Abantu abanale ngxaki banokuba nezi mpawu zilandelayo:

• Phinda ukhumbule isiganeko esibi ngeenkumbulo ezingxamisekileyo neziphindaphindayo.
• Imvakalelo enamandla yokuba isiganeko esibuhlungu sibuyile (esikwabizwa ngokuba yi-flashback).
• Amaphupha amabi apho isigulana sibona isiganeko adlule kuso.
• Ukuziva unxunguphele kakhulu xa ukhumbula isiganeko.
• Iimpawu zomzimba ezibangelwa ukuxhalaba okunjengokukhathazeka, ukwesaba nasiphi na isizathu, ukuphuthelwa kunye nokungakwazi ukugxila.
• Ukufumana iimvakalelo ezingapheliyo malunga nengozi, ezifana netyala, ihlazo, uloyiko kunye nomsindo.
• Ziphephe izinto ezimkhumbuza ngesiganeko esimanyumnyezi.
• Ukulahlekelwa kukukwazi ukukhumbula yonke into okanye inxalenye yesiganeko.
• Umdla womguli kwizinto ebezibalulekile kuye wehla ngokuthe ngcembe.
• Ukuziva ungenathemba ngekamva.

Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ezi zimpawu zingabonisa ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo lwasemva kokuphazamiseka ukuba luhlala ngaphezu kwenyanga kwaye luchaphazela ubomi bomntu okanye ubomi bomsebenzi okanye ubudlelwane. Uninzi lweempawu zesi sifo zibonakala kwiinyanga ezintathu emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu, kodwa zisenokubonakala emva kwexesha, oko kukuthi, kwiminyaka eliqela emva kwesiganeko. Le ngxaki ayichaphazeli wonke umntu owehlelwa sisiganeko esibuhlungu okanye esibuhlungu

Akukaziwa ukuba kutheni abanye abantu bekhula kwesi sifo kwaye hayi abanye. Ngokomzekelo, eUnited States of America, malunga nesi-7-8 ekhulwini sabemi ngokubanzi siya kuba nesi sifo ngaxa lithile ebomini babo. Kodwa abaphandi bachonge izinto ezithile zomngcipheko ezandisa amathuba okuba noluphazamiseko, ezizezi:

• Ukujongana nesiganeko esimanyumnyezi esibangelwa ngabanye, njengokudlwengulwa okanye ukubetha.
• Ukuvezwa kwiziganeko zomothuko rhoqo okanye ixesha elide.
• Iingxaki zengqondo ezikhoyo ngaphambili, ngakumbi ukuxhalaba.
• Ukunqongophala kwenkxaso eyaneleyo kumalungu osapho kunye nabahlobo emva kokuvezwa kumonzakalo.

Uqhubana njani nomntu ongakuhoyiyo ngobukrelekrele?