Umqinisekisa kanjani umyeni wakho ngombono wakho futhi umzuze?

Salwa Azzam2020-06-27Isibuyekezo sokugcina: 2020-06-27

Umqinisekisa kanjani umyeni wakho ngombono wakho...Mhlawumbe ukukholisa umyeni kungenye yezinto ezinzima kakhulu amanye amakhosikazi abhekana nazo, hhayi ngoba umbono wakhe ungalungile, kodwa lokho kulele endleleni abeka ngayo umbono futhi indlela aphathana ngayo nomyeni wakhe.Ukuncenga ngokuxabana, ukukhononda, ukuklabalasa nokukhipha izinyembezi akusizi, futhi kungafaka nophethiloli emlilweni futhi kuguqule umehluko ekungaqondini nje kube inkinga eyinkimbinkimbi.

Umqinisekisa kanjani umyeni wakho ngombono wakho odabeni futhi umzuze ohlangothini lwakho?

Khetha indawo ethulile lapho nihlala khona nomyeni wakho ukuze nikhulume ndawonye kude neziphazamiso nazo zonke izinhlobo zeziphazamiso.
Ngaphambi kokuba ukhulume nomyeni wakho nganoma yini, mbuze ukuthi isikhathi sakhe siyilungele yini. Uma ebonakala ecasukile noma engathandi ukukhuluma, hlonipha isifiso sakhe futhi umbuze ngesinye isikhathi eningakhuluma ngaso.
Ungahlali phambi komyeni wakho, kodwa eceleni kwakhe, njengoba ukuhlala eduze komuntu kumnika induduzo futhi kunikeza indawo evulekile ukuze uqale ukukhuluma futhi uphumule naye, ngokungafani nokuhlala ubheke futhi ubheke emehlweni.
Veza imicabango nemibono yakho ngokuqondile futhi ngaphandle kokusonta noma ukuphenduka ukuze ungalahlekelwa isithakazelo nokunaka komyeni wakho.
Gxila ngangokunokwenzeka emaphuzwini amahle omagazini ngamunye futhi ushiye amaphuzu angalungile ngezinye izikhathi.
Gwema izingcwabo kanye nokukhononda phambi umyeni wakhoLe ndlela yokusebenzelana iyayicasula indoda futhi iyiphushe ukuthi ingavumeli imibono nezimfuno zakho.
Qiniseka ukuthi uyayilalela impendulo yomyeni wakho nalokho akushoyo, njengoba ayejwayele ukwenza kuwe. Ukupha nokuphendula ngenhlonipho kuyiphuzu elibalulekile lokufinyelela ukuqonda nokukwazi ukuncenga.
Hlonipha umyeni wakho ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi kuye "ngicela" futhi uziphathe kahle naye, ukuze izimfuno nemibono yakho ingabi umthombo wokubusa nokucasula.
Yebo, konke lokhu ukunezela ezindleleni ezimnene zokumnxenxa, njengokumnika ukudla okuthandayo nokuthandwayo enhliziyweni yakhe, noma ukuvusa uthando nemizwa yakhe ngawe ngokugona nokuthinta ngobuqotho.