Amathiphu ayisishiyagalolunye okukhulisa izingane eziphumelelayo

Ukukhulisa izingane eziphumelelayo kuhlotshaniswa ngokuphelele nokuzikhulisa kusukela osukwini lokuqala kanye nendlela yokubhekana nazo ngokuhlakanipha.Ukubekezela kuyikhono elithambile elingunombolo 1 elingahlukanisa izingane ezikhuthalele kakhulu uma kuqhathaniswa nalabo abayeka kalula. Eqinisweni, izifundo eziningi ziye zasekela ukuthi ikhono lokubekezela liyisibikezelo esinamandla sempumelelo kune-IQ, ngokusho kombiko oshicilelwe yinethiwekhi yaseMelika "CNBC".

UDkt. Michelle Borba, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kwezemfundo nochwepheshe ekukhuliseni izingane, uthi embikweni wakhe izingane ezikhuthazela azipheli amandla lapho zibhekene nezingqinamba nanoma ibuphi ubunzima ezibhekana nazo ekuphileni kwazo. Bakholelwa ukuthi imizamo yabo izoba nemiphumela emihle, ngakho bahlala bekhuthazekile ukuba basebenze kanzima futhi baqedele abakuqalayo naphezu kwanoma yiziphi izithiyo ezingase zibe khona.

UDkt. Borba unikeza izindlela eziyisishiyagalolunye abazali abangasiza ngazo izingane zakhe ukubekezela ezinganeni zabo:

1. 4 izici ezidikibalisa izingane

Isinyathelo sokuqala, kusho uDkt. Borba, siwukulwa nezinto ezine ezithiya ukuphikelela:
• Ukukhathala: Vikela ikhono lengane yakho lokugxila ngokunamathela esimisweni sokulala esivamile. Vala amadivayisi ihora ngaphambi kokulala futhi ugcine izikrini zingangeni ekamelweni ebusuku.
• Ukukhathazeka: Ingcindezi yokuphumelela ingabangela imizwa enamandla. Tshela ingane yakho ukuthi uthando lwakho aluncikile empumelelweni yakhe.

• Okulindelekile ekufundeni: Abazali kufanele bacabangele ukuthi lokho okulindelwe yizingane zabo kuhambisana namakhono azo, njengoba lokho okulindelekile kungase kubekwe phezulu kancane kunezinga lekhono lengane. Amathemba aphezulu kakhulu angabangela ukukhathazeka, kuyilapho okulindelekile okuphansi kakhulu kungabangela isithukuthezi.

2. Amaphutha amathuba okukhula

Khumbuza izingane zakho ukuthi amaphutha angaba yinto eyakhayo, ngisho noma isimo singesilokho ebezikulindele. Wamukele amaphutha abo futhi ubatshele: “Akulungile ukwehluleka. Okubalulekile ukuthi uzame."
Wavume namaphutha akho. Lokhu kuzobasiza ukuthi babone ukuthi wonke umuntu uyawenza amaphutha, futhi impumelelo iza lapho ungavumeli ukuhlehla kukuchaza.

3. Hlukanisa imisebenzi

Ukufundisa izingane zakho ukuhlukanisa imisebenzi emikhulu zibe izingxenye ezincane, ezilawulekayo kuzozisiza zizizwe ziqiniseka ngokwengeziwe ngokuqeda izinto ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

4. Gubha izinto ezincane ozifezile

Ukwehluleka okuphindaphindiwe kungaqeda ukukhuthazela, kodwa impumelelo encane kakhulu ingakhuthaza ingane ukuthi iqhubeke, ngakho yisize ibone ukuwina kwayo okuncane.

5. Thuthukisa ukugxilisa ingqondo kwengane

Uma ingane yakho ifuna ukuyeka umsebenzi othile, ungabeka isibali sikhathi edeskini layo futhi usibekele isikhathi esifanelekile, esihambisana nesikhathi sayo sokunaka. Amchazele ukuthi kumele aqhubeke kuze kukhale insimbi. Ngemva kwalokho angathatha ikhefu elisheshayo futhi asethe kabusha isibali sikhathi. Mgqugquzele ukuthi abone ukuthi zingaki izinkinga angaqeda ngaphambi kokuthi ikhale insimbi ukuze abone ukuthi uyaphumelela futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuzoba lula enganeni ukuthi igxile.

6. Qinisa i-humer 'yabahlulekayo'

Lapho izingane ziyeka, mhlawumbe kungenxa yokuthi aziyiboni indlela yazo yokuphuma kule nselele. Qala ngokuvuma ukukhungatheka kwabo futhi uveze ukuthi kuzwakala kuyinto evamile. Zama ukuthi ingane iphumule. Lapho ebuyela emsebenzini, bheka ukuthi angamsiza yini abone imbangela encane yokukhubeka endleleni yakhe.

7. Umzamo wokudumisa

UCarol Dweck, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo eYunivesithi yaseStanford, wathola ukuthi lapho izingane zituswa ngokuhlakanipha kwazo, mancane amathuba okuba zibekezele. Kodwa uma ubancoma ngemizamo yabo (isb., “Usebenze kanzima kulokho! Umsebenzi omuhle.”), bayakhuthazeka futhi basebenze kanzima.

Ukuze wandise ukukhuthazela, ncoma umzamo wengane yakho, hhayi amamaki ayo. Umgomo uwukuba ushukumiseleke ukuba uphumelele ngaphandle kwabagqugquzeli bangaphandle, njengoba ucwaningo luye lwathola ukuthi abaqinisi bangaphandle bangakwazi ngempela ukunciphisa ukubekezela kwezingane.

8. Yakha imishwana eqinisa ukubekezela

Ukuzikhuluma kabi njengokuthi "Angikwazi ukwenza lokho" noma "Angihlakaniphe ngokwanele" kuthikameza ukubekezela. Siza ingane yakho ikhethe umushwana omfushane, okhuthazayo ukuze izitshele yona lapho isimo siba nzima. Ingane ingase ithi, “Izinto akudingekile ukuba ziphelele. Ngizoba ngcono uma uqhubeka nokuzama.”

9. Bavumele bakuhlole

Omunye wemithetho ebaluleke kakhulu yokukhulisa izingane ukuthi ungalokothi wenzele izingane zakho okuthile ezingazenzela zona ngokwazo. Isikhathi ngasinye lapho ulungisa amaphutha engane yakho noma ubenzela okuthile, baya ngokuya befunda ukuthembela kuwe kunokuthembela kubo. Uma usuwazi ukuthi ingane yakho ingakwazi ukuqedela umsebenzi ngokwayo, thatha isinyathelo emuva. Mvumele amukele lowo muzwa wokufeza okuthile.