce, and they agreed on the need for their solidarity, and to make all their efforts; in order to eliminate it; To restore their married life in full health, and full beauty.

2- Working to root the characteristic of frankness and clarity in dealings between spouses; So that each of them can understand the other, understand his feelings correctly, and identify his needs, thoughts, problems, and fears, which greatly help in understanding the other, deepening and strengthening the relationship between them.

3- Allowing the other party to say what he has, while ensuring that what he has is heard.

4- Opening a wide field for the other party to feel reassured within the marital relationship

5- Each spouse appreciates the deeds that the other offers, thanks him for it no matter how simple, pays attention to its positive aspects, praises it for it, and is grateful for it; for the purpose of strengthening it.

6- Increasing the ability of each spouse to adapt required to face and solve problems.

7- Each party understands the behavior of the other party.

8- Learn the art of diplomacy by dealing with the other party and a lot of praise, praise, compliment on appearance, and agent of praise.

9 - Dialogue is the basis of the solution to any problem between spouses, and in return silence leads to the exacerbation of problems.

10- What freezes relationships the most is the daily routine; Therefore, it is useful to introduce new things into married life to break this routine, such as taking weekly outings, or visiting the places that they used to visit together on the days of their engagement, and the beginning of marriage; To recall those beautiful memories fragrant with love for the other party.

11- Each of the two parties should try to accept the other party, turn a blind eye to the flaws it may contain, and remember that we are not infallible, and it is normal for us to make some mistakes, and whoever does not forgive his owner today for his mistake, how can he expect him to forgive him for his mistakes afterwards?

12- Not to leave a period of strife after any problem has occurred; Because the length of the quarrel leads to the ignition of hatred in the hearts, and the accumulation of feelings of hatred.

13- Participation and discussion in all matters of life, whether in practical life and its problems or thoughts and fears.

14- Get yourselves back on frankness from the beginning, solve all the problems that get in your way first, and treat the apathy early before it turns into a large amount of accumulation; Overburden the marriage, and cause its crack, and eventually fall.

15- The wife must make her husband feel - without exaggeration - his importance in her life and the lives of the children emotionally, and not only financially, and that she should never neglect him, and never neglect her family responsibilities, and not be overly psychologically dependent on him with all the details of life, as he wants a partner for his life who depends She is assured of her success by managing the affairs of the family, and she is not a child who resorts to him in every small and old way.

16- Advice to the man: Remind your wife of a gentle word, a beautiful rose, a small gift, on a trip that restores her youth, and restores life to her heart, in which sadness almost settles. Even if you think she's being overly demanding of your attention. Forgive her, and fill her with love, affection, and closeness.

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