Ungaba kanjani isikhulumi esihle

Abantu bayahlukahluka ngamakhono namakhono abo lapho besebenzelana nabanye, ngakho-ke abanye bayahluka endleleni yokubabungaza noma ukubaphatha futhi bathonye abantu futhi bazuze uthando lwabo futhi babahehe kalula Amakhono okuxoxa Sivame ukuhlangana nabantu esithandana nabo ngemva umhlangano wokuqala, kanye nabantu ingxoxo yethu ephetha ngabo ngokuzonda noma ukungakhululeki nokungafuni ukuphinde sihlangane nabo.Imibono yokuqala ibaluleke kakhulu kunalokho esikucabangayo futhi uma sekuhlonziwe, kunzima kakhulu ukuyilungisa ngakho-ke masigweme ukwesaba ukwakheka. okuvelayo Okokuqala, ngendlela engalungile, ngokulandela lezi zimfihlo:

• Elinye lamacebiso abaluleke kakhulu esiwanikezwa ngaphambi kwenhlolokhono (umuntu omusha, inhlolokhono yomsebenzi...) ithi “yiba nguwe” noma “yibe ngokwakho.” Eqinisweni, lesi seluleko asisihle, asiqondile. ukuthi kufanele ulingise noma uzenzise, ​​kodwa ungakwazi yini ukwenza ngendlela ozalwa ngayo Noma ukuba nguwe ngesikhathi senhlolokhono, noma lapho uhlangana nomuntu ongakaze umbone ngaphambili?

Uma ungumuntu oyikho, lokhu kusho ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi uziphathe ngendlela eguquguqukayo noma uhlale lapho uhlezi endlini yakho ungabheki amazwi akho noma indlela obukeka ngayo, kuyokujabulisa kakhulu.

• Gxilisa ukunaka kwakho emaphuzwini afanayo: sihlala sithambekele kubantu abafana nabo ezicini eziningi (indlela yokukhetha amagama athile, ezintweni ezithakaselwayo, ezifundweni, ezizindeni zomphakathi...) sigxile ezicini ezifanayo phakathi kwakho no. isikhulumi sakho senza ingxoxo ijabulise futhi iqhubeke futhi sikwenza ube namandla okulawula lokho okushoyo komunye umuntu.
• Gwema ukuthopha futhi unikeze izincomo ngokwethembeka: Ukuncoma okuqotho kungenye yezinto ezithandwa kakhulu enhliziyweni yomuntu, ngokungafani nokuncoma okuthophayo okugqamisa isisusa sangasese sokuthopha, yenza abantu bazizwe bejabule ngawe, sebenzisa amagama athandekayo futhi ukhulume nesikhulumi sakho. ngegama, ingenye yezincomo ezinhle kakhulu.
• Yiba yisilaleli esihle futhi ucabange ngalokho ongakusho ngemva kokulalela: yeka abanye bakhulume ngezinto abazithandayo futhi ujabule nabo ngoba bayojabula kakhulu futhi bakhululeke lapho bekhuluma ngalokho abakuthandayo futhi ikhono lakho lilele ekuphenduleni kwakho okwakhayo kanye nomdlandla. nomunye umuntu.

Impendulo yakho eyakhayo isesithakaseleni sakho esiqotho kulokho akushoyo kanye nokusebenzisana kwakho nokuqhubeka nokubukana emehlweni nokumamatheka nokubuza imibuzo ethile ngesihloko akutshela ngaso.

Ngokuqondene nempendulo yakho engalungile, ibonakala ekukhulumisaneni okuncane ngamazwi kanye namagama afinyeziwe ngaphandle kokubonisa imizwa eyakhayo

• Gcina ukuqhubeka kwengxoxo: Gwema ukuzimela futhi ungagcini engxoxweni, kodwa yabelana ngayo bese uphinda imibono ethulwayo.

Ungathatheki ekubuyekezeni umlando wakho phambi komkhulumeli wakho, futhi uma kudingekile ukwenza kanjalo, sho izimpumelelo zakho ukuze usize ingxoxo.