Kodi mumachita bwanji ndi mwamuna wanu wopanda nkhawa?

“Anali wachikondi m’nthaŵi ya chinkhoswe chathu ndipo anasintha titakwatirana,” “Sandikondanso monga kale,” “Kodi ndingabwezeretse bwanji chikondi chake?” “

Azimayi ambiri amadandaula za amuna awo za kuzizira kwa moyo wawo wamaganizo pambuyo pa ukwati ndi kusintha kwakukulu pakati pa chikondi cha chibwenzi ndi chizoloŵezi cha moyo wa banja.

Ndipo mumayamba kuyang'ana mayankho ndikupeza zifukwa zomwe zidapangitsa izi, ndiye tikupatsani omwe ndine Salwa malangizo awa:

• Choyamba muyenera kukumbukira kuti kuthamangira ndi chikondi chomwe adakumana nacho sichinali chinyengo, koma mutatha ukwati, palibe chifukwa choyesera kuti mukhale pafupi ndi inu, monga nthawi ya chibwenzi ndi kudziwana, kotero mudakhala. okwatirana, nonse mumasonyeza chikondi chanu kwa wina popanda khama kapena kulankhula.
• Pambuyo pa nthawi yaukwati, mwamuna amayamba kuzolowerana ndi mkazi wake ndi mawonekedwe ake ndi kukongola kwake, komanso chidwi chake mwa iye, ndipo zonse zimakhala zachilengedwe kwa iye, kotero muyenera kukonzanso momwe mungathere moyo womwe mukukhala. tsiku ndi tsiku, pamene mukuyenera kukonzanso maonekedwe anu ndi chikhalidwe cha chidwi chanu mwa izo, chifukwa Kukhala ndi khalidwe limodzi mu ubale uliwonse ndi chifukwa chofunika kwambiri kuti chikhale chotopetsa komanso chozizira.

• Kupempha kosalekeza kwa chikondi ndi chisamaliro kumakwiyitsa, ngati mukufuna kuti mwamuna wanu azidziimba mlandu kuti akuwonetseni chikondi chake, njirayi ndi yotsutsana, chifukwa imakupangitsani kukhala ofooka ndipo simungakwaniritse zotsatira zomwe mukufuna mutapempha, ndipo izi. kungakupangitseni kuti zinthu ziipireipire, ndipo mungalingalire zimenezi kukhala chitokoso ndi kusalabadira malingaliro anu Onetsani zakukhosi kwanu popanda kupempha malingaliro ndi kuyesa kumvetsera kwa iye mowonjezereka ndipo musapange zinenezo zirizonse motsutsana naye monga: “Iwe sundikondanso ine. ", "Ndiwe wozizira", "Iwe ulibe kumverera".

• Gwiritsani ntchito mawu abwino monga: "Ndine wokondwa ndi zomwe mukundichitira", "Ndimanyadira ntchito yanu", "Ndimakonda khalidwe lanu" .... , zimene zimamulimbikitsa kusonyeza kwambiri zakukhosi kwake kwa inu.
• Ngati muona kuti akukumana ndi vuto ndipo sakufuna kukambapo, musam’kakamize kuti alankhule, koma muloleni aone kuti mum’cotsa pa vuto lakelo ndipo mudzaima naye, zimenezo zidzam’pangitsa kumva bwino. otetezeka ndi kutembenukira kwa inu mu zovuta zake zonse.
• Onetsetsani kuti mumathera nthaŵi yabwino ndi mwamuna wanu Loweruka ndi Lamlungu lililonse kuchoka panyumba ndipo musamakambirane zodetsa nkhawa zapakhomo, za banja ndi zantchito, ndipo uwu ndi mpata wofunika wolankhula zakukhosi kwanu ndipo motero kusonkhezera malingaliro ake ndi kumkakamiza kuulula. popanda kukufunsani.

• Dzisamalireni mpaka kalekale, ndikusankha zovala zomwe amakonda, mtundu wa tsitsi womwe amakonda, kapena kupukuta misomali…. Mosasamala kanthu kuti ali wozizira chotani, iye adzawona zimenezo ndipo kudziŵa kuti kudzikonda kwanu kuli kwa iye kudzasonkhezera malingaliro ake ndi kumpangitsa kuti afotokoze zimenezo kwa inu.
• Ziribe kanthu kuti zikuwoneka zovuta bwanji kapena kuti mwafika potaya mtima kuti mumusinthe komanso kuti kuzizira kwake kulibe njira yothetsera, mudzapeza zotsatira za zoyesayesa zanu, monga momwe mudatsitsimutsa maganizo ake kale, mumatha kuwakonzanso, koma muyenera kupeza chothandizira.