Amanga ayishumi akhulunywa ngamadoda

Basola amadoda ngokuqamba amanga kakhulu, bathi ukuqamba amanga kuwusawoti wamadoda, kodwa amanye amadoda ayakuphikisa futhi akuqambe amanga lokhu, osekucace bha, ucwaningo lwakamuva lwaseMelika luveze ukuthi u-5% kuphela wabantu (abesilisa nabesifazane) bakhulume iqiniso isikhathi esiningi, kanti abanye basebenzisa amanga ngendlela evamile.Noma enye.Okusho ukuthi abesifazane baneziteshi ezinhle zokuqamba amanga nabo, kodwa bathembela kakhulu ekuqambeni amanga ngemizwa yabo, njengokuthi bathi balungile. , ngokwesibonelo, kuyilapho isimo sabo esingokwengqondo sisibi kakhulu, noma ukuthi bayajabula ekuphileni kwabo komshado lapho isimo sihluke ngokuphelele.

Kodwa bewazi yini ukuthi ukuhlola kwephephandaba laseBrithani elithi “Sun” kwephula konke okwakulindelwe futhi kwaqaphela ukuthi amadoda aqamba amanga ngokuphindwe kabili kunabesifazane? Wachaza ukuthi owesilisa uqamba amanga ngokwesilinganiso izikhathi eziyisithupha ngenjongo ngosuku, okulingana namanga angu-42 ngesonto nangu-2184 amanga ngonyaka.

Kulo mongo, sikuqaphele ku-Ana Salwa namuhla amanga avame kakhulu umuntu asebenzelana nawo ekuphileni kwakhe kwansuku zonke, futhi yiziphi izizathu zalawa manga.

I-XNUMX- "Ngithande ukugunda izinwele zakho ezintsha, ubukeka kahle, sithandwa sami." Ngisho noma indaba ingekho ekunambithekeni kwendoda, ukhetha ukuqamba amanga kowesifazane, ukuze angabangeli umfula wezinyembezi nokuzisola ngeze.

XNUMX- "Ngizosebenza amahora engeziwe sthandwa sami, futhi ngingase ngiphuze ukuya ekhaya": Ngenxa yokuthi owesifazane uvame ukucasuka umyeni wakhe lapho ehamba yedwa nabangane bakhe, ngezinye izikhathi kufanele aqambe amanga "amhlophe" ukuze alondoloze. ubungane bakhe bakudala.

XNUMX- "Ungakhathazeki, sithandwa sami, ngiyakwazi ukuyilungisa le nto." Umusho osetshenziswa umyeni ukuze avikele ukuziqhenya kwakhe futhi angazizwa ebuthakathaka noma engazi phambi komkakhe. Ugcina isimo sokufuna ulwazi kuze kube yilapho kubizwe enye indoda ukuthi izolungisa amaholidi ngesizathu sokuthi imatasa noma ikhathele.

XNUMX- “Ungizwise ubuhlungu!! Ungayethemba kanjani indoda yesithandwa sakho?!”: Umusho ovame ukusetshenziswa indoda enenkohliso ukuze ibalekele izinsolo zomfazi futhi imenze azizwe enecala ngokumbeka icala lokukhaphela noma ukuqamba amanga.

XNUMX- “Kuyiqiniso ukuthi umakhelwane wethu ungowesifazane omuhle ngendlela emangalisayo, kodwa amehlo ami abona wena wedwa, impilo yami.” Njengoba owesifazane engakwazi ukuxolela umyeni wakhe ebabaza ubuhle bomunye umfazi, uphoqeleka ukuba aqambe amanga ukuze enelise ubuze bakhe. .

XNUMX- “Angazi ukuthi ubani lo wesifazane olokhu engibiza futhi engiphazamisa”: kodwa-ke wazi kahle ukuthi ubani lo muntu “ocasulayo.” Kuyahlekisa ukuthi la manga akhohlisa abesifazane abaningi!!

I-XNUMX- "Sithandwa sami, ngimatasa kakhulu futhi ngizokushayela maduze": Umusho odume kakhulu umyeni angawusebenzisa ukuze aqedele ucingo lwakhe oluvamile lomsebenzi.

XNUMX- “Ayikho into ebalulekile.. Besikhuluma nje”: Amanga amhlophe ahlanganisa uhlobo oluthile lonya umyeni alutshela umkakhe, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa engxoxweni eyenzeka nomama wakhe ocingweni noma kwenye. phambi kwamehlo akhe nomngane noma asebenza naye, kodwa kude nokuzwa kwakhe.

XNUMX - “O Nkulunkulu, yeka indlela obukeka kahle ngayo..ingubo yakho kanye nezimonyo..futhi awudingi lutho”: umusho umyeni awuphindayo ukuze asheshise isikhathi sokuphuma, ikakhulukazi njengoba abesifazane bechitha isikhathi eside phambi kwesibuko.

XNUMX- “Yebo, ngikhuluma iqiniso”: Ngenxa yokuthi abesifazane bavame ukubuza iqiniso futhi bahlale benqaba ukuzwa, indoda ingase iphoqeleke ukuba iqambe amanga ngokukhuluma iqiniso ngenxa yokuhlonipha imizwa yayo.

Uxolo, besingaqondile ukuthi ngalo mbiko sisole indoda ngokuqamba amanga kuphela. Uma ukuqamba amanga “kuwusawoti” wamadoda, kuphinde kube “ushukela” wabesifazane. Ngakho-ke, kungacatshangwa ukuthi kutholwe futhi kunqunywa indawo ezungezile nezimo ndawonye kanye nohlobo lobudlelwano obubopha abalingani ababili, hhayi nje umuzwa wemvelo womuntu.