Ungaba kanjani umuntu ozolile futhi ohluzekile

Ingabe abangani nomndeni bavame ukukuchaza “njengonomsindo,” “unomsindo,” noma “uyakhuluma”? Ingabe uzizwa sengathi ukhuluma kakhulu kangangokuthi awukwazi ukulalela imizwa nemicabango yabanye abantu? Uma unale nkinga, ingabe uke wacabanga ngokuba umuntu ozothile? Kungase kwenze umehluko ophawulekayo ebudlelwaneni bakho njengoba uqonda ngokwengeziwe, umkhaya wakho nabangane bayozizwa bebahlonipha kakhulu, futhi ngeke bakubheke bese bezitshela ukuthi, “Ungathula kancane!”

Ekuqaleni, ungakhetha izimo ofuna ukuzola kuzo, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuzoba yingxenye yemvelo yokuthi ungubani. Kodwa kufanele, njenganoma yimuphi umzamo wokushintsha ubuntu, kancane kancane. Uma usuka phezulu uye kokuthula kungazelelwe, abantu bazocabanga ukuthi kukhona okungalungile. Batshele nje ukuthi uzama ukuzola futhi ubavumele babone futhi bazise intuthuko yakho.

Uma ukholelwa ngempela ukuthi yilokhu kanye okudingayo, qhubeka ufunda isihloko sanamuhla no-Anna Salwa.

Yenza ukuziphatha okuzolile

Thatha ngokucophelela. Abantu abathule bavame ukwenza kancane ngokuzenzakalelayo, futhi bacabangele izinqumo zabo ezinhlangothini ezahlukene ngaphambi kokuzenza. Bahlala behamba ngezinyathelo zamabomu futhi ababambeki kalula ezimweni ezingazelelwe. Bahlale besesimweni sokulindela futhi becabanga ngesinyathelo sabo esilandelayo.[XNUMX] Ngaphambi kokuthatha isinyathelo, zama njalo ukucabanga ngemiphumela.
Abantu abathule bayathanda ukungahlangani namaqembu. Uma kusuke umsindo wonke umuntu egijimela emafasiteleni efuna ukwazi, othulayo aqale azinike isikhathi acabange ukuthi kuyafaneleka yini ukuya phambili. Abantu abathule abathinteki ngendlela efanayo nabantu abanomsindo.

Sebenzisa ulimi lomzimba ukuze ubonakale umuhle futhi unobungane.

Kulula kakhulu ukuya kumuntu othule kunomuntu onomsindo noma onolaka. Umuntu ozothile ngokuvamile usebenzisa ulimi olulula lomzimba kanye nezinkulumo ezingathathi hlangothi, futhi akajwayele ukusho izinto ezivusa amadlingozi. Kungakho abantu bevame ukucabanga ukuthi umuntu othule unomusa kunomuntu onomsindo, nakuba kungenjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ukuze uhlale uvulekile futhi unobungane, gcina ikhanda lakho liphakeme, futhi ugcine amehlo akho ehlutshiwe. Gcina indawo yokuhlala ekhululekile futhi engathobeki noma ukuma, njengokungathi uhlezi wedwa ekamelweni lokulinda elingenalutho. Chitha isikhashana ucabanga ngalokho obungeke ukwazi ukukubona uma ubumatasa kakhulu uxoxa.

Yiba nesineke nokuthobeka.

Uma uphakathi komuntu othule, uzoqaphela ukuthi banomphumela opholile emoyeni, osiza labo ababazungezile ukuba bazinze futhi bacabange ngokucacile. Kungani ungeke ube lowo muntu? Lapho wonke umuntu ehluleka ukuzibamba, yiba yizwi lokucabanga. Futhi lapho ekugcineni uvula umlomo wakho ukuze ukhulume—okuyoba isenzakalo esiyivelakancane—wonke umuntu uzolalela ngokuzenzakalelayo.
Lokhu kuzokunika amandla amaningi, futhi kuzokuguqula ube umholi onekhono, othule. Lapho labo abaseduze kwakho beqaphela ukuthi uhlale uzolile futhi ukhululekile, futhi ukhuluma kafushane nangempumelelo, bazozwa ukuthambekela okungokwemvelo kokukulandela.

Zuza ukwethenjwa abanye ngokwethembeka nangokuqondile.

Abantu abathule ngokuvamile banekhono ezimweni ezidinga ukuzuza ukwethenjwa abanye. Imisindo enomsindo ngokuvamile ibonakala ingenangqondo, ishintshashintsha, futhi inobugovu. Veza umlingiswa wakho omusha futhi umvumele athathe izintambo. Futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uthole ukuthi bonke abantu - ngokushesha okukhulu - beze ukuzophendukela kuwe.
Le ntshisekelo entsha kuwe kufanele ikwenze uthembeke kakhulu. Ukusebenzelana komphakathi okuzungezile ngeke kuphazamise njengakuqala, futhi lokhu kuzoshiya isikhala sokunaka izibopho zakho. Gcina lowo moya, ikakhulukazi uma unomlando omude wezinkinga ezinjalo.

Zazi wena, futhi wephule.

Uma ucabanga ukuthi unomsindo futhi ubudedengu (futhi uma empeleni unomsindo futhi ubudedengu), cabanga ngezisusa zakho. Uma uhlezi ukuze udle nomndeni wakho, naka imicabango nokuziphatha ozithola uqhutshwa kukho. Bese uqala ngokukhetha into eyodwa wenze okuphambene nayo. Uzizwa unesifiso sokuqala ukuxoxa ngamazambane agayiwe? Melana nesifiso sakho. Qhubeka ukhethe izimpi zakho.
Qala kancane kancane, kunjalo. Ngeke uvele uphenduke ekubeni umuntu okhulumayo uye ekubeni oyimfihlo. Khetha isikhashana noma ezimbili ngosuku lapho uzwa isifiso sokuhleba, bese uzama ukuzibamba. Kuzoba lula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.