Yahlukana ne-negativity ekungqongileyo kwaye ubuyisele ulonwabo kuwe

• Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ukwazi ukuba ulonwabo luhlala kude kwabo bangavumiyo ukubona icala elilungileyo lezinto abanazo kwaye bagxininise onke amandla abo kwinto engalunganga ebomini babo, ke qalisa ukukhetha umbono omnye endaweni komnye kwaye wazi ukuba amandla akho. ukubuyisela iingcinga ezingalunganga endaweni yezakhayo kuhambelana ngqo nolonwabo lwakho.
• Gqiba ngezinto omawubambelele kuzo nezifanele uziyeke: Ukubambelela kwizinto kudla ngokusenza sibe buthathaka yaye ukuziyeka kusenza somelele.” Ngaba eyona nto yayikukhathaza ngaphambili ibalulekile kuwe ngoku? Nakanye, akunjalo.” Ngokufanayo, into ekubangela ukuba ube buhlungu ngoku ayisayi kukukhathaza kwixesha elizayo.
• Xolela noko: izinto mazenzeke ngendlela ezimele ukuba ngayo.Xa ubambelele emsindweni entweni okanye emntwini izinto ziya kuba worse kuwe ubotshelelwe kulonto ngeqhina eliqina kunentsimbi.Uxolelo yeyona ndlela yoba Ukhululekile kumsindo nentlungu, nokuba uXolelo alunyangi ubudlelwane.Obunye ubudlelwane abenzelwanga ukuba buhlale, kodwa xolela kunjalo.

• Yenza into ocinga ukuba ilungile: izinto ezininzi onokuthi uzenze, okanye kunokuba lula ukuziphumeza, okanye umntu unokukunyanzelela, kodwa azilifanelanga ixesha okanye umgudu wakho, zithembe kwaye usebenze.
• Yenza konke okusemandleni akho kwinani elikhulu labantu.Isenzo ngasinye siphuma kuthando nobubele obungenamdla okanye injongo kwaye sibuyela kumniniyo ngolonwabo.
• Kwiingxaki zakho zemihla ngemihla, amaxesha amaninzi awuboni ukuba umkhulu kangakanani, kodwa abanye abakungqongileyo bayakubona.Xa umntu ethetha into entle kuwe, yinto efanele ukukhunjulwa ngaphezu kwayo nantoni na engqondweni yakho.
• Kuhle ukuva abantu bekuncoma kwaye bakukhumbule, kodwa ayisiyonto isisiseko sokuzithemba kwakho, kwaye xa umntu engakuncomi uzincome, awudingi bantu bakuvavanya ngawo onke amaxesha, wena. ungumntu oxabisekileyo, qaphela amandla akho kwaye ugxile kuwo.

• “Ukuthanda abantu kulusukelo olungafikelelekiyo.” Awunako ukukholisa wonke umntu kwaye akufuneki nokuba uzame, ngoko ke sukuwakhathalela amazwi abathiyileyo.Yonwaba kwaye uzidle ngawe ngaphandle kokugweba abanye abakwenzayo ngawe. Ziqhelanise nokuphulaphula ukuncoma kunye nokugxekwa okwakhayo kunye nokutyeshela ukuphathwa kakubi.
• Fumana oko kukushukumisela ukuba usondele ngakumbi kwisiqu sakho sokuqala, khumbula ukuba awuyi kukwazi ukukhula ukuba uyala ukutshintsha kwaye ushiye ilifa.
• Impumelelo ebomini yeyabo banomdla kule nto bayenzayo.Fumana into ekwenza ube nemincili kwaye ugxile kuyo.
• Umahluko phakathi kwakho nento oyifunayo sisingxengxezo sokuba uqhubeka uzinikela, uthethelela ukungaphumeleli kwakho kwinto oyifunayo, ukuba unobuchule ekuzithetheleleni, yiyeke loo nto ukuze uzikhusele ekohlulekeni.

• Ungazisoli ngeempazamo zakho zexesha elidlulileyo kwaye ungayeki ukwenza iimpazamo, zikwenza uhlakaniphe.Ukuba ufuna ukwenza okulungileyo, yenza iimpazamo ezininzi.
• Sukuvumela uloyiko lwakho lweziganeko ezidlulileyo ukuba luchaphazele isiphumo sekamva lakho.Phila ubomi bakho ngento okunika yona namhlanje, hayi obukuphulukene nayo izolo, libala ukuba ulahlekelwe yintoni kwaye ugxininise kwinto oyifundileyo.
• Sonke isiganeko esinganqwenelekiyo (umntu okanye imeko) lisango lokuya kwisiqu sakho sokwenyani esilandelayo, ukuya kuguqulelo olungcono nolulumkileyo kuwe.

• Awunakukhetha wonke umntu odibana naye ebomini bakho, kodwa ungakhetha lowo ufuna ukuchitha ixesha lakho naye, ngoko ke yiba nombulelo kwaba bantu bafike ebomini bakho bakwenza ngcono, kwaye ubulele nangenkululeko onayo. ukuhamba kubantu abangakwenziyo.
• Relax, wanele ngokwakho, unayo yonke into oyifunayo, wenza nantoni na, phefumlela phezulu, kwaye uphile ngoku ngalo mzuzu.