Me pehea koe ki to hungawai wahine hae?

Ko tetahi o nga tino take o nga tautohetanga o te marena ko te whanaungatanga taratara i waenganui i te wahine me tona hungawai. Ka timata te hae o tona whaea i runga i te waimeha, i te kore marama, ka mutu ka raruraru kaore he take hei raruraru. Mena ka mamae koe mai i to hungawai, anei etahi tohutohu mo te mahi ki to hungawai puhaehae.

Kia mohio ia he mea nui ia 

 Kaua e wetekina tana tama, me te whakaaro ko ia anake nau, no te mea ko tana ahua kino he whakamaoritanga o tana mataku kei ngaro te aroha o tana tama ki a ia, kia mohio ia ko ia te mea nui i roto i to oranga.

kia pai 

Kia pai ki a ia, ka puhoi te hae i roto i tona ngakau, ka rapua e ia nga take e puta ai he raruraru, no reira kaua e whakatuwheratia te kuaha mo tera.

tawhiti haumaru

Ko te whakahoa, te whakaute me te atawhai, ehara i te mea he whakanui me te tinihanga, ehara hoki i te mea kia piri tonu ki a koe. Whakatakotoria he tawhiti haumaru i waenganui i a koe kia kore koe e mohio me te mohio ki nga korero katoa o to oranga, na reira ka timata koe ki te arotake i o mahi i roto he tikanga arohaehae me te kino.

Tonoa he tohutohu 

Ko te tumanako ka pokanoa tonu ia ki to pakihi kaainga, whakarongo ki a ia me te korero ki a ia me te tono tohutohu mai i a ia, engari i te mutunga ka mahia e koe nga mea e hiahia ana koe, ka pai ia ki te whakarongo ki ana tohutohu me te whakaaro he mea nui tona whakaaro.

Waiho te hara 

Ka taea e koe te korero tika i nga kupu hoha, kaua e whakautu ki tera, kaua hoki e aroha ki a ia, engari kaua e wareware ki te whaikorero i runga i te tino marino kia hoha koe i to mahi whakatoi.

Kaua e amuamu ki to tane 

A ape i te whakauru i to tane ki tenei mahi, ahakoa kei te mahi ia.

hei whakarongo ki a ia

Ngana ki te tito korero ki a ia i tawhiti atu i to oranga me tana tama, i to oranga ake ranei, ka koa pea koe ki te whakarongo koe ki ana korero mo ia ake, mo tona whanau, mo tona tamarikitanga, e mama ai tana whakaaro mo koe.

Ētahi atu kaupapa: 

Me pehea e mahi ai koe ki nga ahuatanga ngaro?

Ahea te tangata e kii ana he karaehe koe?

Ka taea e te aroha te huri hei taapiri

Me pehea e karo ai i te riri o te tangata hae?

I te wa ka taunga te tangata ki a koe ka piri ki a koe?

Me pehea koe e mohio ai kei te tukino koe i te tangata?

Me pehea te whiu tino kino mo te tangata e aroha ana koe, ka tuku koe ki raro?

He aha koe i hoki ai ki te tangata i whakatau koe ki te tuku?

Me pehea e mahi ai koe ki te tangata whakapataritari?

Me pehea e mahi ai koe ki te tangata e whakaatu ana i te riri?

He aha nga take ka mutu te whanaungatanga?

Me pehea koe ki te tane e kore e mohio ki to uara me te kore e mihi ki a koe?

Kaua e mahi i enei whanonga i mua i te aroaro o te tangata, i te mea e whakaatu ana i te ahua kino o koe

E whitu nga tohu e kino ana tetahi ki a koe